its been almost a month since gf and i had sex, last time it wasnt easy for me to be excited for some reason,now gf seems to not be interested in sex, even if i try to get her turned on, how can i show her im the same as i was all the other times when we enjoyed sex and i didnt have this problem.
2007-10-29 12:16:59 · 5 answers · asked by billy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She feels rejected. See women make this into something that logically they know isn't true. You weren't into sex but you would have been if (insert your ex girlfriends name here) was in bed with you. Bet you would have been turned on for her.
Then it goes on to, you don't find her sexy. She's overweight. It's b/c her thighs are big or her feet are ugly. But what it all comes down to is rejection. The last time she was rejected by you. So she has decided that next time he has to come to me.
For women sex is an all day thing. Men think that the lights go off and they try to seduce but to her she is probably still thinking about the fact that you did something that morning. Call her during the day. Cook dinner. Take out the trash. Run her a bath in the tub. But by the time you go to dinner if she's mad that you were late, you didn't take out the trash, she had to repeat herself 5 times when you were watching the game--she's already upset and turned off by then.
It's the little things throughout the day.
2007-11-01 05:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her!!!! find out why, try to figure out why you weren't that into it. her answers maybe hurtful, but stay calm, if you want to fix it listen & try to be understanding, work it out together. write it down if you are uncomfy chatting face to face, or by ph or txt or email (i know some people don't agree with those means of comm, but what ever works i say, esp if it keeps you together & communication channels open)
sometimes i'm not always in the mood or 100% excited about sex but i still do it because i want to & i know & notice the difference when my hubby is in the same boat, these things happen sometimes, we can't be 100% 24/7
good luck, give her some tlc too make sure she knows that you love her.
2007-10-29 15:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by chinadoll 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Communication - thats the key
2007-11-05 05:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by TTC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe theres other issues going on with her....
or you could of possibly bruised her ego. Treat her as you did when you first wanted to hook-up with her...you know pay extra attention to her...make her feel special ...important...
make her feel wanted. Send her some flowers or something just because...
2007-10-29 12:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by C 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She is cheating, you need to find someone else.
2007-10-29 12:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋