I just got engaged and I am having an extremely hard time narrowing down my good friends to just a handful. I've got about 8 girls that I really can't stand to eliminate (2 of which are my fiance's sisters and good friends of mine), and he's got about 5 guys (each of our brothers included). Do there have to be the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen? I'm completely new to this. Help!
2007-10-29 06:32:51 · 16 answers · asked by NatBug 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you cannot imagine your wedding without all 8 girls, then by all means, go with it. That is a pretty big wedding party, so make absolute sure you want all of them. You are going to have to coordinate 8 girls trying on dresses, getting fitted, hairstyles, presents, etc.
As far as the different numbers for men and women, it really is not unheard of to have different numbers. If you want it to work, you all will get it figured out. Good luck!
2007-10-29 06:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by vaya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally, you want to have the same number but it's not a catastrophy if you don't! I personally think having the bridesmaids and groomsmen walking down together is old fashioned. If you have them walk down one by one, then it won't be obvious that you have an unequal amount.
When choosing your bridesmaids, think of the women in your life who have truly been there for you through thick and thin. Who know you inside out and are happy for you. You don't need anyone there who can't be 100% happy for you. Also think of those women who can be selfless enough to help you and who won't be overly controlling on telling you how and what to do. As you'll see on YA, there are ALOT of horror stories involving bitchy bridesmaids who end up making the bride's life hell leading up to the wedding. So, be careful you don't choose one of those. Don't choose someone you've only been friends with for a few months. They won't expect to be included anyway.
2007-10-29 14:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There doesn't have to be the same number :) Some of the guys can walk down with 2 girls (lucky them). I've seen a few times when the number is such a big difference that the groomsmen are already at the alter when the procession begins.
2007-10-29 13:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you don't have to match up the numbers of BMs and GM. My wedding is next june and I have 6 BM and my fiancee will probably have 4 GM or so. All that means is the groomsmen have a girl on each arm walking down the aisle. It's all totally up to you. I've seen weddings that have up to 9 BM and it still looks fine. The only thing to think about is: Bridal party gifts, hotel rooms, etc. As the bride and groom, you will ahve to foot the cost of their stays. (not the plane ticket or the dress, unless you want to). And need to make sure you can find a dress available for that many. I chose a dress that is being discontinued and since my girls are all in school, it's hard for them to cough up the money right now, so I might have to pay for their dresses for now, so the dresses dont' get discontinued. But like you, I couldn't cut people from my bridal party. If it's important to you for them all to be in your wedding....ask them!!
Good luck and congrats!!!
2007-10-29 15:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd personally choose all 8. I wouldn't want to:
1) Create hard feelings
2) Look back at wedding pictures and regret not choosing all of them
There definitely doesn't have to be the same number of groomsmen and bridesmaids. It's your wedding, sweetie, do what *you* want :)
Good luck and congrats!
2007-10-29 13:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There do not need to be the same number of bridesmaids as groomsmen.....the number is whatever you think is best. If you want them all in your wedding, go for it! Good luck with the planning!
2007-10-29 13:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with Family (you are VERY close to) or friends ...I think any more then 5-6 is over kill. I seen weddings w/ 10-12--WAY TO MUCH! The photographer even had a hard time fitting everyone in the photo. Geez. lol I'm personally haveing 5 too--have an equal amount of girls & guys if possible. :) Good number!
Congrats on your engagement!
2007-10-29 13:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there has to be the same number of groomsmen and bridesmaids. When I was in my girlfriends wedding there were more BM and when we recessed out some of the groomsmen had bridemaids on each arm.
2007-10-29 13:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by tohumanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have as many bridesmaids as you want honey .. If its 8 then its 8 .. and it doesnt have to be the same amount of boys and girls .. what you can do is have 2 girls walk with one guy at the end .. At my cousins wedding thats what she did , she was short one guy and had 2 of us walk down with one guy at the end , its looked real nice.... my own wedding was small and i had 2 maid of honors and 2 best men.
2007-10-29 14:07:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pick your 2 closest and use the other guys for ushers. If money is tight, then use the groomsmen as ushers too. I have seen weddings with 8-10 ushers and bridesmaids, it's what ever u want!!!
2007-10-29 13:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋