I'm 13 years old and not bad looking (in my opinion), why don't i have a boyfriend/ someone who has a crush on me?
2007-10-29 13:13:38 · 7 answers · asked by lollipop33456 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust me, there are plenty of guys who have a crush on you but are just too shy to make a move. You'll find out a lot about who used to have a crush on you once you get older, and you'll laugh to think how you liked them too but both of you were too scared to let each other know.
The best thing you can do is just develop an open, friendly, and caring personality. If you are just really nice to guys they will realize you aren't going to slam them down and they will get the nerve to ask you.
At your age, guys are frightened that the pretty girls couldn't POSSIBLY like them, and they are afraid to make a move on the chance that any rejection will only confirm their worst fears.
Just be nice. And you'll be surprised how much guys respond to that.
Also touch their arms. I don't know why, but my husband insists that, at that age, guys go insane when girls actually TOUCH them, even just brushing their arm. It's almost like you offered to marry them!
2007-10-29 13:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you may feel alone but there's no rush to be in a relationship!
I'm 21. I recently got out of a 3 year relationship and to be honest, couldn't be happier. It mightn't feel like it but you have a long time ahead of you yet - so don't stress!
Looks are nice, but if you want to attract a guy...some of the best things you can do are to be happy being single. Sounds silly, doesn't it? Thing is...we guys can often "detect" when a girl wants a boyfriend. If we feel a girl just wants a boyfriend - we feel a bit rejected - that is, that we think she wants us just to be that - not for us ourselves.
The things guys like are confidence. You're on the right track in being confident about your looks - now, be confident about your real selling points! If you have a sense of humour - maximise it! We love humour. Everyone does!
If you're smart and quick - make the most of it. Believe me. Some people don't like brains - but guess what? They're the ones without one. At my age, a girl with brains is a lot more attractive than one without one. I'm not saying you have to do calculus during your lunch time or read classical literature - but if you are smart...don't dumb yourself down for guys. You'll just feel fake.
But I think the most important thing is to just be happy. Be happy with what you've got and you'll find that in time, that's the best way to get a boyfriend! Seriously...we guys love more than anything, a happy girl. A girl who loves life! So enjoy the fact that you're alive, free and walking on two legs :-) have fun with your friends and take the opportunity to go up to guys and just chat to them! Even just a passing smile, a "hey, how's things?" or whatever does wonders - it shows you're interested and fun - but you're not hanging off them. And if a guy seems disinterested - don't stress or obsess over it. That's a major turn off...
Basically, if you are happy with who you are and what you've got, you'll find it ten times easier to meet a guy who's right for you. And if you don't for a while...don't stress! You're only 13 :-) I'm 21 and I'm not stressed!
Plus, think of new places to meet boys. School is the obvious one - but everyone does that. Be unique. If a guy is walking down the street or in a shop or anything - why should he be any different? Go up and say hi. Even make up some excuse like "you look like someone I know" - something like that to break the ice! Believe me, he'll really dig it if you just approach him like that!
You can meet people anywhere. I'm seeing a girl casually at the moment for the odd lunch date. Know how I met her? Not in a bar. Not online. Not at a dating setup. I met her because I work part time in the evenings as a pizza guy and I took pizza to her house one night. We got chatting - and when I left, I left my number and invited her to call me. She didn't care how we met - even if it wasnt the "usual" way!
Good luck with it!
2007-10-29 20:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by Bert from Oz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're 13 and people probably HAVE had a crush on you but you're 13!
Boys like girls with a sense of humor
2007-10-29 20:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by Corvus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personalitly thats just me Personality and a body thats it
2007-10-29 20:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attraction is more than outer beauty. There's spirit, wit, personality,
2007-10-29 20:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by MoonDoggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys probably do like jus not confident to tell you, hell ur 13 go find a guy!
2007-10-29 20:19:31 · answer #6 · answered by Ray C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personality,nice figure,friendly,understanding if you have all of this then you will be the envy of boys
2007-10-29 20:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋