I was at my house with my girlfriend and my mom and dad were out, and we were just watching TV on the couch and then my dad got home he made my girlfriend leave. Then when she was out the house he turned on me and hit me in the chest. I had fallen to the floor because he hit me really hard, then he grabbed my left rist really hard as I tried to get up stairs. I tried to fend him off and tried to get out of his grip and he just punched me really hard and I fell on the stairs and hit my head on the banister.
He yelled at me not to bring a girl back, even though we hadn't done anything.
I have a brother who is a bit of a delinquent and when he was my age my dad found a girl half naked in his room while he was in the bathroom. He did the same to my brother, I was only 10 when it happened.
My older sister started to yell at him for hitting me and he almost got violent with her.
I haven't seen my dad like this, and I had to tell my mum bullies had caused the bruises.
HELP!!
2007-10-29 11:44:29 · 50 answers · asked by Lee P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all you need to tell your mom the truth and if she doesn't do anything you have to call the police.
2007-10-29 11:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by xzorion54 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I agree that your dad was waaaayyy over the line.
Yes, you need to tell your mother what is going on.
Communication in advance would have been a far better approach. If people outside the family (girls in particular) are not allowed in the house while the parents are gone, that should be spelled out.
If you and your friend were in the living room - - a common open area of the house - - that shows your intent was clean.
If that was not going to be allowed, you two could have gone to someone else's house to watch TV or play video games.
Your dad is probably really concerned about the possibility of having to pay for child support to some little princess because one of his sons had gotten on her. These days, the courts are holding parents responsible for their childrens' misdeeds.
2007-10-29 12:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to let your mom know what happened so you and your parents can discuss what happened.
Second of all if you know your dad got upset with your brother for having a girl in the house ..why would you have done the same? Your dad is completely wrong in what he did to you and handled the situation all wrong. Maybe next time before you bring a girl over you should ask permission.
2007-10-29 11:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is old fashioned. He probably found that brig in a girl to his house with out him knowing was disrespectful and probably he was thinking that you were doing more that just watching TV. Parents like yours are hard to make them understand even if you didn't do nothing at all. You have to understand that he was raise that way. Also I think that if he was understanding enough he will remember that he was 14 years old too and that he probably did the same mistakes. Unfortunately for you that didn't happened. The only thing you could do is to tell your mother about this and sit down with your dad and express your feelings about what happened. If you feel that that didn't help at all I suggest you go to a professional and tell about your experience. I hope this will help you in good ways.
2007-10-29 13:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by melgr_pr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't have done that. I would call the police or child welfare on him for the abuse that he had done to you and your siblings. I would get your mom alone maybe even with your siblings to tell her what had happened and then, maybe she will be able to help you. That has happened in my house and I called the cops on my dad for what he done. If that had ever happened with my kids and they came and talked with me I would leave and never come back, because I won't take someone abusing my kids. Go to your mom with your brother and sister and tell her what is going and hopfully she will do the right thing for you three and get you out of the house before something seriously happens. Good luck and I hope that everything will go better for you and your siblings.
2007-10-29 11:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry what happened, and i'm sorry about your pain physically and mentally. you probably love your dad because of the memories you have with him..so you wouldn't want to call the police. you wouldn't want to tell your mom because you don't want her to stress and woryr about this. you're in a tight situation where you don't know what to do right? honestly i really don't know, because i don't know waht's realy best for you. it all depends what you think. will you be patient with your dad and wait? will you call the police because you can't stand how ur dad is abusing you? will you put another load on ur mom? will you just live and ignore? This is what you think is best for you. i do not know your situation, so i cannot help you.. but it's probably the kind of trust your dad lost from your brother, how ur brother was with a naked girl. your dad might be scared taht you will become lyk ur brother and make the same mistake. but it was wrong for him to respond in such a violent way. Do about what you think is right, but you should ask your sister for advice if she does help and encourage you.
Try praying to God..maybe you'll feel supported or you'll be blessed.
2007-10-29 11:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by Joan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom as soon as possible. If she doesn't believe you, get your sister to be your witness. If your mom doesn't believe you, work with your sister. Tell a counselor at school. But you should really work with your mom if possible and if she isn't going to support you, work with your sister but you need to really let some other people know about this. It is child abuse and that is illegal. You should have told your mom the truth in the first place, because depending on how your mom is - she may not believe the 2nd story. But seriously... get your mom or sisters support!
2007-10-29 11:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First , go to a friend or neighbors house and call the police .
Do not be afraid to tell them what has happened . Be honest with them and tell them everything . Let them handle the situation . I know this is hard to do , but a similar thing happened to me with my step mom . If you don't take care of this now , the problem is only likely to get worse ... Don't let this go any farther ... trust me report it
2007-10-29 11:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by Godzilla Gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call 911 If you have bruises or marks left by your dad they will be taking pictures. You need to press charges if you can against your dad. There is a saying from years back - Kids you can't beat them! The sooner you do this the better. Good Luck
2007-10-29 13:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by mom8692 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think really that your mother can help you. TELL HER! If she can't I'm sure what alternative to take. If you call the police they will take one of you out of the home which may be better or worse. But your father needs his behind kicked.
If you were my child he would NEVER allow him do that again. I can't stand abusive people especially when the abuse is toward kids. Your dad needs help because there is no excuse for what he did. Tell your mother!
God Bless~~~Pray
2007-10-29 11:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by TamiAmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie to your mother. Tell her the truth. You have to stop this before it gets worse. Next time he could break a bone or even wore then that. Get yourself some help. Its not right for a parent to hit any child like that. Good Luck!
2007-10-29 11:58:20 · answer #11 · answered by B&M_2005 M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋