If your fiance (a guy) broke up with (the woman), should the woman keep the ring (worth appx. $13,000)?

Question

If your fiance (a guy) broke up with you (the woman), should the woman keep the ring (worth appx. $13,000) and why?

Answer 1

Well in terms of good manners. If HE is the one doing the breaking up then it would be very bad form for him to ask for the ring (he should have been sure before he gave it to her).
If SHE is doing the dumping she should give it back (she shouldn't want the ring if she doesn't want the man it came from).

HOWEVER there are always unknown circumstances where these rules don't apply. For example if he catches her screwing around...I think he then has the right to demand the ring back even though he's dumping her.

Answer 2

As 2 adults, the couple really need to collaborate on who gets the ring when the engagement ends. While every couple's situation is different, there are certain guidelines/etiquette for the engagement ring when a relationship ends. First, the ring is returned to whomever purchased the ring. Second, if the man doesn't want the ring back then the woman can keep it or sell it. Third, if the ring is an heirloom, it is returned to the family of origin. Last, if the ring was purchased together (joint funds) the ring should be returned or sold and the money split. If the couple can not solve this by the 4 issues listed then one should consult a lawyer b/c of the value and some states do have precise laws about the status of the ring after a broken engagement.

Answer 3

that's tricky.

if he paid for the ring and the break up was HIS choice, then yes, the woman can keep the ring.

if she cheated on him and he found out, then technically, she broke up the engagement and should give it back.

now, here's the tricky part....if the ring was presented on a holiday, like christmas or valentine's day, the no matter what the girl can keep it b/c it can be viewed at a "gift" in a court of law.

NOW, if both parties paid for the ring, then no matter WHO broke it off, the ring should be returned or sold and the money should be split.

it's really dependent on MANY factors.

the nice thing is that unless the ring is an antique of some sort, then he'll barely get anything back for it if he tries to sell it.

i had a ring appraised at $9,000 and i got $2500 for it!

sucks.

Answer 4

It is up to the woman and the reason for the break-up. But, basically put, the ring is a gift. She can choose to give it back or not.

Some say there is an implied promise with the ring, so, if the promise isn't fulfilled, the ring should be returned. This is when I say it depends on the reason for the break-up. Cost is not a factor.

Answer 5

. . . depends on why he broke up with you. If you did nothing wrong then you should certainly keep the ring mainly because if it really was worth $13,000 then he surely has enough money to buy another one for the next unlucky girl. But, if he broke up with you because you went out with someone else then you are in the wrong and should return the ring.

Answer 6

The tradition goes that if the woman breaks up with the man she gives back the ring. If the man breaks it off she keeps the ring as compensation for his breaching a contract to marry.

Answer 7

Give the ring back. Honestly why would you want to keep it anyway? When my ex fiance broke up he kept the ring and I didn't really care. It doesn't matter if it was worth $1 or $100,000...the ring stands for a promise to get married...if the promise is broken the ring should go back to him.

Answer 8

No. If it were me I would give it back because I wouldn't want to keep anything that is somewhat attached to him. And I wouldn' t want to give him an excuse to continue contacting me if he is asking for it. So I would give it back to him.

However; if there has been a lot of money invested in this event on your part and this ring will cover the expenses then I would say sell the ring for it's value. Either way I wouldn't keep it because it would just continue to bring up that bad memory.

Answer 9

I suppose it matters how the relationship ends; for instance, if it is the woman's fault (cheating, breaks up) then the ring should be returned. However, if it is the man's fault for the break up, then she should be allowed the keep the ring.
The ring symbolizes that the man wants to be with the woman for the rest of his life; if she does something that changes he feelings, she should return the ring.

Answer 10

$13000? Wow, that is a lot of money for the ring. Would you feel right in keeping it? He could surely use that money for something useful. Besides, you two are broken up. Whether or not he was a douchebag or not (I'm not implying he was either), you should do the right and responsible thing and return the ring to him.