Is it normal for girls to do this in relationships?

Question

I was on/off with my girlfriend for 2 years. We each have done hurtful things to one another and she always was pretty sensitive. I always knew she cared about me a lot. We hung out before school started and everything was fine. Then all of a sudden when school started she stopped talking to me and no longer had much interest in me. I texted her every couple of days or so and she always texted back. We stopped talking for awhile. Then she texted me happy birthday. I called and asked her if she wanted to hang out sunday night and she said she couldn't she left all her homework for sunday. She still ignores me in the hallways. We have a class together in school and she doesn't say a word or aknowledge me. How did she forget about me so quick? And why is she doing this to me? Do you think she still cares about me?

Answer 1

yes she does care about you but like any girl she dosent want an insecure relationship where she never knows whether you are on or off...let her know that you still care because what she is doing by not talking to you is trying to get over you. It is much easier to get over someone if you dont talk to them on a regular basis but by sending you the happy birthday message she was showing you that she does still care!

Answer 2

Speaking as a woman, I can admit that we do some pretty weird things. I hate to say I can think of three possibilities and they might confuse you further:

1. She is ignoring you to get your attention. It seems to be working thus far.

2. It's a new school year and she has decided to really study this time around and not get distracted.

3. She thinks that with the new school year comes the possibility to move on with someone new and different.

My suggestion would be to stop acting like a child (one of you has to be mature). If you're interested, tell her so (maybe send her a text inviting her to hang out but give her at least a week's notice) and ask her what's up. If she isn't interested, at least you will know and you can close that chapter of your life.

Answer 3

I am sorry for your pain. As a female I have also been on the receiving end of this type of behavior. I do not believe she wants to hurt you intentionally. I believe she does still care about you. If she didn't she would not have sent you a birthday message. However, whatever it is that is troubling her at this time in her life whether it be the relationship or other issues is causing her to treat you in this manner. I think you have put yourself out there for her. She knows you are there for her. Give her space to evaluate her own feelings. I know it sucks but if you love her set her free. I have found in my own experience that if I continue about my life, as difficult as it may be....If I give the impression that I'm dealing just fine, then they have almost always become more interested. Consider it.

Answer 4

Sometimes girls are just as confused as guys are :]

She probably either doesn't know how you feel and thinks you are just as awkward with her
OR
She's confused about which direction she wants to go in. Most likely, she still really cares about you but doesn't want to get hurt.

I dated a guy a couple years ago who meant a lot to me and was a very big part of my life for a while. When he and I broke up, even on good terms, I still couldn't look at him for months. For the longest time I just couldn't talk to him or look at him in person. I cared about him a lot but because of different reasons, we just couldn't be together. It took me months, but finally I was comfortable around him and these days he's one of my best friends.

I hope this helps you, but remember that each person is different and reacts to things differently. The best way to find out what your ex is feeling is to Ask Her! ! !

xoxo

Answer 5

Dude, I have no idea what this chick's problem is. Maybe she dumped you because her friends didn't like you(which happens a lot in high school)and maybe her clique of friends went away for the summer or had jobs or what ever and she just used you for someone to hang with. Either way she sounds like a Beootch. Cut the ties and don't let her do any more psychological damage to you. Don't let her ruin you for when you find a nice girl that respects you, and then you drive her nuts thinking she is like your ex.

Answer 6

belive me she didn't forget you!!! she still has feeling for you even though she might not admit it! she thinks about you all the time. maybe she just thought it was best that she not be with you anymore, and that she wants to move on. maybe you should just give her some time. don't talk to her for a few months, and when she comes talking to you then you can open up. but don't play the hate game, don't give her dirty looks or hate mail. just walk by and say hey but nothing more. all she needs is time to figure out what she wants!!! good luck! =]] don't worry, if she isn't the one there are always more fish in the sea!

Answer 7

Girls do this all the time, its totally normal, although very annoying. She most likely has found another boy and wants to keep you in case it doesn't work out. This is obviously not fair to you! What girls want is for you to come and talk to them, on the phone or in person. Confront her about your situation. Tell her how you feel, you dont desearve to be treated like a pet. And if she refuses to talk, MOVE ON. Wait for the right girl to come along, and TRUST ME she will. And don't let your jealouse Ex come crawling back when shes jealouse!
I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 8

She is being distant to you for her own good, not to hurt you. Its hurtful, but its what she feels she needs to do to forget about you. And as awful as it sounds, sometimes being mean to people you love is the easiest way to handle it.

I had a boyfriend like your girlfriend recently, and he acted the same way. It really tore me up.

Try to be the better person and not do what she is doing.

Don't let her win over you. I don't know you, but I'm sure you are better than that anyway.

Good luck. And in case you need it, yelling at inanimate objects and throwing things helps when you are feeling down = )

Answer 9

In my opinion; She is not your girlfriend!!!
since you said you both hurt each other, i think she got tired and lost interest for you.
lately, she was only using you to hung out when she didn't have a better thing to do. to her you where nothing but an occasional friend. it is over now, just forget her!!!
find yourself another girl, one that will really care for you and take you seriously.

Answer 10

I'm sorry, but people move on... Things change at school. I had this huge fight with my best friend and I she wont speak to me and its been about 6 months... I would suggest moving on... She has otherwise she may just ruin your time at school. Don't look for a girlfriend, it'll happen when its ready!