how can i stay ok ?

Question

well this time last year my best friend died and i went into depression had the drugs and seen the shrink ! split up with my then g/f as i couldn't cope with anyone just wanted to be dead! now a year on i felt like i was getting there , but now i'm having problems with my ex still love her but she has moved on !! and things seem to be getting on top of me again ! any advice on how not to slip back into deap depression i need help

i'm happy for her to move on as i'm not selfish , but she keeps telling me how great he is and seems to wind me up! suppose just makes me feel like i was never good enough

Answer 1

Keep yourself active, you only want to go back there because its "safe". If she has moved on then be happy for her and move on too. Get yourself involved in something - an activity you enjoy or volunteer - by helping others you will help yourself. KEEP GOING FORWARD!!! You have been there once, doeverything in your power to stop it, try meet new people, get out and about - evein if it is only out walking. Perhaps go and see a counsellor/psychotherapist just to get you over this rocky patch. You have done it once before you know you can do it again, believe in yourself and guess what - you have already started to make moves to get better - you have already taken steps which shows you are stronger than you think - you have recognised that its happening - thats the biggest thing you can do - i know I have been there so well done, just use the knowledge to your advantage xxx

Answer 2

Anniversaries of sad or traumatic events
can be behind our future dips into depression. It feels as if the whole thing cycles around -like a tether ball - hitting us in the back of the head.

If your depression was deep last year, and you sense you are headed down the same path........get your body back to the psychiatrist and get back on the medication.

This time around you would be wise to get into private or group therapy sessions. You seem "stuck" where you were a year ago. Therapy can help you to get unstuck, and also to learn to do things somewhat differently to help you stay out of the depression cycle.

Answer 3

okay this is a blah blah blah answer but it does work.You have experianced depression b4 and you did get out of it good to hear!!!!!!As for stopping it from reacurring try some positive thinking...ok gf moved on well you dont need her any how.....things may not seem wonderful and rosey but they didnt when you had depression b4 but things did get better.Do you remember what the shrink said to you and the tecniques that the shrink suggested to you?????Mate you have gone into depression b4 and you have come out of it move on with your mind and practice positive thinking it works good luck and remember you have done it b4 a good memory to think back on so be proud!!!!:)

Answer 4

Stop talking to her or tell her you really don't want to hear about how great he is and that it makes you kinda sad and to respectfully stay off that subject. If she doesn't, then stop talking to her.

Anyone who leads you back into depression is BAD FOR YOU.

I know how it feels, just keep friends who keep you happy don't be with the drama causing people, they will ruin your life.

Feel free to email,

STAY STRONG,

Jessica

Answer 5

hi i have been down this road its a different for all of us some times a doctor can help or a Friend but some times it is up to you on your own.try to cope one day at a time it will get better its like one step forward two steps back.but it will get better

Answer 6

Bin there done that. Go 2 ur doc's please................you need to get some anti-depressent pills, something like "citlopram" you car'nt do this alone. As 4 ur x, u need to move on and find some1 new, loves closer than u think and least expect it. Please seek help.
Let me know how u get on.
Debs
-x-

Answer 7

uuummmm...... av no idea wat to say to u except maybe u shud find another g/f bcoz then it will take ur mind off of ur old g/f bcoz she has moved on and u jus have to face it.