What do you think about this ? Serious answers only?

Question

One of my co-workers asked me the other day why I didn't have a boyfriend and I replied that I was waiting on God to send me someone, the bible says a man that FINDS a wife finds a good thing. She replied to this by saying God is not going to ship you a man. What do you think about this give me your opinion.

I didn't say that I wasn't in social situations where single men are because I am, I would really like to see an answer from a Pastors point of view

Just wondered if some of you do not believe that there is a God then why are you even answering or even looking at questions about religion and God but anyway thanks for the answers

Just wondered if some of you do not believe that there is a God then why are you even answering or even looking at questions about religion and God but anyway thanks for the answers

For those of you that misunderstood when i said I would like to hear from a Pastor, I know they are human, but they called to teach the world therefore to me that means that God has equipped them to dissect and simplify his word. Sorry if this one offends anyone or they don't understand my meaning behind it I am not puting Pastors on a golden pedastal however i do respect the anointing

Answer 1

I think you are right. Women are not suppose to be doing the looking. When men do come to you, remember to take your time and make sure they are the real deal.

God Bless you, for standing up the way a woman should for what the Bible says. Many of us, including myself did not have this wisdom. I know God is smiling on you!

Answer 2

I think you are doing the right thing. If you carry yourself
in a respectable intelligent fashion with good morals, guys
will respect you. In return you will always have respect
for yourself. I agree that you have to socialize but that
doesn't mean soliciting yourself in the wrong settings.
You need to find a man with your own virtues and yes
they are out there. Be careful and don't let anyone rush
you! I'm not a pastor, but you are an adult and I assume
you can read the bible and think for yourself without letting
someone else make all your decisions. Pastors are human
just like us, they don't have divine intervention>

Answer 3

Trust God.
I have a friend that did the same thing as you. Before she knew Jesus, she dated alot but lets just say didnt have good luck with men. When she came to the Lord, she made and agreement with Him to wait for Him to give her her husband. She waited many years and people told her she was crazy for not dating (She's really pretty and could have gotten anyone, but she waited). Anyway, this year God honored her faithfulness. He brought her the perfect man for her. He is on fire for God and, a great and awesome guy altogether, and everything she ever wanted. They fell in love right away, are so happy, and are about to get married in a few weeks. God is so faithful and they couldn't be happier. Trusting and waiting on the Lord is always the best thing you can do, and don't let anyone tell you differently.

Answer 4

Well I think God helps those that help themselves. You can't rely solely on God to bring a man into your life. I think you should pray that he put the right guy in your path or if you are interested in someone maybe praying that he is the one that God wants you to be with. I know that when I met my husband it was during a transitional time in my life and it was like after all the clean up there was this wonderful man right there waiting and I think it was in God's plan. But I didn't wait for God to do all the work.

Answer 5

You are both right, but consider how God ordinarily works in our lives. God will provide as you actively seek. Be smart about it, be active in prayer and discern God's will as you meet men. God provided a loving wife for me because I was open to God's will for my life. It still took work on my part. Some of that was asking different women out! Find someone who is at a similar level in their walk with God. God bless you!

Answer 6

Yeah, listen to her.

A man isn't going to knock on your front door with roses and a diamond ring saying "Whew, I'm glad I finally found you!" Back when people wrote the bible, women were property and they were given away to whatever man offered the most attractive stuff (money, donkeys, whatever) to the girl's family. Either that, or people were promised to each other when they were babies.

You have to go out and be social and flirt and be attractive too. I hate that "Why don't you have a boyfriend" question anyway because it implies that every woman should just take whatever ya-hoo she can get, but anyways...

Answer 7

Keep your thoughts on this...the best things happen when you are not looking. God will send the right man to you at the right time in your life. Enjoy your girl friends and their companionship for now. You will look back later and see this was the best time of your life having no ties that bind.

Answer 8

Don't listen to them. God has a man in his plan for you. I am not saying don't date or keep your mind open but, don't just jump into a relationship because he is cute or sexy. The world is full of those guys. Wait. I think it is great that you want to wait until you find a guy you feel God sent to you!

Answer 9

I think your co-worker is entirely correct. If you want a boyfriend or husband, you should be proactive and seek one.

Look at it this way--Would God want you to just live your life and wait for Him to come to you, or does God want you to actively seek Him?

I'd think the same would be true of finding a boyfriend or husband. Be active. Assert yourself in this matter. It's too important to leave to mere chance.

Answer 10

Some times God wants us to step out in faith. In this case, I don't like your co-workers sarcastic answer, but....I don't think God will send you a husband. You must do part of the finding yourself. Be careful of trying to hunt down a good man as well. Bottom line: when you are ready, accept dates from men of higher standards, and integrity, and keep your values, too. I believe you will find or be found some one you can be equally yoked with.