Potty training my toddler (at my wits end) HELP!?

Question

My daughter has been potty training for a little over a month now. She has been wearing regular panties during this time. I have to ask her every 15-20 minutes does she have to go potty. Otherwise she will just take her panties down (wherever she is) and pee there. Afterwards she'll bring me her panties and say "whoops sorry", every single time. Should I continue to tell her "its okay but next time you have to go in the potty"?She is a very smart little girl that's why its really frustrating that she can't or won't get this. She can count to 10, say her alphabet, recite 10 animals with their sounds, she can recite an entire movie (Tarzan II) and act it out without looking at the screen, so why can't she learn to pea in the potty. Ugh!!! Me and my husband is frustrated to the max and we are very tired of scrubbing our carpet everyday all day. Any ideas would be very helpful.

She's 25 going on 26 months.

Answer 1

"it's okay but next time you have to go in the potty" As you said she is smart. Do you really tell her it is okay.I think you need to drop the okay line. What is okay about what she is doing.
also if you are taking her to the potty every 20 minutes you are trained not her. She may not be ready if it has been a month.It takes a while. She will get it .If she is not ready do, not put her in pull ups. That's to confusing. Do it with lots of love.Stop confusing her.You do not have to be mean but do not tell her it is okay either. "teggie'' I liked her answer.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You didn't say how old she was. Anyway, you shouldn't equate being able to count or any of those other things with understanding about potty training OR being ready for it.
Contrary to what some are telling you, never disipline over potty training. You could cause her to have a whole other set of issues, including holding in her poo, and I know you don't want that, who would?
I would consider a reward system: Stickers or a wipey board with check marks that when she gets so many, she gets to do something she wants, such as going to Chuck E. Cheese's or buy a toy or whatever you know she loves.
I would also set a timer for every 15 minutes and take her to the potty for a couple of days. Then, make it 20 minutes, then 25, then 30, until you figure out what is good for her or she trains. While you are in there, distract her with a book or music.
Try to keep you emotions and frustration in check. You don't want her to think you are unhappy, or this won't be a positive experience.
She can do and so can you.
Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 4

You have to remember she is only 2 and 1/2 (25months old in this world) all she has known is using a diaper and now after only 4 weeks you expect her to be trained. No offense but to me she is not ready. You need to take a step backwards and put her back in diapers for a while, yes backwards, and not worry about what anyone thinks. My two sons that are potty trained didn't start until age 4. I refused to rush them or force them just because some other person thinks anyone over the age of 2 cant be in diapers. There are serveral answers on here that give okay suggestions, but the only thing I can say is if she is not ready she is not ready don't force the issue and don't put yourself in undo stress and paying for new carpet, put her back in diapers, she will soon get it, remember she is only 2 and 1/2, she wont go to college in diapers, she will catch on.

Answer 5

Your daughter's just not ready. "Pln" & "Teggie" are right.

This is so NOT an obedience/disobedience issue, it's a bladder issue. She's just a little kid- all kids develop at different rates, I'm sure you know. Don't watch the calandar, watch her behavior.

Just let her be. She'll potty train when she's ready.

I actually think it's kind of funny, although I'm sure I wouldn't if I were in your situation.

It's kind of like my daughter- she's very smart, too. She "knew how" to walk at 10 or 11 months, we would catch her doing little bits here and there- she could easily step away from the couch or wherever to get a toy, etc. But she didn't do it regularly until she felt like it, at 13 months.

Your daughter won't be in diapers/pull ups forever. Don't rush it, it will end up taking longer in the long run.

Answer 6

I don't know how old your toddler is, but the fact that she can recite all of that smart stuff doesn't mean she should be able to go potty magically. Sounds to me like she's fighting you for a reason... maybe she isn't ready. I am a firm believer that you can't force kids to potty train.. you are going to end up frustrated like you are now. Here's my advice... take a few weeks off (give her the pull up or diaper back but still allow her to go potty IF SHE ASKS) and then try again. But, this time, make it fun for her... get her some of her favorite big girl underwear, make her a sticker chart (one sticker everytime she goes) and you can give her one piece of candy if she goes too. I know, it sounds awful, but when my son was potty training, I allowed him to have ONE M&M each time he went. And eventually, we didn't need them anymore... he potty trained in like two days, no problem. And with the sticker chart, he got one sticker per time on the potty and when he filled up a row, he got to buy a present (something small that won't cause a problem). Good luck!!

Answer 7

She doesn't understand that it's time to potty in toilet. Telling her "it's okay...worry about it next time" is teaching her that it's optional. You need to take an entire day to drill potty training into her. Read a little book that explains it in her terms, and then tell her that now she is so lucky to be a big girl and say bye bye to her potty in the toilet. Have a party out of it - hang out near the potty during the day, constantly asking and reminding her she HAS to go in the big kid potty. When she does, praise her profusely and offer a prize. One way to motivate may be to place a desired toy (a doll, etc.) up high somewhere and tell her that when she has gone potty in the toilet for one whole day, she gets the doll. You catch my drift, I'm sure!

Answer 8

When i was little my mom potty trained me by teaching me to sit on the toilet the opposite way with my body turned toward the toilet. It gives them more stablilty and calms the fear of falling in. Also buy a toilet seat with something she likes, ive seen nemo ones or pink ones. It could make her want to use the toilet. Or bribe her, tell her if she uses the potty like a big girl all day without pee'ing her panties that you will buy her a new doll or take her to eat or whatever she likes. Different things work with different children. Improvise. Hope this helps!

Answer 9

You may need to go backwards and put her in pull ups. She may not feel like a big girl. And you can use that to say, "well, if you want the big girl panties again, you have to use the pot and not pee on the floor."

My daughter is 2 as well. She's potty training with pull ups. She runs to the potty herself every 10-15 minutes, but the pull ups catch any mess she makes.

GOOD LUCK :)

Answer 10

Wow, My daughter was fully trained by2.5. There were accidents but we started off with the pull-ups. I would put her right on the potty first thing, then again at 10:30, then again before her nap, after nap, and so forth. You have to set the time and stage for this you should pop her when she does it on the floor and brings you her wet panties. She thinks it is funny, If you et her wear them wet for 5 min. until it gets cold she will start to remember the potty. Be consistent she should be trained by the end of the week. You,, set the tone. Put her on the potty every time you go. Sometimes she may go others she may not.

Good Luck