Lost friends because of drugs?

Question

My boyfriends best friend was doing lines of coke in front of us, i panicked and called the police.
They never came round, but friends ave disowned me because they told me i did a terrible thing.
Please help. Its making me really stressed

Answer 1

in other people's opinions you may have over-reacted. However, if drugs are something that make you feel awkward then you did nothing wrong. There is no reason to associate with people that do things that make you feel uncomfortable or in danger. If you have been abandoned due to your personal belief it shows lack of respect on their part so it is up to you to consider whether they are truly your friends to begin with.

Answer 2

In an ideal world everybody would be honest, truthful and drug free. However, this world is not ideal. Chances are the person taking the drug would have been dead soon. That's what happens to hard drug users, no matter how much they think they are in control. I lost a very good friend to cocaine. You probably saved that person's life, but he'll never thank you for it. You have lost a lot of friends through doing the right thing. Perhaps you should have considered an intermediary before the police. We all have 20/20 hindsight. All you can do is apologize to your old friends and hope that it passes in time. **** happens. Find some new friends, that's your best option right now.

Answer 3

Your friends disowned you because of this? That is awful! You had every right to do what you did and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I wasn't there so I have no idea how well you handled the situation but doing cocaine is illegal and dangerous, it was unfair that you were put into a situation where you had to see this. Did they even ask if it was OK to do it in front of you? At the end of the day you can't stop people doing this but you certainly don't have to sit around and watch. I'd say it is a bad friend who would put you in that situation in the first place. I hope your boyfriend is sticking up for you honey, because you have seriously done nothing wrong.

Answer 4

You did exactly what you should have done! You really don't need a boyfriend who's friends are doing lines of coke! Think about it like this, if you were riding in the car and your boyfriend got pulled over and his friend had the coke and threw it in your lap with the cop walked up....You would be charged with it. You did the right thing, find a new boyfriend and new friends.

Answer 5

Personally i think that your bf should have been the one to deal with this problem.I am not into drugs but can control what ppl do in my home without calling the police.Firstly i would have spoken to the boyfriend and told him your thoughts,if he then did not do anything about it then i would have set a clear boundry that you dont do that at my home and then if i were to be ignored then i would take futher action.
As for them not being you friends anymore what have you lost some druggie "friends" who are not heading down the right track and could pull you down with them.In reality what you did do was a brave but also dangerous thing to do.Pll who take substances can get very irritated very easy and without warning you just called the police????Even if i had children in the house i would have set the boundry first.i dont understand why you are stressed at all.

Answer 6

In THEIR eyes you did do a terrible thing. But at least you have the sense not to. You really need to find better people to fill your life hun. I spent 20 years in the company of people like that. I saw it all. Tried it all, got the t-shirt. They'll never be any good for you.
What did your boyfriend say? If he was pissed off too then he needs to go as well.
Christ knows i always prefered those that were on drugs. Not necessarily the serious kind, but all the same. I could have a laugh. Fool around. But they werne't stable nor reliable. They didn't care about themselves, never mind me.
Now i have friends who DO care. Who are balanced within themselves and therefore give me a reason to be balanced within myself.

Answer 7

The best thing for you to do would have probably been to make an excuse and leave. Don't worry about ringing the police the guy was breaking the law. If your friends are heavily into drugs you would be best staying clear of them.
You are clearly annoyed by their behaviour make new friends who don't do drugs. Don't beat yourself when you have done nothing wrong. Take care.

Answer 8

You did the right thing. Coke is bad and can mess you up. Real friends don't stand by and watch their friends destroy their lives with drugs.

But there is a limit to what you can do. If your friends are going to insist on using drugs around you, then they're just dragging you down with them.

Have you talked to your parents about what happened? I think they should know, so they can give you some support.

Answer 9

You did the right thing. These people aren't really your friends, otherwise they wouldn't have treated you like this. Get out and about and make new drug-free friends. You really don't want to associate with drug users anyway,you might get labelled as a user yourself & they might have talked you into this nasty. disgusting habit.

You will find some good friends, so don't stress, you're better of without the drug users.

Take care of yourself & remember you have us as friends here on Yahoo. ;) x

Answer 10

The only answer to this is that Time Is A Great Healer.
the obvious answer is just to talk to them: try to explain exactly as you have here, that you panicked. If they dont want to know you after that,and you still feel that they are worth a great deal to you - then you will just have to sit pretty and wait for time to bind its forgiveness.
It woudl be great to do as people haev said, and just forget them- but if you feel you cant, then there is nothing more you can do than keep explaining you was scared and hope that time makes them explain to you why they are doing it, and to forgive you.
Best luck x