She still talks to this guy that she was with for four years.
2007-10-29 08:40:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You make a decision to trust them. If she shows you in every way that you are the one in her life - than you have no reason not to trust her. If on the other hand, she isn't too open with you about things, well maybe it's just too soon to trust. If you're going to let it bother you, it WILL get in the way f having a good relationship. Talk to her about your feelings. Give her the opportunity to reassure you.
2007-10-29 08:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 Years is a LONG time! Sorry to say this but it sounds like your the rebound guy. You can't stop her from talking to the other guy, so you will have to decided if your feelings for her are worth hanging around for. If not maybe you should move on (at least) until she's over her breakup. Good Luck!
2007-10-29 15:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by QTpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend was with his last girlfriend for 3 years. They were good friends but not a good couple. They still talk, we've even hung out her a few times. I felt a little threatened by her at first but I realized that he doesn't want to be with her any more, just wants her as his friend still and that's perfectly all right with me.
2007-10-29 15:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by AnonOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was with my girlfriend for a few years and have kept in touch with her after we broke up. She also got married a few months ago.
I think you should be open about this with your girlfriend; find out what the relationship is like between the two of them and address what you don't like. That way the two of you can build trust with each other.
2007-10-29 15:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off... Does she make an attemp to hide her correspondence between her and him? If so I would make an attempt to keep a close eye out.... I've been with my now husband for 7 years and I can tell you If you feel there is something sneaky going on..... Then their probably is something going on!!!! Friendship is one thing but feelings are another thing.... Good luck and I hope all works out
2007-10-29 15:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by Holly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be okay that they are friends, but nothing more. Most people you date (esp as you get older) are going to have had previous relationships and some of them may even have been long term.
You've go to learn to trust, until you've got reason not to. If she hasn't given you any reason to doubt her yet, and you're not aware she was untrustworthy in her previous relationship, then relax and move forward.
2007-10-29 15:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What reason has she given you not to trust her?
There is nothing wrong with her still talking to this person.
2007-10-29 15:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about commitment. If she is committed to you, she will understand your frustration. I agree that you should not try to control your loved one's personal life, however she should be sensitive to your feelings. So long as you are not trying to isolate her from her friends, I believe that it is completely reasonable for you to ask her not to associate with this guy. In truth, most men don't have female friends, they have girls that they'd like to sleep with. Anyone who tells you different is lying!
2007-10-29 15:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by Kitten S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you trust anyone?
You either do or don't.
Lack of trust is our defense mechanism against betrayal.
If you are feeling threatened, you don't trust them.
2007-10-29 15:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by Doodles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GASP! She had a life before you!! The horror! Seriously if it bothers you that much and you can't talk to her about it then dump her
2007-10-29 15:44:13 · answer #10 · answered by Bug Fuggy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋