Mother-in-laws?

Question

Are there any *nice* mother-in-laws out there?

I do realize I'm probably going to get comments from mother-in-laws themselves, but I'd really like to her from daughter-in-laws :)

Thanks for your input!

Answer 1

I know of some mother in laws who are wonder full to there sons and daughter in laws. However, a mother in law is like a good man they are few out there and hard to find.

Answer 2

I have two mothers in law...and they both have their days.
One is secure, loud, proud, will tell you exactly what she thinks, a drinker and a smoker.
The other is insecure, threatened by the first wife (even though its been 20+ years), never says anything to your face, andmakes underhanded comments.

I have had problems moreso with the insecure one, only because she can never just say something and be done with it. We had a huge fight with her and his dad right before our daughter was born because no one on that side of the family came to the baby shower - all because she was insecure around the first wife. And, the "fight" was never talked about - it was all done over email. Ridiculous.
Everything got better after that, and then when I got induced she was a total b*tch to everyone at the restaurant we ate at before we all went to the hospital. I was going to kill her, but I think the dad talked to her in the car because she acted nicer to his mom when we got to the hospital and over the next couple of days.

I think its a matter of how you were raised, your personality and thier personality. I was raised to say how I feel. I prefer to talk to someone about a problem, try to resolve it, and if it ends in a fight (rarely, but some times) then have it out and be done with it. I have a hard time with my husband's dads side only because they are underhanded in the way they go about things and never will tell you if they are mad or offended at something you have done. There is always tension and a "fakeness" with them that I hate.

Both women are nice though and generally we get along well...I am sure it takes patience on all sides some times though. I know I am not perfect.

Answer 3

I LOVE my mother in law. She has only boys and I am the first Daughter-in law. She and I will go out just us two when my husband is working at night. She and I get along great-and not that fake ignoring problems great. We disagree on some things but we each know our boundaries.

It also helps that she and my mom get along great. My husband and I host a "taco night" at our home once a week where both families get together so all know what is happening in each others lives. This is particularly handy for announcing big things. It makes both families feel welcome and important.

Always remember that though she is your spouses mother, You are their partner for life and putting mom down is only going to drive a wedge between you two not them and her.

Answer 4

I have a very nice mother-in-law she has always been sweet and very caring. She is also a big help with wedding stuff (I have never been behind the scenes at any wedding).

She is taking care of our rehearsal dinner and given us a generous donation for the wedding and paying for half of our honeymoon. She hasn't butted in once or interfered with our wedding plans. She only offered her opinion when asked. She a truly wonderful person.

So yes there out there, a few any ways.

Best wishes and good luck with your future in-laws

Answer 5

My mother in law passed away about 16 months ago. Even in the throes of her wasting illness she was able to teach me things about being a good husband and parent. There is not a day that goes by that I don't thank God that she was in my life. Helping to care for her during the last 5 years of her life was an honor and a privilege.

Answer 6

It's motherS-in-law. I have an amazing one, so did my three sisters and brother. Mine raised 11 kids, and is a truly wonderful woman.
For most women, I think they totally consider the family they are marrying into, not just 'the man' - it's part and parcel.
I think for those women having trouble with their in-laws, the most important thing to remember is that mom raised the man you love and are marrying, or married to, so she can't be THAT bad! If there are huge problems, just be polite and respectful.

Answer 7

I've been a daughter-in-law to two women.. One couldn't stand me. The other one loves me more then she loves her own daughter (who hates my guts). So we have a pretty good relationship. But mother-in-laws have to know when to let their children go. We flounder and we flourish. But I can say that I can go to my mother-in-law IF I truly needed anything at all (within reason). I hope this helps.

Answer 8

My MIL is possibly the most difficult person to endure that I have ever met. She is not a raging, evil person, but she is passive-aggressive, needy, and completely irrational. Towards the end of her week-long visit, I spend a lot of time in the bedroom screaming into pillows.

She'll offer to make dinner, then fall apart because she isn't sure if it is okay to salt the roast before putting it in the oven. She'll ignore my toddler doing something dangerous because she is afraid of interfering...she just looks the other way until we notice ourselves. She wants us to visit her, even though she has a large unruly dog and my husband is allergic (she just pretends he isn't allergic and cries that we won't stay with her).

My Mom, on the other hand, was very close to her MIL (my paternal Grandmother). They were pals and there was never any tension.

Answer 9

My mother in law is very nice. She has her quirks, but everyone does. My only complaint is that she's rather needy; I had to tell her that she couldn't call me at work anymore. But I don't have any of the typical mother in law problems.

Originally, I thought I would. But in the beginning, I learned how to master being firm without being a b**ch. That did the trick.

Answer 10

My former future mother in law was a pill she was a raging closet alcoholic and raised a needy, clingy, emotionally unstable son. She was furious when I left her son and we had got into a physical altercation where he punched me for leaving him and his mother said I deserved it which says a lot since she has no flipping idea she's the cause of the dysfunction in her son since she drank while she was pregnant with him which explains why he's developmentally delayed and has problems with rejection. She was extremely controlling and always had to have her input in something. I was glad not to marry her nutless son since she had them in her vice grip of a personality when she wasnt lit up on the booze.