IM 18 AND HE'S 31.WE TALK A LOT UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER THAN ANY GUY I'VE MET.BUT IM JUST AFRAID IT MIGHT JST BE A FLING ITS BEEN GOING ON FOR 2MNTHS NW.SO CAN IT BE?
2007-10-29 08:56:45 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Baby K, I know that you feel strong feelings for this man but is it because he is like a father figure to you? I don't know if your father is in your life or not but normally when a female is young like you are and desires the company of an older man its usually because the father is out the picture or the father is not showing love and attention and maybe doesn't spend much time with you thats the norm. However, if you are happy and he makes you happy just take it slow and don't rush anything. It has only been 2 months so you can't really know if he is the one and not to scare you but most men will tell you what you want to hear if they are interested in your goodies not to say that this guy is like that. Just becareful and take your time because if it is real then he will wait til you are older.
2007-10-29 09:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some where between 18 and 31 your frontal lobe in your brain will fully develop (right around age 25) and more then likely you will see the world in a different way. So it might be a fling because you will be a different person and more mature then a 38 year old trying to date a 25 year old.
2007-10-29 09:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the both of you. It can work if you have alot in common and you're very mature for an 18 year old. But sorry to say, the odds are against you. Right now you guys may seem evenly matched but what about when you're 26 and he's about to turn 40?? You'll still look and feel young and he'll be entering into middle age and starting to look it. I know looks aren't everything but guaranteed that it will play into it somehow, especially when you see other 26 year olds around you and what they're doing and who they're with. If you're in love then there's nothing you can do about it; go with your feelings but just know what you're getting into.
2007-10-29 10:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by qnbee1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EXXTTREAMLY unlikely. He probably makes you feel important and more mature. He is probably drawn to younger women because he is insecure in relationships. Warning he may at some point after romancing the heck out of you to become controlling and abusive. At the earliest sign of this run for cover.
Age differences mean less when you are older if you were 35 and he were 48. it would be less likely that he would be controlling and you would be more on an equal footing in the relationship. That is the short answer from a stranger who has no dog in this fight, only years of experience watching and living.
2007-10-29 09:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by SiFu frank 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ...this seems like a no brainer your 18 he is 31...so what is the problem you can't put a time limit on love you need to take a look in the mirror you will never grow younger and neather can this guy. If he could turn back the hands of time to be closer to your age, I shure he would...when your older in life do you want some one to love you for who you are or how old you are...
2007-10-29 09:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by dheck03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem I met a 35 year old when I was 20 that was a year and half ago. I always thought it wouldn't last but it hasn't stopped yet. I can't really offer any good advice just but remember because of the age difference you will probably want different things. Talk to him honestly about what you both expect from the relationship.
2007-10-29 09:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by RainbowGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 16 years older than me, but I met him when I was in my late 20's. I think the difference in age and development may not be as vast after you've passed your mid-20's...I'm sure that if I'd been 18, I would have changed quite a bit between the time we met and the time we married. Wait and see if it has lasting power...you don't want to regret tying your life to someone before you've had a chance to live out YOUR life!
2007-10-29 09:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by Bellavita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is married to a woman who is 21 years younger (he's 59 she's 38) and they've been married for over 18 years. They got married when she was 20. So YES it can work. If you love each other and have alot in common then why shouldn't it. Age is just a number it's how you act and feel that counts.
;) x
2007-10-29 09:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by Soup Dragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so.
i know it's not what you wanted to hear but it's true.
he's probably just looking for the next pretty young thing to be interested in him. once some other pretty young thing with long legs walks by that will give him the time of day you'll just be yesterday's news or just some girl i talked to one time.
I think he should be within a couple years of your age. this is how i think of it:
under 18: within 2 years of your own age
over 18: within 1 year younger to 3 1/2 years older
2007-10-29 09:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for anyone still in their teens to know when they're mature enough for a lasting love. He is pretty old for you; now if you were 45 and he were 58, it wouldn't be such a spread because you would BOTH have maturity and experience in relationships. Two months is not long enough to know much more than that you find him attractive and exciting. If it lasts more than a year, you might have something lasting going on. Take it slow; very, very slow!
2007-10-29 09:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋