dating again???
2007-10-29 08:19:22 · 27 answers · asked by Raven 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ah, I just went through this...
TIME, takes lots and lots of time depending on how fragile you are and what not. Hopefully the next one will just kind of fall into your lap (no pun intended) That is what happened to me and made it soooo much easier.
2007-10-29 08:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by Shane P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that each person that we meet, interact with, and get intimate with in life is there to teach us and to learn from us. When the lesson is complete, it is time for us to move on and learn from or teach someone else. The ending of that relationship does not negate or diminish the experience we had with that person.
Think about the lessons, learn from them, and then, open your heart and mind, and look forward to the next relationship, experience, and lesson. If you didn't learn anything, the same lesson will be brought to you again, through a different person. If you successfully learned, it will be time for a new experience; a new relationship.
Choose to let the hurt end, mentally thank the person for the lesson they brought you, painful though they were, and wish them the best in the rest of their life. Forgive them for hurting you; forgive yourself for suffering from their actions. You did not make the choice to hurt. They did and they will still have that lesson to learn; how it feels to be hurt the way they hurt someone else.
2007-10-29 08:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that there is a measurable risk to any action that you can make. Get out there and do not look back. Show that you have yourself together by putting together your body and mind. Never look down, and hold your standard before all things. The most succesful marriages are the ones that the women do not seek but they prepared for. Close your biases, and the natural will work itself out because you dreamed and lived positively.
If you cannot, live wholly unto yourself and your beliefs. The worst thing one can do is to live in the "You Remind Me" of my ex stage.
2007-10-29 08:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by GodCares 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give your self time to heal, and to forgive.
Then you set out to do the things you love to do, as a single person, enjoying yourself.
While you are enjoying yourself, having fun you will spot someone who catches your eye.
Don't rush into dating again, focus on getting along and being happy. If you start dating to soon, you will carry all those hurts, suspicions and whatever other hard feelings you have into the new one, and that would not be fair to your new flame.
2007-10-29 08:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by silly_me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with someone just once.. that will probably hurt, but hey, it will be a nice change, and ur out.. I'm kinda in the same boat as u dude, and tried dating, and i ended up leaving them and im back to where i started.. except I feel better than before because at least i tried, and i met new people.. it doesnt have to be WE'RE DATING, it can just be a one night dinner, or just for some coffee, if you want to keep it going, meet again.. easier said than done, but you've gotta push yourself to the edge on this one. you've got nothin to lose- if it works out, ull feel better, if not, then ur back on here asking strangers' advice no more hurt than now.
2007-10-29 08:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by mine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol how old are you bro? just think you have been hurt is it even worth it do you think that she is ever gonna come back ill tell you from personal experiance that she probably wont and dont let yourself get totally head over heals for these women i was married for 5 years and out of the blue she wasnt happy and wanted a divorse, im remarried now and she is the best i could have ever asked for so it alwways gets better than the last;)
2007-10-29 08:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by einstein22003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be really hard to trust at first but you have to go into it sometime. Just take it slow. Make friends with a couple girls first. This will help boost your ability to trust. Then, just start looking for aomeone to date. Don't get attached too soon. Back off a bit until you know that she is worthy of your trust.
2007-10-29 08:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by jasmine.smith60 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has been hurt at some point in thier life and yet most people still manage to pull it together and get back on their feet in the dating world.
take some time to let the wound heal, then get back out there. Someone out there will be happy to love you.
2007-10-29 08:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by morbidlybeautiful 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna take time. Just start enjoying urself. Forget bout the past.. and let the good times roll.
2007-10-29 08:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by Secret Kay. 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first, dont listen to any of those gay ppl above.
second, think that there is someone out there who wants and likes the same stuff you do, and its worthy trying to find that someone.. even if u get really hurted...
third, try to shut ur feelings down for the moment, and eventually u ll get over it. human beings can forget
and last, when you are dating, dont ever talk to the ladys about your ex. :P
2007-10-29 08:28:32 · answer #10 · answered by Augusto m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋