my uncle pulled out a knife at me and i called the cops on him?

Question

this happened a week ago. they assigned a detective to the case and he hadn't contacted me until today. They arrested him this morning. Now my whole family is against me. I believe I did no wrong. I was only defending myself. Anyway, my mom just called me telling me i better take him out of jail, but what can I do??? Can I do something about it or is it too late? The charges were for assult with deadly weapon. I dont feel bad for him but I really do feel pressured. My grandma (my uncles mom) is always saying she's sick and my aunt called telling me that if she dies it will be my fault. What Can I do, i was only defending myself!! Can I do something about it or is it too late? thanks

yeah my mom is on my side, so she says... but i dont believe her, she says to do it for her (drop the charges) also my sister is with me. she knows how crazy my uncle is. he's done things like this before. my family knows it but they over protect him soooo much....

he's a drunk AND a drug addict. i've lived with him my whole life... its sad

Answer 1

This is going to be one of the toughest things you may have to face in your life. DO NOT back down. If you don't do anything, it will happen again! From what you have described, your family has already chosen who they want to protect. Your Aunt is using emotional blackmail against you and your Mom I'm sorry to say, is siding with your Uncle.

You can and have done something about it. If anything, it will make your family come to realize that they have been wrong in protecting your Uncle over and over. Stay strong, but if anything, you need to get out of that enviroment, NOW! or you will get hurt!

Answer 2

Sweetie I know how hard it is for people to be against you for doing the right thing, but he was wrong. Pulling a knife on someone even your family is not right period unless they are attacking you. You cannot do anything at the moment, you can of course drop the charges, but what good will that do, there will still be animosity and your uncle sounds off so who knows the next time he might take it further and use the knife! How nasty will they be when your gone..hmmm....no, I would recommend not dropping the charges. It wont be your fault if your grandmom dies she is prob. more stressed from a crazed out son. Is there anyone on your side in your family that you can live with as your mom seems a bit unstable as well, I'm a mom and I would not let my brother ever pull a knife on my kids! Seriously seek help to get away from them, before something happens to you.

Answer 3

Is your uncle mentally ill? Is he a drunk? If he is ill I would work out a compromise where he checks into a hospital and gets his meds reevaluated in exchange for dropping the charges. If he's a drunk the best thing you can do for him is let him sit in jail. If he drew a knife on you in anger (and not just as a inappropriate joke) then you had every right to call the cops. If your family can't understand that they are enabling your uncle's dangerous behavior then you are better off distancing yourself from them. If your Grandmother did happen to pass right now due to stress it would be your Uncle's fault and none else's.

Answer 4

You were absolutely correct in calling the police. The fact that your uncle brandished a knife as a weapon towards you means he's got mental instabilities that need to be addressed before he actually DOES kill someone, instead of just threatening him.

Tell your family to fook off. What would they have done had he used it on you? Said "oh... poor uncle ralph, he's got such a hard life that he just snapped" as they look down on you in a coffin.

Do NOT let ANYONE pressure you into dropping the charges. You are within your rights and should not back down.

Good luck hun.

Answer 5

Your family has all wrong priorities; do not let yourself be pressured or guilted into taking anything back or getting him out. Telling you that grandma will die because of this is just flat out manipulation. It's hard to understand why they don't care much about you. However if you still live at home, you are in a difficult situation. Consider contacting child protective services in your area and telling them the situation, or even contact the detective and ask him what you can do to protect yourself.

Answer 6

Getting him out of jail is not your choice. If the family wants him out - they can set bail.

Personally, If I was you - I'd look into a restraining order so he has to stay away from you.

Regarding the charges and the pressure you are getting - talk to the detective or the prosecutor. Be honest with them about what you are going through. See what their take is on it and if they have any insight. Sometimes it's the state that presses charges and not you - so the choice may not be yours.

If your relative dies - it is not your fault. That is ridiculous.

Answer 7

I'm always amazed at the crap people put up with when a family member abuses them. I know this one lady and her daughter grabbed her by the throat and puhed her down. But of course she wouldn't call the police. If i had done the this to her I'd be in jail now..

You did the right thing by calling the police.

Answer 8

You did the right thing. I would go get a protective order against him. And if your grandma passes on it's not your fault it was Gods will for her to go. I would try it just lay low for a while and let your family calm down. If they still want to make a big fuss over it cut your ties and move on with your life.

Answer 9

I can't believe your family doesn't back you on this. You were all right and your uncle was all wrong in his actions--he threatened you with a deadly weapon. That's reprehensible enough in my book for arrest.

You were defending yourself. If your uncle comes out of jail, you may be in danger again. Do seek professional advice for your situation. Good luck. Stay safe.

Answer 10

Definately stick to what you have done. The punishment will only help him get better, because he obviously has a problem. Maybe they will get him some psychological help, which will only benefit him and the family in the long run. I can understand how it feels to have to family pressuring you, because to them, family is family, no matter what, right? Wrong. He has a problem, and you should NOT be a victim of his issues. Your family will eventually come to understand. you did NOTHING wrong. Good job in protecting yourself, AND your family.