About 1-2 weeks ago my boyfriend's parents started buying rum and mixing it with Coke. And ever since my boyfriend has been drinking every night (some if not most nights he will get drunk) and I'm really concerned. His parents allow him because "they would rather have him do it with them instead of behind thier backs" but I don't agree with the way they're raising him...but that's not up to me....I've talked to my boyfriend about it (who is 17) and encouraged him to not do so but everytime he gets mad...how can i talk to him? or better yet, what should i do? i dont want this to affect his grades (which are really good right now) and this is not something a teenager should do its bad for the brain!
2007-10-29 10:30:46 · 3 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I talked about it to his step-mom and she said that it's just a phase..and that they are there to watch him. But what do they know? They smoke pot all day and now drink! Thank God my boyfriend stopped doing drugs! I'm so concerned....Help!
2007-10-29 10:55:40 · update #1
Bibibond, very thoughtful of you to be so concerned about your boyfriends consumption of the almighty bottle. There are many parents who will allow their kids to drink at their homes, thinking that they are going to do it anyway and would rather they do it within their own house rather than the street. I am not advocating for either side. But the majority of parents only allow it to happen on a part time basis and not nightly. Perhaps his parents have a drinking problem also and are allowing him to act like an adult so they have a drinking buddy. I would certainly discuss your concerns with your boyfriend and don't hold back. Much like him I was drinking very early in my life but gave it up by the time I was 22 years old, thank goodness. It caused many problems in my life and many encounters with the law, and not good ones either. Sure he is going to feel pretty grown up being allowed to drink. But you need to emphasis with him the difference between responsible and/or social drinking and being a pig drinker (which ill only increase over time). I have three sons and luckily none of them really like the bottle. They do however like to smoke pot and although it is an illegal behaviour I would far rather my boys get their kicks from a little smoke than from the booze. I know of nobody that has become violent and/or killed anyone from smoking a joint. Let him know that you are concerned about the amount of alcohol he is consuming. If you are interested there is a self-help group called Al-Anon that is there for friends and family of problem drinkers. You might be interested in taking in a couple of these meetings to learn how to deal better with the drinker. Best of luck to you both. And once again I must commend you on being so concerned about his drinking. But you are a young lass and do not want to get involved with someone who has the potential of becoming a problem drinker, as it not only affects their lives but all those around them also.
2007-10-29 10:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to my boyfriend except he started smoking weed. His parents are the same way. I got our classes together so i could help him with his work (he comes to school high everyday), but we had to get them switched. Don't leave him, and never give up. Something will happen one day and he will realize you were always there for him. Just give him time.
Always encourage him not to, and maybe go someplace romantic instead of giving him the oppurtunity to sit at home and drink.
2007-10-29 10:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh oh!!! my father is a raging alcoholic. lemme tell you, its the worst thing. not kidding, it is your worst nightmare except... YOU CANT WAKE UP!
im gonna give you the best advice. here they are in order of importance:
1. you break up with him. honey, just wait about a month, and he will only get worse. i know how much you want to be there and you only want to help, but.. its unfortunate... you cant help him. ecspecially if he IS an alcoholic.
2. talk to his parents. ive been to the "best" rehabilitation center in the U.S.A and if his parents are #1- alcohilics. - he has the disease in his blood. :-( - i have it. #2.- talk to him. make a threat to tell the poloice (thats always an option..)
or to break up with him #3- make sure he knows all the consequences.
i just gave you advice.. PLease go use it. im so serious.
i know the heartbreak of alcoholism, dont be a victom of it.
the disease only progresses.- it only gets Worse.
best luck.
if you want to talk to me:
designermacy@yahoo.com
2007-10-29 10:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by macy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋