Im 13, and want to have sex.. Is That a Bad Thing?

Question

does it hurt??

Answer 1

Do not take this step so early. You will be forever labeled as someone who is easy and that will cause you so many problems, both now and later in life. I'm not saying you have to wait for marriage, but just wait until you are mature enough to handle any of the consequences that can occur from sex. In the end its up to you, you can let this boy have his way with you and probably dump you a week or so later and tell all of his friends how easily you gave it up to him and then have them all trying to do the same thing, possibly leading to STD's or pregnancy, but most DEFINITELY leading to rumors and name calling and a legacy of being "the easy girl". Does it hurt? Yeah, it hurts to have a baby, it hurts to have an STD, it hurts to have people call you horrible hurtful names and be remembered for being the easy girl at school. But if this is what you want, go for it.

Answer 2

It is not only a bad thing but a hugely bad idea. If you are worried about pain of the "first time" that is the least of your worries - there is the real pain of child birth nothing is 100% but abstinence (just say no). If your boyfriend is pressuring you - he is not worth the effort. Your fist experience should be made with an adult head - try waiting a little longer because once it's done you can never go back. I recommend waiting until you are at least 17-18 and even better until after you are 20 so you have a HS diploma and maybe some college to help you in the decision. Sex isn't a "fun" thing it is a huge part of a real committed relationship and shouldn't ever be done "just to get it over with". You are more valuable than your body parts. Make sure the person you choose is worth this very special gift and at 13 you have no way of knowing if this guy is going to be there after wards if anything goes wrong.

Answer 3

Why would you want to rush into something you really are not educated enough about and not emotionally ready for? Anyone who engages in any type of sexual activity should have full knowledge of the high risk of pregnancy and stds. Also the way you behave today will follow you throughout your life time. You are so very young, this is the time to pay attention to your studies so that you can become financialy set in your future. Trust me, most people who are older than you always say, "If I only knew back then what I know now I would have done things differently". Too many young people are so rushed to grow up and before you know it life passes you by, chances to build and strive for a good life is all of a sudden gone or limited. Emotionally you can get hurt. Most guys at this age just want to sleep with as many girls as they can. This can leave you feeling used and can affect your self esteem. Please want better for your self. Why not be the exception to the rule? Somehow I feel you will not take my advice. At least I tried, later down the years you will think about what I have said. Best of luck to you anyway!

Answer 4

It's not bad as in morally wrong, but perhaps bad as in poorly advised. Although the desire may be there, at 13 you may not be emotionally ready for sex and the possible risks associated with it. Do you have ready access to birth control (condoms, the pill, etc.) or the morning after pill if these precautions fail? Are you involved with someone who is going to treat you gently and care for you? It doesn't have to be your true love, but should at least someone understanding. Is he older than you and if he has had sex before, has he been tested for STDs? Educate yourself on all aspects of sexuality, NOT just whether it will hurt the first time or not. That's really one of the least important aspects of it and it's something you should probably think about more before rushing into it at 13. You're still a kid!

That said, if you go slowly and gently it shouldn't hurt much. It might be uncomfortable, but for me it wasn't too bad. However, at this age I'd recommend you stick to masturbation, on your own or with a friend, and wait a few years for intercourse.

Answer 5

Wanting to have sex at 13 is the bodies natural reaction to hormones... letting you know that your body says it's ready.

The HUGH unfortunate thing is that the hormones NEVER EVER have a calm conversation with the brain to ask if ALL SYSTEMS are ready. And at 13 - the rest of your systems are not ready.

Does it hurt? A bit at first.

Sex is NOT LOVE - Sex with someone doesn't mean that they love you. It doesn't mean that they will EVER love you.

Think carefully before you do something you can't EVER take back.

This is not a pair of jeans you can try on and buy now knowing you can always return them if your friends don't like them.

This is a once in a lifetime thing.

Choose wisely.

Answer 6

Yes it is. You are unable to support a child and NO FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL IS 100%.

53% of pregnancies occur in women who are using birth control.

The failure rate for using a condom ( and I mean exactly the way it should be used all the time) is 15%. If you don't use it right, or for typical use, the failure rate is much higher.

IF the failure rate for the condom is 15% then that would obviously make your chances of contracting a disease very similiar.

Are you ready to risk getting HIV, AIDS, or one of the other UNCURABLE diseases? Can you afford the high medical costs involved in treating these uncurable diseases??

Can you afford diapers, formula, the cost of the childbirth, clothing, a home, utilities??

Think you can handle going to school and a job???

Do you think welfare will help, it WILL NOT pay your bills, rent, food, etc... it's just not enough.

A re you ready to risk throwing away your future, no college, no parties, no prom because you are home taking care of a child?

If you aren't ready for the above then you ARE NOT READY TO HAVE SEX.

Sex is more than an action...it's more like a chain reaction, the act itself can lead to so much more than can completely ruin your life and destroy your future.

It's not a joke, it's not cool, it's not the thing to do. It's a SERIOUS issue and not to be taken lightly.

Answer 7

honey, don't you think you're a little too young for that? I mean, I know that a lot of girls your age have sex already, but it doesn't make it right. Sex is supposed to be about love and at your age it's really hard to tell. You think you love a guy, and then you realize that you really didn't love him, so then you're in another relationbship and the same thing happens, so you end up with a big list of guys you've had sex with. Wait until you're older because the more mature you are the easier it is to know when you love someone and when you dont. Don't do it yet. you will regret it.

Answer 8

Only you can choose what is right for you, and don't ask complete strangers.

I was 13 and it was a threesome my first time. The only regret I had was that I didn't know more positions, and let her "go down" on me afterwards, like she asked. Thinking back, I should have let her. I enjoyed my teen years learning more along the way. :)

Now, as a father of a little girl, I pray that she stays away from boys, gets her education and a career doing what she loves, then she can have any guy she wants, or none at all. Her choice, and I hope I teach her to make good decisions in life.

Just don't get knocked up or get any diseases, for God's sake!

Answer 9

That first time you have sex it hurts a little. People on here will either be really gross or call you a whore, but what you really should be thinking is if you were to get pregant would you be willing to a) raise a child on your own, b) marry this person that you had sex with and never date or sleep with anyone else, c) does this person feel the same way about you that you feel about them? Honestly I wouldn't do it if I were you, in fact I was you about 4 years ago and I regret it very much. If you do decide to have sex at your age you need to think about whether you'll regret it later when you get married....if you do "do it" be careful and please make him wear a condom.

Answer 10

Don't rush it! Most people's first time was with a person that did them wrong after he got what he wanted. You should wait until the right person comes along so you will not regret your decision later in life. Keep your urges and deny your curiosity, because there are too many diseases and risks involved with having sex just for the sake of having sex. Besides you should atleast wait 5 more years.