i.m having depression over going to work becouse of my maneger?

Question

i.m not sure what to do... could i quit my job i just feel like crying were can i get help

Answer 1

Have you got a Human Resources worker - if so, speak to them. If not, are you in a union? If not, have you tried talking to her/him? If you cant talk to him, what about putting in writing how your manager makes you feel and give it to them. You have nothing to lose if you are thinking of leaving anyway. keep the letter straight to the point and dont abuse them or they can sue you!! Be courteous but straight. If this does not work and you do leave, make sure you have secured a reference before you tell him/her to go and lie on the motorway!! Good Luck and dont forget, life is far too short to stay in anything you are not happy with, what is the point of looking back on your life and knowing for the main part you were so unhappy? Get it sorted or move on matey. Good luck

Answer 2

Your company must have someone higher up than your manager. If so, go directly to that person and outline exactly what your manager is doing that makes you so emotionally upset. Your manager is breaking the law. At least in the United States.

Calm down and take an entire day to write out times and dates and things that were said or done. Do not embellish, just state clearly what was done. Keep a diary from this day forward and document everything, especially times and dates.

Just state facts. Not emotional outbursts

The next time your manager says something to you that upsets you, look him/her directly in the eye and say, what you just said makes me very "uncomfortable" (use that word) and I would appreciate if you stop saying or doing these things that I consider to be harassment.

Harassment in any form is against the law. Know the law and it will protect you. Good luck and don't cry. Crying will not solve this problem. Gather up all your strength of purpose and know you are in the right and your manager is in the wrong.

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. I had a boss like that before and I realized that I had two choices. 1) continue to go to work and be unhappy, but still get a paycheck or 2) find a new job as soon as possible.

The choice is up to you, but from my experience, there are crappy people everywhere you go, so your next job will have one too. But really is there a point to be miserable every day of your life? Probably not.

You need to make your life great. It does not come easy, but if you make yourself happy then that is what matters most.

Answer 4

Well, you are going thru what many people goes thru. Once you find a job, and all goes well, there is always someone who puts a spin on everything.

Do you have a human resources department? If so, you might want to speak to someone and alert them of the situation. I work in the HR department and we work to help build up the employee's moral in the work place. Of course HR must hear both sides, but you can ask to remain anonymous for now since you are just making a initial complaint.

If this this does not go well or doesn't work, ask yourself this question.. Do I like to work here? if not, it's time to move on.

Put your resume out there and see what it may fish out.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Personally, if I was dissatisfied with my employment, I would begin looking for a new job, and keep my old one until I found something.

Is this manager, giving you a hard time for a personal reason, or does he treat all the employees the same?

Bottom line, I would start looking now. That will also make the day better, because you know that it is only for a little while longer, and you can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

good luck.

Answer 6

You need to seek professional help first. This will enable you to see as to whether your perception of what your relationship with your manager is reality. Sometimes when we are depressed we dont perceive the world in a real way. Being depressed is like looking at everything through a fog. Try not to quit your job - having no job and no money will only make your depression worse.

Answer 7

I was a manager myself and i know how it feels like! When that happens its simply because he/she is stressed and unfortunately takes an easy way out i.e. on his/her staff
It sometimes helps to confront that person which by the way i got most of the times and got resolved but in extreme cases, counselling helps or even request for a transfer out to another branch if possible. Quiting will only succeed in one thing...you without a job, bills accumulating etc. Trust me, quitting is not the solution and remember work is work don't take it personal. Stay strong you hear?

Answer 8

Oh, honey, I am so sorry. That is so miserable.
Can you quit your job? Can you afford it? Can you get something else lined up quickly?
You didn't give much of a description of what's going on but if this is a dime-a-dozen job then quit and find something else!
It's not worth it to spend however many hours a day being completely miserable because of another person.
Make sure your managers boss knows why you quit. Either tell him/her or write a letter.
Good Luck.

Answer 9

I'd look at myself first if I was in that situation. If you quit this job, your going to quit your next job, and your next job. I'd say your next step should be some good self help books. I'd start with personality plus, the five love languages, how to win friends and influence people and maybe how I brought myself from failure to success in selling. these will all help you with just about any problem you could come across. good luck, Dave

Answer 10

Girl i know its tough to work for crappy bosses.You need to figure out what you are gonna do.You may need to talk to a counselor or maybe a friend or family member.In a little while you will look back on this and not even care about it!We have all been there just ask somebody!You are not alone!