Have never been kissed, only went on one date. I'm 21 and I'm average looking.?

Question

I'm going to turn 21 in less than a week and I've never gotten a chance to kiss a girl or ask one out. I don't think I'm ugly, but I have trouble talking to girls I like. I don't think it's my looks: I weigh 158, stand 5' 9'' and have fairly muscular arms. I can talk to girls, but I can get nervous, especially around a girl in my college class, that I like. What is the main problem here? Please don't tell me I'm young because there are teenagers who go out with girls and I become upset when I see guys with girls and I never have anyone. Can I talk to a girl without making it seem weird, even if she really doesn't know me? Is the situation hopeless? My motive is not to have sex or take advantage of people, I just want to be happy in a relationship. Here is a picture of me to show you I'm not lying (Facebook profile). Please help, I can't take being alone for much longer.

http://tiu.facebook.com/profile.php?id=119400589

Answer 1

There is NOTHING wrong with you at all! Believe it or not, about 80% of girls graduate from high school without having a single bf or going on a date. Okay, I know that's a high-school girl statistic, but the point I'm trying to make is that the same thing goes for guys. I think your problem is desperation. You seem pretty desperate to be with somebody, and that isn't the way that real relationships form. Relationships happen naturally, so don't try so hard! Talk to girls like they're your guy friends (but censor yourself to a point - no language, dirty jokes, or nasty topics, at least not at first!). Ask them about class, tease them playfully, and only keep flirting if they seem interested. Talk to a bunch of different girls (get to know different people, you'll be surprised who you find!), go to parties, be active, but whatever you do, DON'T BE DESPERATE or clingy in any way whatsoever. Do your own thing, be confident in yourself, and girls will love you! Don't worry...when you're cool with yourself, everything will fall into place. Good luck!

Answer 2

You just need to build up your confidence. Don't worry about not being kissed because that will happen when the girl is right and it is better to have not been kissed than to be a father at a young age. Perhaps if you talk to other girls you are not interested in it will make it easier to talk to the one that you want to.
I will give you a link to as a man thinketh which may help you with your confidence as well. the longer you wait to get into a relationship the better the relationship will be many times. Good Luck to you!!

Answer 3

I promise not to tell you that you're young because you're certainly old enough to have a special someone. At the end of the day looks don't matter. It's your personality, optimism, intelligence, and your confidence that get you far. You have to accept yourself to allow others to accept you as well. You can only manipulate your mind for so long--you have to truly believe it. If you change the way you dress for example, it can boost up your confidence because you'll feel like the handsome guy you are on the inside as well. You know what you want so why not take that chance? When you talk to a girl you don't know, introduce yourself. Say, "hi my name is.... I'm studying so and so, are you taking blah blah classes?" It doesn't hurt to talk to a number of people, to get your courage up and running. Guys and girls--just making conversation with any people. That way when you get to object you desire, you won't freak out. You clearly are a good guy, with good intentions, so why not put yourself out there and get the best things out of life that you deserve. Some people have to take that step and not let life move for them. I wish you the best man.

Answer 4

Understand this, there is not a man in this world who does not know how to speak with a female. It is in your blood, you only need to see. So I will give you a tip, survey yourself and write done your strengths and erase your weaknesses off the map. Two, understand that you need to change your definition from girls to women. Before anything, understand that confidence in self proceeds even before looks or mental defects. Show you as you and believe in you fully, they will be turned on because they interpret the physical by emotion. Your equilibrium will be the deliverence of what you need as opposed to what you want right now. It worked for me because I suffered with the same problem.

Answer 5

I think that the key is first to love yourself, my friend. You have to feel comfortable with yourself before you are to feel comfortable around anyone else; females included. The key with conversation is not to force it or push it along unnaturally. Also, don't stress yourself with benchmarks. I didn't kiss someone until I was 17 and that was considered late (this was a decade ago). The fact of the matter is, a benchmark is something that other people set and something you don't have to live by. Don't put undue pressure on yourself. Love yourself, be yourself and enjoy.

Answer 6

You need to take the plunge and just start talking :) Be friendly :) It doesn't have to mean a date. Just say hi or how are you...........after being friendly for a while you can talk about more things. It's very easy once you get going with it. You just have feel good about you and what you have to say. People like attention so it would be welcomed, I am sure :)

Answer 7

Hit the club with bars and have fun, meet new people. And dont wait for it to happen,remove yourself from "circle of luck" and take your dating life in control. Get some cool hobbies, new friends, change your style and be well groomed, stop being "mr nice guy" and try to please people all the time.
Read some David Deangelo too, it might help you.

Answer 8

Would it help if you really got to know a girl before actually talking to her face to face? Try online dating. There are a ton of free sites and it worked fantastic for me. That way you will be able to clearly express your thoughts and feeling in an email message for the initial getting to know her period.

Answer 9

try making and maintaining eye contact with any girl that u talk with, it usually helps to overcome the shyness. i'm going through the same problem now.

Answer 10

listen the girls you are after are way out of your league.. start with someone you atually have something in common with.. those HOT girls, like parties and like going out to all sorts of places... you don't! (how do I konw that right)...

Try a homlier girl first, this way she will be happy going to Blockbuster and watch a movie at your house... got it?