This is a hypothetical situation . A teen -- age boy wants to pick up his girlfriend . He parks in her driveway and honks his horn . The girl's father refuses to let her leave until he rings the doorbell like a gentleman . The boy gets out of his car, goes up to the door, and rings the doorbell . He doesn't like it, but there's nothing he can do about it . NOW -- is it bad manners for the boy to sit in this car and honk his horn ?
2007-10-29 10:01:50 · 18 answers · asked by Sad and Single 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes! It's lazy and rude.
2007-10-29 10:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You want to be thought of as a man out with his girl. So, step up and be the man. Show some respect.
Yes, it is bad manners for the boy to sit in the car rather than coming up to the door to escort the girl out. We are talking about a specific invitation and a matter of respect to the family's concern for their daughter, and courtesy to the girl.
If it were a daily ride to school, say, the horn might be appropriate, as with any other carpool situation..
The father in this house sits inside the window thinking the guy is wimpy or chicken until he gets out and rings the doorbell. He expects the young man to step-up and be a man. Dad wants to look him in the eye and communicate the expectation that this fellow will return his daughter unharmed and ontime.
2007-10-29 17:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only times one does not need to go to the door is when the girl is expecting and waiting and he doesnt even need to honk the horn
the sitting in the car is not bad manners
the horn toting is the bad manners
2007-10-29 17:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by genntri 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very bad manners for the boy to sit in his car and honk his horn. And that is not a hypothetical answer.
2007-10-29 17:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This situation depends on how long the boy has been seeing the girl. I think the first time and whie the relationship is new, he should FOR SURE go to the door. If they've been dating for 3 years or more, then it's okay to honk (if she is expecting him), but it is still nice to go to the door. My boyfriend always comes to the door unless we are in a big rush and he calls me and tells me to be waiting at the door for him when he pulls up so I can just leave the house and jump in the car right away. I do the same.
2007-10-29 17:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My mom would refuse my sisters from leaving the house till the guy actually came to the door ,asked for my sister and he was invited in. My parents had to meet the guy first. And don't even think of siting in the car or that horn will be stuck where the sun don't shine.
2007-10-29 22:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes- its disrespectful. Not only to the parents, but to the girl! She should be walked to the car, and have the door opened for her. I have a teenage son, and I would expect he meet his girlfriends parents, before any date, and go to the door each time he picks her up, and respectfully say hi, tell them where they are going, and with whom, and when they'll be back. This is a sign of honor, respectfulness, and maturity, and just being a gentlemen. I will have the same expectations of my daughters boyfriends when its her turn to date. She won't be let out of the house if he acts like that!
2007-10-29 17:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely bad manners........ I'm 30 and have dated guys quite older than me and others about my age (but still too immature), but NONE of them have been so rude as to do this to me. They know I'd never come out only becuz I hear them honking..... they have to at least give me a ring on my phone to let me know that they're here, or ring the bell.
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2007-10-29 18:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lprod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is extremely bad manners. It's saying, "You aren't worth my exerting myself for 30 seconds to greet you at the door and say hello to your parents." Thank goodness for dads who care about the kind of boy their daughter goes out with!
Doesn't matter whether you like it or not, it's such a small thing and it makes the parents so happy. And believe me, you WANT happy parents. . .
2007-10-29 17:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
this is different scenario then your part two question...
this boy has no respect for the girlfriend or her family if he beeps in the driveway. he should assure the family of what they will be doing and when to expect them back as this is the man's roll ( to care for the woman ). if he hopes to take her out that night or any other night for that matter, he better come to the door....
2007-10-29 17:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jeanette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, it's very rude, and disrespectful... the young man should go in, and greet the parents, and be polite and respectful.... you demean the young lady, by honking the horn and exepecting her to come out when "summoned"
2007-10-29 17:07:28 · answer #11 · answered by Foggy Idea 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋