death and grieving?

Question

I just lost a loved one my Cousin died of Overdose and the pain and Hurt keep Coming back how can i move on from that everytime i think of the good times It Makes me Burst into tears and i didnt get a chance to say goodbye

Answer 1

I am so sorry for your loss.

Allow yourself to grieve. It is the only way to move on and it can take a good deal of time.

You will eventually accept that your cousin is gone, but there will always be a little pain and hurt associated with it.

Time really does help.

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Time and prayer are the only things that can help reduce your pain. I lost my mom in a car wreck 10 years ago and it still hurts when I think of her. I didn't get to tell her goodbye either. But then I think about how fortunate I was to have her in my life while I did. And I think about how she wouldn't want to be responsible in any way for causing me pain. So to show my love and appreciation for her I am trying to make the most of my life. Think about if it had been you instead of your cousin. Would you have wanted your cousin's life to be filled with pain because you weren't there? I don't believe you would. So I don't think your cousin would either. So remember and be thankful for the good times you had with your cousin. And if you need to cry, do it. There is nothing wrong with grieving. It must be done. Death is just another stage of life. Time will eventually help heal the severity of your pain. My prayers are with you.

Answer 3

I am sorry for you. Death is a sad and grieving ... matter. I think that pain needs a certain time in order to disapear from your heart. Try to go on, day after day, thinking of your Cousin before he died, when he was still alive and bright.
think that 'say goodbye' is important but if you could not give him your last 'see you in another life' this is nevertheless a chance you have when the time will come.
In the meanwhile, live with all your strenght and power to love. Live as if you had to live not one but two lives: your life and his life that was too soon and abruptly ended by that damned overdose. Above all: stay away from drugs! don't waste your life as he did.
I know I cannot give you consolation by means of my words ... sorry.

Answer 4

i've experienced quite the same thing. i lost my dad about a year ago n i didn't even had the chance to say goodbye and kiss him for the last time. i was depressed for about more than half a year. i'm far better now

it's normal to burst into tears whenever u think of all the good times with your cousin. time will heal everything. don't worry. if u wanna put your heart at ease, just think of him/her going to a better place.. u don't lose your cousin, he/she is always in your heart, rite? be strong. u'll make it through this!

Answer 5

Having experienced this myself I would have originally said dive in to your work, school anything and just stay busy. It wasn't until about three months later I realized I had developed and pattern of run and hide. We must live through our grief it's a painful process but a healing process as well it never goes away but the pain subsides and the really wonderful part is all I remember today is all the great times we shared...When I think about her today I see her cracking up over something funny....she always was the first to laugh and that memory makes me the first to smile today. I'm so sorry for your loss. Please find some comfort in my words.Take care and talk to someone who shares in your pain.

Answer 6

I asked the same thing when my father died. You need to remember your cousin. How do you move on, well that is up to you and it doesn't happen quickly. Every reacts to the death and grieving process different. TIME will get you through. Eventually the pangs are not there.

Answer 7

I lost a very close loved one at the end of September. I cried randomly thinking about him for the first week. The funeral didn't help me much, but at the funeral Cameron's brother stood up to talk to us. He discussed how for several days all he could think was, "Why did he have to die?" And that question persisted in his mind. Finally he found the answer. Cameron was only meant to be on this planet for the 21 years that he was. Everything he was meant to accomplish he did. You just need to think to yourself that everything is going to be ok and know that your cousin is going to be okay now. He'll be watching over you. But don't stop thinking of the good times you had with him. Although thinking about the great times I had with Cameron makes me cry sometimes, it makes me happy to think that I had those times with him because I wouldn't have given them up for anything in the world...Everything's going to be ok, time won't heal everything but as time passes, things are gonna get easier...

Answer 8

Give yourself time. And possibly seek out a grief counseling group (Rainbows is one if you are under 18). There are stages to grief and you must pass through them and come to terms with it in your own time. Forcing yourself to move on before you are ready is no more healthy than getting stuck in one stage (sad, anger, denial...wherever). Remembering good times is a great suggestion when you are ready for that and can handle it, otherwise, you might want to stop forcing yourself to think of the times you had with him. It will all just take time. Even though now it may seem impossible to make progress, you will!

Answer 9

well I lost my boyfriend 3 months ago in a car accident:( What I did was that I distracted myself by doing other stuff like hanging out alot with my friends you know have that support. Keep yourself busy

Answer 10

i'm sorry to hear this, write your cousin a letter saying everything you want or need to say. just getting it out most of the time will help. remember that they know you loved them and they are watching you now. goodluck.