People disrespect me a lot and about three-fourths of the time I do not even deserve it. I really want people to respect me and to look up to me. Well, what I mainly want is people to stop disrecting me and stop taking their anger out on me as if using me as a scapegoat to take their anger out on. The feeling really sucks and I wish to know how to prevent this from ever happening again. I am starting to go insane and I need some advice before I completely lose it. I sometimes get really disturbed and feel excessively helpless and a misleading vibe when people try to get crazy with stares or mentally imply something negative towards me and I need some advice. If you have any advice that you opinion might contribute let me know by messaging me please.
2007-10-29 07:14:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Almost all of us deal with people who disrespect us at some time or another. When I run into these people I see them as the problem, not me. I don't give them the time of day if it is possible. If I have to interact with them, I keep it very superficial and keep my contact with them at a minimum. Please understand, this is everywhere and we can't get caught up in their outrageous behavior. Don't do anything that gets you into trouble. There will be no understanding of that.
2007-10-29 08:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"three-fourths of the time I do not even deserve it" This leads me to believe that you deserve it more frequently that you are telling us. Perhaps you should take a long hard look at yourself and ask yourself why people treat you this way. What it is that you do that makes people respond to you like this? It may just be that you are really annoying.
"mentally imply something negative towards me " Again, it sounds like you are wildly insecure, and may be blowing things out or proportion. Consider seeing a shrink, who may help you sort this out.
2007-10-29 07:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay guy, heres the thing, you keep asking these questions, like why do you care? If ppl treat you that way, and you try and accept responsibility for it, your pretty much saying its your fault and you are doing something to deserve this kind of treatment.
STOP IT, you cannot control these ppl
They are rude
IT IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM
Ignore them
If they dont stop, tell them to
My mom told me I needed to be more wise and cunning because ppl get jealous of me and I needed to be able to trick them and blah blah blah and it made me go insane pretty much
Ever hear "kill em with kindness"?
You need to respect yourself, do something adventous that will feed your spirit, something GOOD, involving fresh air and sunshine, or wind on your face or something. IDK what your active hobbies are but you could learn how to snowboard, or surf, depending on where you live and whats available. Save up for a dirt bike, a snowmobile, challenge yourself, believe in yourself.
Do things for ppl who are less fortunate than you, just yesterday I gave a homeless man all of my empty cans and plastic bottles, he has this cart he pushes around and he collects these things from the garbage. I saved all of mine to give to him because he obviously is working hard at what hes doing and omg, he was so appreciative, I dont think im a saint or anything, but I was so happy I decided to save them for him and he was too.
If somebody treats you that way, look at them like they are an idiot, and if they say what are you looking at? Raise your eyebrows and look away shaking your head very subtlely.
You have to acknowledge to yourself that that behaviour is unacceptable, and dont accept it, let it go right over your head, you have to this a lot, confidence is like a bed, it has to be remade every day.
Good luck, work hard at your dreams and then wait and see, once you are on your way, noone will be able to touch you.
2007-10-29 07:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by MNgirl@thebeach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go "insane" because people suck. Seriously, everyone is an asshole and what you need to do is put them in check. The next time someone disrespects you stand up for yourself (your worth it!). That will teach them a lesson and that they have no right and cannot walk all over you. Don't get down on yourself because others don't like themselves and are trying to make themselves feel better by shi*ting on you. Don't even let it get to you, dish it right back because you're better than being treated like crap.
See what I mean, a "thumbs down" ohhhhh no whatever will I do. I told you people are as*holes!
2007-10-29 07:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I suggest that you build up your self-esteem and as you do that, pay little or no attention to those who make derogatory remarks, vent their anger and do other negative things directed at you.
The more attention you pay to negative things, the worse off you'll be.
2007-10-29 07:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by ha_mer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to figure out why you don' think you are worthy of respect. B/c no one who knows there worth will let people do that. And what is the worst they can do to you if you stand up to them......not talk to you. That sounds like a relief to me. Pray for boldness and strength. Let God give you what to say. I don't know if you believe in God or not, but I do. I used to and still am sometimes like you. but I realized that I am and you are fearlessly and wonderfully created by God. And people who constantly do this to you aren't happy with themselves and that's not your issue.
2007-10-29 07:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Melinda S 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Pal, you have a serious persecution complex, get over it, nobody can make you feel anything.
2007-10-29 08:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by LimeyinAmerica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋