why wont my parents let me have any guy friends?

Question

im 14 and my parents aren't too strict, but they wont let me have any guy friends! (even though i do, alot.)
it's mostly my dad, but my mom gets so uptight and interrogative when i mention a guy friend.

my dad agreed that it was okay to have guy friends as long as they weren't boyfriends
but he totally contridicted this the other day when he had my cellphone and one of my guy-friends called to ask for homework. my dad called me afterwards and started complaining about "why do you have so many boys trying to contact you? why did he call you? who is he?!?"

how can i let my parents understand that they are all just friends? its annoying that their so overprotective! do they not trust me or think im going to "do" something bad or something??

just to clear things up.. honestly, my friends arent bad kids.
their not like a gang that wants anything from me (as in getting me pregnant or anything...)
they do good in school and they're nice and helpful and kind.
lol people, i wouldnt be stupid enough to be friends with them if they want to "do" me..

Answer 1

They know what guys want and that's usually not a friend but a "friend."

Answer 2

Okay, so I've only got a three year old, so I'm probably in the best position to answer something like this. I was 14 years old about 11 years ago, and your dad was too at one point. As a guy, I had lots of girls that were friends and their fathers were the same way, I never realized it's an automatic thing when you become a father. So, just remember It's a protective thing, not a trust thing.. Your Dad probably is insecure about boys being around you because everyone knows that boys between the ages of 13-18 may have questionable motives.

It's not that your parents don't trust you, but that they don't trust the guys who are trying to contact you. Your Dad wants to make sure that he knows who exactly you are associating with aren't going to try and "do" something bad.

Answer 3

Your parents are trying to protect you so you don't end up getting pregnant by some boy at the spur of a moment thing.
At your age its too easy to be swayed into sex by other young boys.

Take things a little bit slower because your parents although they seem over protective they do have your best interests in their mind.
Place yourself in their position and wouldn't you do the same if you had kids?

Its a difficult stage in your life and you'll no doubt have many boys chasing after you. But you need to keep things in perspective.

Answer 4

I know where your coming from. Its just parents see how many see the amount of girls who get pregnant or do something else and they want to protect you. Just try to be patient. Also since your growing up from their little girl to a girl who will turn into a woman, that scares parents I would guess. Just don't give them any reasons for them to not trust you. Tell them about your guy friends and ask for their trust.

Answer 5

They probably scarred.Why because you watch maury,and montel.Girls having all these guys friends they probably think your either sleeping with them or something else.Plus your father probably thinks your to young to grow up yet,he doesnt want to loose his baby girl.You should have a talk with him.Tell him that the are just friends,be like you should be happy that I dont have all girlfriends,because now a days little girls are crazy.Having boy friends around is more comfortable atleast I feel that way.Stay close to your dad because you never know when he'll be gone.I dont have a father so stay good chica.

Answer 6

My heart breaks for you. I went through the same thing at 14. My parents were (and are still) very religious. I ended up just rebelling! They were accusing me of doing all these horrible things (drinking, having sex) and all I was really doing was watching movies and playing video games. I don't really have a best answer for you sweetie. Just hang in there, and confront your parents if you have to. The worst they can do is ground you, take away your phone, and take away the computer. That's when you cleverly figure out how to communicate in other ways. Good luck!

Answer 7

Dude, read some survival stories about date rape online. Chicks get raped all the friggin time when they are 12-16 (the dumb age).

The wrong guy can be an animal. If you get alot of attention from them it isn't because of your personality, it is because they want to pork you.

Your parents just don't want you prego, and then they are stuck raising you and your friggin kid blowing tons of money because some deadbeat guy screwed you, or they don't want their future grandkid tossed in a planned parenthood dumpster.

Answer 8

they think guy friend will turn to boybriend or maybe it will turn to be another thing or mabe you might be in love as the time goes by . sometime if you get together you might try to do something because guys are crazy and all the have in their head is sex. so you can have a lot of guy friend but you have to be carefull to where you too go or do together

i hope this help

Answer 9

their just being parents. they care 4 u!! they don't want to see u hurt because "all boys this age want MORE" (I'm 14 too, but i was in the same sit. last year) u can have ur friends, because they can't tell u who to befriend, but if you know they're just "silly boys" then u should b fine. my guys KNOW not to try anything, b/c I've made it clear we're just friends. however, if ur looking for easy access to boyworld, then i am on ur parents side

Answer 10

That's common and dont beg to have them let you have guy friends ,because the more desperate they think you want to hang out with them they'll think something is going on. I'm sure your parents will come around just try to convince them your mature to have guy friends.

Answer 11

Your parents are just trying to protect you. I know it sounds cliche and being a teenager it sucks. The key to it is to show them that you are mature and you can make right decisions when it comes to guys. I would also have a sit down discussion with your parents and let them know that you are growing up, and although you have no plans to date at the current time, you would still like to have guy friends.