What is good disapline ideas for teens?

Question

give me some ideas for consequences,and rewards no ignorant things ! No hitting ,nothing stupid either If you answer dumd I will think your really inmature.

I can spell its a typo I am a mom I dont spend time here. I dont want to be mean to my kids but my son is out of control I need to get some type of order again I will not hit him or embarress him in front of his friends but I need ideas on how to get him to respect me but let him know I want to be there but want his best intrest too.

Answer 1

Is this a teen asking or a parent asking?

My thinking is the punishment should be a positive eye opener.

If the offending teen has plans to hang out with friends on Saturday afternoon - tell them 'no' - and then take them to do volunteer work somewhere in town - and you should go do it with them.

My suggestion would be not to talk about their actions which caused the punishment - you should talk about anything and everything but that - but keep it light, lively. If the teen brings up the incident, allow them to talk without answering - perhaps they'll admit the error of their ways without you saying a word. If they seem to get lost or confused you can add a few soft words to prompt what you think they're trying to say. But never lose focus on the work in front of you. When you're done you both should feel like you accomplished something positive - and perhaps you'll agree to do something similar together once a month. This could be a time for you both to communicate about what's going on in each other's lives, a chance for the teen to reassure you that they're working hard in school, staying away from drugs/smoking, keep you informed about their friends - and for you to share the important happening in your adult life.

Turn the negative in to a positive and bond.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I'm a teacher and one thing that works for me is to single the troublemaker out. For example, let everyone who comes to class on time have water, bathroom pass, etc. as a reward for respecting you. As a parent, you could take away privileges that you know the kid cares about and gradually give them back as behavior improves. You want the kid to be afraid of messing up, not getting caught. If you can make the kid fear the actual consequences of behaving in a negative way, not just the punishment for it, he or she will do the right thing even when no one is watching. We always have to start with extrinsic motivators (prizes) and move toward intrinsic motivators (conscience).

Answer 3

When I was a teen I would get sooo angry when my mother would take away the telephone,computer and going outside *any communication with the outside world*...t.v,radio,video games etc is ok but teens get over that fairly quickly...remove what is most important to them for the time being..most teens nowdays hate being stuck in the house with nothing to do *take away there freedom....

Rewards,in my opinion would consist of money,Taking them out whether it be dinner,movies,shopping etc.If u trust them give them enough money for themselves and 1 friend to a movie...Or u could have them choose a day for a sleepover or small party at the house *supervised*...Its pretty easy to please teens these days.

Answer 4

Take the cell phone away...I did, it is the ONLY thing that dented the issues... and my teen is always late for school be it only one minute or so but I said every time you are late for school you lose the phone for one more day... wow, what a charm this is! It really works,, and as far as texting.. if he goes over his limit, he pays and if the bill is not paid when I pay the bill get the phone until he pays me...who ever thought giving your teen a cell would teach so much?

Answer 5

Take away the computer monitor, or ipod, or cell phone...and then make the teen do some chores while being respectful until you feel good and ready to give the item(s) back.
And you will have to do this more than one time. Like for years...at least that is what I am learning. SIGH

Answer 6

He's already a teen and your only now thinking of consequences and you won't hit him? So you probably didn't discipline him when he was young....It's too late!!!!
What's making you decide at this late age to become a parent? This should have happened a long time ago.

Answer 7

You take what they love the most from them. T.V., Radio, Cell Phone, Computer, IPod,X Box, and Name Brand clothes! You know that kind of stuff. When their gone strip their room of all these things and place them in a safe place that you know they will not find. And ground them. That should do it. Then they will know you mean business. Who's the Boss? You the Boss!!!

Answer 8

Allowance and privleges should equal chores, such as doing dishes, taking out trash, raking leaves, keeping their room neat, completing homework before dinner, helping with house work, laundry, etc.

If they do them on-time they get their allowance and privledges, ie: x-box time, extended curfew, trips to the mall, allowed to have a job, etc. If they don't, they don't get privleges and no allowance or a reduced privleges and allowance.

Answer 9

In my experience with the youth of today, it is always good for them to have a pain reference. Just once you need to let them know that you mean business. After that you will only have to threaten the pain and they will comply. This doesn't mean hit them but something that hurts like squeezing finger will do the trick.
As for rewards for doing good things, maybe let them eat at the table with the grown folks.

Answer 10

For curfew my parents used to subtract time from the next outing if we came in late one night. For example, curfew was at 11pm, so if I came in at 11:30, then the next time I went out the 30 minutes got subtracted and my curfew for that night was 10:30. Over 45 minutes late and the next time you wanted to go out you couldn't go at all. I always thought it was unfair that if I came in early I didn't get that time added onto the next outing's curfew, but as my dad always said, "This isn't a democracy...it's a benevolent dictatorship."