Help parties and drinking?

Question

okay so im now in grade 9 in high school and people are starting to ask me to come to parties. i know there is going to be alcohol there but i dont want to be involved with it at all. so much bad things have been caused in my family from alcohol. but i want to be able to go to parties and have fun and not have to deal with it or worry about it.. what should i do

Answer 1

go to parties w/o them or ask before you go.
or
you could show up and if you see alcohol then just leave

Answer 2

If it is in your family history, DON'T. Just stay away from any parties where you know alcohol will be. Choose your friends wisely. And I do agree with one of the comments. If you do decide to go to one of those parties, take your own soda, or waterbottle, and keep it close to you with the lid on, cause there are some ornery boys and girls out there that can't stand it because you don't drink!! This is the time in your life, at your age, to begin making your own mature decisions! Never "allow" peer pressure! That is the word: "Allow". Set your boundries, and just say no thankyou, I can have fun at this party without drinking. And stand your ground. As they get older, they will more than likely become alcoholics and end up with a life of misery because of it. Believe me hun, been there done that, and you do not want that. You are still a kid, and a young adult in training. As you get older, and watch them, you will see you made a very adult decision to just say NO! You will keep your dignity by staying sober. Your self-esteem will stay intact.

Answer 3

This is a very easy one to answer. Ask the person inviting you if there are any non-alcoholic drinks being served..Coke, Juice..etc. It sounds like you're a very responsible person..Cudos to you! If you go, make sure you watch your drink being poured and keep it with you at all times..don't take your eyes off the drink. Someone may spike it or worse, put date rape drugs in it. *believe me, it's very common so it's better to be safe than sorry* Don't even leave it with a freind in case his/her back is turned. Other than that, go and enjoy yourself. Make sure you have reliable transportation back home i.e. have money for a cab or call your parents for the ride home. Try not to rely on friends because you don't know if they'll end up drunk. Do not accept a ride from anyone who has been drinking! Have fun!

Answer 4

You are a smart person. Your instincts are right on...continue trusting them. Keep searching there are a few left just like you that are smart and want to live a clean life and be responsible....hold out till you do. My daughter is in her first year of college and today told me that her 2 roomates went to a party and had "tried" some liquor because everyone else was. She also said she stayed in her dorm and watched videos cause she wanted no part of it. cause she knew there would be booze. My other daughter on the otherhand has already experimented with alcohol and marijuana. I've learned that some people must learn the hard way...through the school of hard knocks...others are wiser and don't have to get burnt to know the fire is hot. Stay strong and keep searching for friendships with people that have your same level of morals and principles they are out there.

Answer 5

You can still go, but just don't drink. You know that it's not something that you want to get involved in, so you definitely don't have to. I would suggest bringing your own drinks with you, like a bottle of water or some sodas. This way, you'll have something non-alcoholic to drink and will be less likely to try the alcohol.

Answer 6

Go trial your first party out before going inform your friends you will not be drinking tell your best friend why if she doesn't already know so that way you have peer support incase people try to peer pressure you and if you have good friends you should be fine other wise if things gets out of hand while at the party ring your mum or dad and let them know whats going on at least that way they know they can trust you to call them if something is not going right and they should see you as more mature minded for doin soo...

Answer 7

I get this from Gr 9's and people who have never touched it at 23. Go out, have a good time. If you don't feel comfortable drinking, DON'T! There is a serious problem that people think the have to get pissed drunk to have a good time. This is not the case.

It is something new and different however, and you have to respect it. Some people don't, and suffer because of it.

Have fun, try new things, IT WON'T KILL YOU! (Driving drunk might, stupidest thing you can do.)

Answer 8

Seriously reconsider your social circle. Grade 9, and they are already having drinking parties? You may need new friends. But if you feel so inclined to go to a party, just say no when offered alcohol.

Answer 9

I would not even go to the parties. Eventually, you'll be peer pressured into drinking, someone will "spike" your non-alcoholic beverage, or something bad will happen as a result of someone else's drinking. Stay at home, stay focused. New, "wiser-decision-making" friends will come along soon enough. You're a good kid.

Answer 10

go to the party and have fun!! if your worry is the alcohol itself so avoid it instead there is a tea maybe.and If somebody offer you an alcohol so it is simply to say "I don't drink an alcohol" thanks....parties are a lot of fun ......and your the one that can decide rather you drink an alcohol or not .

Answer 11

I don't blame you.
If you go to the parties you don't have to drink... but you do need to keep a close watch on your soda so it doesn't get spiked with something really awful.
Make sure you go with someone you actually know who can watch your back.
One other thing... if everyone else is drinking, they will become messed-up idiots and may barf on your shoes.

I have always been the "designated driver"... basically I get to remind people of how stupid they got while they were drunk.