i love this girl sooo much and i want to be with her i see her every day at work and i know she loves me too!! but my parents HATE black ppl!!! HELP!!
2007-10-29 07:19:18 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Um, are you actually dating or what? I mean, you can't possibly be "in love" with someone just from conversations at work and sweet glances over the register. Love is much deeper and based on getting to know who someone truly is. If you've dated for a while and you KNOW this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, then I would be more than willing to stand up to my parents and tell them "this is just how it's going to be." But if this is just a crush, I'm not sure I'd upset my parents as much as this will. Overall, they are WRONG to have the feelings they do but you'll find through age and wisdom that it's very difficult to change people's perspective when they get older. Your parents may NEVER come around to being ok with the idea of you being with a black girl, but you can hope they will learn to respect your decision and love you anyway. At the very least, they should be expected to treat whomever you love with respect and common courtesy.
2007-10-29 07:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have to realize that your life is not your parents life. If you guys are in love, then be together! Or else you may miss out on the best thing that's ever happen to you. I am currently in a inter racial relationship (I'm black, my boyfriend's white), before we got together, he told me how his parents were, he told me that he doesn't care and he's an adult and if he's finds happiness with someone outside his race then they would just have to deal with it! If your parents hate black people that is their cross to bare, you just be happy with the person you love. I hope this helped.
Stay Strong.
Stay Positive.
2007-10-29 07:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your parents hate black people? wow! I think you should start to make them change their mind, talking about some black person you know with good qualities, i´t can´t be that bad?
then later you can introduce the girl as just a friend and take it from there..if you really love each other, and your parents can´t deal with it, then it´s their loss; I would never let the love of my life go, just because my parents don´t approve of his race, nationailty etc...if your parents are really are racists, you should think about if you want hateful people in your life in the first place...GOOD LUCK!!
2007-10-29 07:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love knows no color. Unfortunately your parents are a big part of your life I'm sure. If the person treats you right and you love them and vise versa it shouldn't matter of skin color.... Love who you want to love!!!! It's not their life, they can't chose who you love or don't love. Don't let anyone dictate your love life!!!
Congrats on finding love, hold on to it. Just remember even now the world hasn't changed much... You will still get the stares and whispers some places you go.
2007-10-29 07:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by Margaritaville 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how that is, I was in a similar situation, and my significant parent that raised me feels that way about white people. The way that I handled that situation was to simply keep my white partner away from my family until they accepted him. I still maintained a relationship with both, I just did it separately. Maybe that might work for you.
2007-10-29 07:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by sustasue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are but I have been there done that.My parents and hers got together and sent her away to live with an aunt but we stayed friends until she died a couple of years ago.Good luck.
2007-10-29 07:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parent's blessing has a lot to do in your future too. If you've paid attention to life so far you'd know what I mean
2007-10-29 07:27:57 · answer #7 · answered by I need help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. i like this white boy but i can't date him cause my parents hate white people. the only thing that i can say is hang out with her as much as possible then when you turn 18 your parents can't say anything. it is all up to you. either you stay with this young lady are you listen to your parents. all i can say is listen to your heart.
2007-10-29 07:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if it's worth losing your relationship with your parents, if that's the case. If you know they will accept your decision than do what you feel is right.
2007-10-29 07:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by brandielynn320 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say you're in love with her you should NOT care about what parents think, say, or do. In my opinion you should fight for her that way you are happy not your parents. they won't be there for ever it's all up to you now
2007-10-29 07:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋