I went out on a first date with this man. He tricked me and brought me to a house and raped me. He then made me love him and told me that I was so different from the rest of the girls he ever met and he was so crazy of me. In the end I had no choice but to marry him. Did I committed a big sin?
I am not stupid becos it is not right for me to marry another man.
2007-10-29 09:04:19 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What the f*ck are you talking about??? He made you love him? That makes no sense. And why would you marry someone who raped you? And yes you did sin by being so unintelligent.
2007-10-29 09:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by candi_junkie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you did not sin. He did. You had a choice to report the rape, and you did not HAVE to marry him. I've been raped, and I did not mary the man. You did do wrong by marrying him, that does not set a good example for any young girl who may look up to you, she will believe that the man has the right to do these kinds of things...not good. Why can't you marry another man??
2007-10-29 09:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stupid yes. I'm sorry, but you should of known better. Part of it is his fault because he seduced you. You have the ability to control you own self, it seems like you didn't do enough when this came up. Maybe you just weren't educated enough about this situation when it came along to know how to get out of it. After he rapes you,, usually it would be smart to call the cops and leave right away. You kept onto him somhow though. You are currently living a life of a lying love. It isn't real. You need to leave. Go to your family to seek for help. Divorce this man and find a fresh and well mannered man. Please do this for the sake of your future children. If you get pregnant witth this man's children it will be much harder to lose ties with him. Afterall you don't like being with him right? And please educate your future children to avoid these kinds of situations. keep your head up for now..
Well if you are married though maybe he does love you..
Does he abuse you?
...
If not maybe you looking at this in a wrong way, but if you absolutely positive you feel this way then follow your heart so you can become happy.
2007-10-29 09:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be a bit stupid because I don't know what the heck you're on about.
First of all if this guy raped you then you should report him and never ever see him again.
Secondly, he can't make you love him, that's what you do yourself and you always have a choice, so you didn't need to marry him.
And it's only not right for you to marry a man if you're a man yourself and its not legal in your country or unless you're already married in which case thats not right either.
Give a bit more info please.... And give this 'man' a kick in the nuts from me cos he raped you and he's a JERK!!! He should be locked up.
2007-10-29 09:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did not sin. However, I don't believe in sin becuase I don't believe in God. I think that there are bad things people can do...but they are not sins becuase sins is only a word used to describe something against God's law.
However, You still didnt' do anything bad or wrong or that would be considered a sin by people who believe in sin. HE did.
Besides that you have some major errors in your thinking. You did have a choice but to marry him. And I am very confused. Were you already married when this happened. I don't get the whole, "its not right for me to marry another man."
Is your previous husband passed away? Please elaborate.
2007-10-29 09:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Green Tea Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The story of Adam and Eve comes to mind. Eve was tricked by the serpent and Adam was tempted by Eve. Adam and Eve were responsible for their sins just as you and I would be responsible for ours if we were talked and tricked into committing a sin. If the serpent was a boa constrictor wrapped around Eve's leg and told her to bite the apple, even if the serpent never squeezes her, she is forced and taking a bite would not have harmed her innocence.
Similarly, if you were tricked into thinking others would be at the house, or he was just going to get you some first aid, like two aspirin and a drink of water, then at some point of making out when you realized he was attempting to have sex, you would be guilty for giving in. If he tricked you to get you inside, but then physically forced himself on you (even with no weapon, just either drugged or overpowered you), then he raped you and you are innocent.
If you continued to have consensual sex with him after the rape, then each of those occurrences are sins.
If you married him because he got you pregnant, you had other choices and will sin if you file for divorce because that would break that commitment between God and your husband.
If you married him based on lies he told you, and then you file for divorce later, then you are innocent of making that commitment and the divorce is acceptable.
There may be some bad news above, depending on your circumstance, but the good news is that Jesus knew you Satan would eventually trick you into sinning just like he did to Adam and Eve, so Jesus died for your sins as long as you confess that you have sinned and ask him to be your Savior. You may have already known that, but I wanted to make sure you knew so you can have peace even after going through such an ordeal.
2007-10-29 09:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Frank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, the only sin you committed was against yourself.
This man raped you. You were traumatized. Then he sweet-talked you to keep you from going to the police. He didn't "make you" love him. You CHOSE to love him.
You CHOSE to marry him.
What would have been right was if you had gone to the police and pressed charges against your rapist--instead, you rewarded him with love!!!
If you think he will not rape again, you are sadly mistaken.
What would be right would be for your husband to be behind bars where he belongs!!!
What if this man did that to your sister or your mother???
Would you get angry THEN???
What would be right would be for you to leave him before you have a little girl and he rapes her too.
Good luck and may God bless you with some real knowledge.
2007-10-29 09:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by kathleen m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off NO ONE can make you love them. No one in their right mind should fall in love with a man that took advantage of them. Rape is against the law! I can't believe you married him. Yes you are stupid and you should have never married him to begin with. You 2 are perfect for one another.
2007-10-29 09:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by ~Sara~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a very weak personality .. you should decide for yourself ... you know rape is bad and you still asking and the worse you got marry ooooooo but if you like the rape or the man is a different thing but if he rape you he will do it again to anybody that's not a good first date at all
2007-10-29 09:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by PUCK L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sin is not from having sex. The sin was getting married. That flies in the face of the sacrament. the marriage can be anulled, although you will have to state that you were raped and that is why you married him. You thought you were "ruined". Which is not true. A truly compassionate man would not do as this one has. Talk to your clergyperson.
2007-10-29 09:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by It's a secret 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋