My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost six months and over a week ago, he told me he needed a break. He hasn't called or contacted me since. I don't understand that if he loved me so much, like he say he do, then how is it so easy for him to not contact me at all. I don't know what I should do. I miss him so much, but he's not responding to my e-mails, or phone calls. I never saw this coming. Yes we had our ups and downs just like any relationship, but I never saw a break up coming
2007-10-29 14:13:27 · 14 answers · asked by tink24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my experience... it either means that he wants to date someone else - or he really needs time to himself and wants to break up but doesn't want to hurt your feelings too badly. It's a nice way to break up. I dont know too many people who get back together after a "break" Feel better sweetie - I know your heart is broken, but it will feel better with time.....
2007-10-29 14:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by wfhlembo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who work for General motors or other businesses get a break; it is called a vacation. However, in a relationship, a couple go on vacation together and don't ask for a break from the person they claim to love. Your so-called boyfriend is a moral coward who does not have the guts to simply tell you he wants out of the romance. It does not matter if he has a new gal or not , the end result is the same---he wants out.His refusal to respond to your emails or phone calls or to make a formal contact is the proof and it is his cowardly way to tell you of his decision.While I sympathize with the pain, despair, and confusion that you must currently feel, Please don't waste any more tears or time on this person. Although six months may sound like a long time, it is a short time to find out that you do not need to invest any more time on this guy and/or romance. Believe me when I tell you that as soon as the sharp pain becomes a dull ache, you will be the ultimate winner. Let us know how you are doing and I wish you all the best.Good luck.
2007-10-29 14:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well my boyfriend months ago said the same thing. But to him a break is just time for him to think about things...pretty much time to his self but it doesn't mean he wants to break up fully. The reason my man wanted this break was beacause when I was visiting him I looked in a jornal I wasn't spose to...but that's becides the point. It ended up I freaked out on him and so in the end we broke up but about a month later I saw him again (we're long distance and I wanted to say bye in person) and he acted as if I was still with him and he was on his knees wanting me back (I am with him to this day). My point is that a break doesn't always mean it's over for good but if you concentrate on other things and stop contacting him less than he might come chaseing after you as of what happend to me. But if not......try your best to move on...sadly guys make no sense : /.
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2007-10-29 14:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by Simplicity ♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it simply means he wants some excitement, and maybe you are too clingy on hime, that he feels suffocated and not able to do what he wants. I think also he already wants something or somebody more. I suggest you do likewise. He wants a break-up, and decided to say the next easy thing, a cool-off. Better not have high hopes, seems like he doesn't want to come back.
2007-10-29 14:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by Krizia ^_^ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone, especially when younger (teens and twenties), can feel suffocated by a close relationship that seems to be getting too dependant. A break can just be that, a pause. Or, it can be a sign that they cannot handle commitment. You can ride this out, or kill it for sure by making a huge deal over it. Just be calm, and see what happens. Maybe he just needs some distance for a bit, to sort out his feelings.
2007-10-29 14:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by TNguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although you guys have shared ups and downs for six months ...
it's time for you to move on or maybe there could be a different circumstance. But most likely he wanted to break up with you and just doesn't have the courage to do so.
2007-10-29 14:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to say this. but you're taking the break up thing WAYY too far..
when he's saying he needs a break. that means he wants you to back off. and leave him alone! so do that!
so what if you miss him! it doesn't mean he misses you back.. it's he's choice.. if he wants you back.. he'll come to you. just.. stop emailing, stop calling him, and forget him for a while!
2007-10-29 14:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over.
I know, that is not the answer you were hoping for...but realistically, a person who "needs a break" is not that into you. Also, a long term relationship with such a person would be hell, you never know when he'll need his little "break."
2007-10-29 14:24:19 · answer #8 · answered by greengo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he wants to see other people.. Sorry I know that is not what you want to hear.. but I would go hang out with your girlfriends and forget him.. and maybe even talk to some other guys to get your mind off of him.. If he wants to be a d*#khead let him be.. you don't deserve that kind of crap, no one does actually.. so I would just show him it isn't phasing you (even if it really is) don't show him that. :] Goodluck.
2007-10-29 14:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend just needs to be alone. when a guy says he needs a break, then give it to me. let him call you. don't call him or he's just really going to just break up. so just don't bother him. i've been through that. its better to just not call him
2007-10-29 14:35:57 · answer #10 · answered by lady hiphop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋