I got my cousin a job where I work a few months ago. Her and I are really close and have always have got along. We got into a little tiff that was not work related and now she won't speak to me or look at me. I have sent her an email days ago apologizing and putting the blame on us both but still nothing from her. I wasn't all at fault so I can't keep kissing her a**. However, working together is so uncomfortable now because she avoids me and wont' even look at me. Please help. Thank you.
2007-10-29 09:30:16 · 16 answers · asked by Jenn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just be glad she's not bi***ing at ya all the time.
She'll get over it if not just pretend she is just another co-worker and let it go.
2007-10-29 09:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by don_sv_az 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Jenn, it looks as if you got yourself into an age old problem. Working with Friends and relatives is difficult. Mostly because personal problems bleed into the work area. What to do? First, you must like the lady, or you wouldn't' be so hurt. It looks as if you really want to fix this, and the work place is not the place. To many distractions. It looks as if your cousin does not feel the same.
Time might be your only alternative. I don't know what started all of this, but it looks as if you can't put a bandage on this right away. Most of these problems are usually over something silly. I would treat her as normal as possible, and ignore any negative behavior. Don't lower yourself to her level. Hopefully she will come around and respond. If not, you can't make her. Others will notice that your trying to be the good guy, and say something to her. In the mean time, be yourself, stop the e-mails, and live your life. There is no easy fix here. Good luck and hang in there.
2007-10-29 09:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by megofish2day 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well,you took the first step in stating that you both were to blame,showing that we are all human,and make mistakes.Sometimes people cannot bear the fact that they played a part in a disagreement,so not to hear from her,and sorry to say is common.However, you got her the job,not the other way around so for the interim time,do you job,try not to let the situation get the better of you,and once you feel that another time would be right,try speaking to her again,out of work.As long as you put forth an honest effort to resolve any adversity,especially with family,then you can say that your efforts have been established without any malice.Good luck, and God bless.
2007-10-29 09:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by soulshadow7669 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help if we knew what the tiff was about, but if it really wasn't anything big, it'll probably blow over. Confront her face to face if she can't get over it and ask her to let you both put it behind you. Tell her that disagreements shouldn't come between friends, and especially family, and that you want to make amends. If she can't forgive or forget, then ask that she at least be civil since you have to work together.
2007-10-29 09:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by thisislizz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is not work related carry on as usually and keep whatever the tiff was about, out of the work place.
For the tiff matter, it appears that you have tried to make amends, and don't kiss her @ss. Chomp it off as lessons learned and move on. I think by you constantly trying to apologize, that is her way of making you suffer. DON'T
2007-10-29 09:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by benejueves 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have to talk to her then don't. Just steer clear.
She wants to play childish games......let her; however, in a case like this I would suggest talking to your boss and just
giving them a heads up that there is personal conflict going on between you two (you dont have to give details).....
and say that you wanted to make them aware so that if they notice it is affecting your work at all they should come to you.
You say that, but more what you are REALLY doing is to cover your own a*s.......in case your cousin decided to bring it into work.
Good luck
2007-10-29 09:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emailing really isn't the way to patch things up. You need to walk right up and tell her you are sorry for making her mad. Apologize. Don't place blame on her, just let her know you miss her friendship and you don't want her to stay mad at you.
2007-10-29 09:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by D C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to start a casual conversation with her at work or anywhere and try to get here to laugh and smile and hopefully she will forget about whatever happened and be friendly with you agoin.
P.S. Im so sorry to hear that a family member is on your bad side.
2007-10-29 09:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by oconnorboy101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose your job over your cousin's childish behavior. You have done more that enough to repair the relationship and now its up to her to deal with it like an adult. Don't let this bother you even if your cousin can't grow up.
2007-10-29 09:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are there to work so just do your job and avoid her. You are family so soon enough you will get over your personal problems. But do not let it interfere with your work.
2007-10-29 09:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by Holly W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋