When we were together he acted like a 2yr old. now he says he has changed. I want to believe him, but i'm also worried about having a man around my 9 month old son. I'm a single parent, but i don't want to be alone. please help!
2007-10-29 08:56:01 · 13 answers · asked by lickumlolly6360 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have been appart for almost 6 months now. he claims he wants to be the one to take care of me and my son. he just acted like an idiot sometimes, and i had to leave him alone. i had to give him time to grow up. should i let him prove himself to me or should i just let him go?
2007-10-29 09:19:37 · update #1
People don't change over night and if he was acting like a 2 year old what proof do you have that he has changed? If you want to date (without sleep overs) for six-eight months first, then give it a try to see if he really has, in fact, grown up. If the answer is no, then he won't be able to keep up an 'act' that long and you'll know it before letting him into your home where it will be harder to get him back out of your life. And your son won't form an attachment to him. Remember, there are far worse things than being a single parent living alone.
2007-10-29 09:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that your ex is so childish. To begin with what do you call childish. Let him prove himself to you. Even though i think he deserves a second chance i think he should work for it. Let him show you that he is behaving like a man and not a child anymore. On the other hand maybe then he was trying to be funny or trying to make you smile by acting like a child. Remember that no one is perfect. I think he could be of good help to you and your child in terms of playing the roll of a man. I now believe that you having a child now will allow him to see how important it is for him to be a man both for you and the child.
2007-10-29 16:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by SAJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember there is a reason he is your ex. And because your lonely doesn't mean you should settle. And remember you son comes before anyone, and if you feel your just going to be argueing with him around your son, say no. Find someone else! There are plently of guys out there don't settle for your ex. And no he hasn't changed, guys don't change, they are the way they are. Once you guys get confrontable with each other again, it's going to be the way it was before. Move on girl!
2007-10-29 16:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by I Love my Baby Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it slow and let him prove to you that he has changed, and perhaps even try to get counseling for the two of you if you really care for him. It is better to be alone now for a while and find the right person than to get into another bad relationship and have another child perhaps to care for as well.
you can also use handwriting wizard perhaps to determine his maturity and how sincere the next man you meet may be.
Good luck to you.
2007-10-29 16:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason you broke up with him in the first place. Going back to him because you don't want to be alone is not a good reason to get back together. Stick to your decision and do what's best for you and your young son. Key word.."young"...plenty of time to find someone who's a better match for you, and a better influence on your child.
2007-10-29 16:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by julesl68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Childish? Remember that they'll never change... he'll probably be 60 and still being childish. Just go with your gut feeling.. though it is hard because this is your ex boyfriend, you'll always have that soft spot for him.. but don't let it cloud your decision.
2007-10-29 16:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first things first, How long has it been since you two have been apart? Has he really had time to change is the question you should ask yourself. If you are hesitant about having him around your child, then you have answered your own question. I would never have anyone around my children if I had to think about it. So my answer to you is to let it be OVER.
2007-10-29 16:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by hunt4 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Set some rules from the start. Tell him that there will be a probation period. Also be fair to him, and think about your 2 year old. He need a mature Dad.
2007-10-29 16:37:18 · answer #8 · answered by Diego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go back with him and just take a day at a time.. but talk with him tell him it is conditional... if he changes excellent
2007-10-29 16:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if just a little part of you has doubts about the two of you as a couple than move on!!
2007-10-29 15:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋