A few weeks ago, probably about 6 to be exact, I and a friend of mine took a trip to Martha's Vineyard, and one night when we were there, I met this certain celebrity ( I actually took the trip there to see if I could meet him because I heard that he would be there that weekend).
We danced and I had gotten drunk and so did he. He took me back to the Hotel he was staying in and I'm sure we ended up having sex though I can't remember it very well. Anyway, the next morning, when I woke up, he had a cab waiting for me outside to take me back to the place where I was staying & a note. I just discovered that I am pregnant and I don't know what to do because I know I'll never see him again & he's probably forgotten about me. But I know it's not my boyfriend's baby because we had split up for a bit just before this happened and they are the only two guys I've been with. We have since gotten back together and are engaged. I am a Christian and opposed to abortion, and just turned 20.
2007-10-29 06:20:03 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just tell your fiancee the truth. If he doesn't understand you or accept it then he doesn't deserve you. I praise you for keeping your kid. For me it is not because of religious reason. It is because if it is part of that child to be is from you.
2007-10-29 06:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by steve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, now - certainly in a bit of a pickle, aren't we?
Look - I'm not here to judge you.
Based on what you will or won't do (and it is pretty damn clear what you will do...or rather, whom you'll do!), do the following:
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Consult your doctor and learn everything you need to carry that baby towards a healthy delivery - also be sure the doctor checks you out for any sexually-transmitted diseases...your little tryst could have scored you a nice little virus, too;
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Contact your local adoption agency so that they can find a family wanting to adopt your baby - they will also help you pay for maternity care;
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Do NOT keep the baby...it is clear that you are not responsible, you are not married and you are too young and without a steady source of income to care for a child for the next 18 years.
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Tell your boyfriend all the sad, sad facts of what has happened and if you really plan on marrying this guy, start going to marriage counseling with your priest/minister.
2007-10-29 06:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
James 2: 9-10 But if ye have respect to persons, ye commit sin, and are convinced of the law as transgressors. For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all. So I think it's pretty clear if you're going to divorce your wife and get remarried, you may as well gay marry something less demanding. Like a lemur or a desert tortoise. According to that NT scripture committing any one sin makes you automatically guilty of all of 'em anyway. So no, there is no difference between a gay Christian and a divorced Christian. They're both forgiven as long as they don't do anything "weird" like expect to fall in love and get married again. So, who wants to break it to Rush Limbaugh first? He's defended the institution of marriage like five times already. Dude is either a love machine or he's drugging them...but he's definitely not pleasing his deity from the looks of things.
2016-04-11 01:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure your Christian ?
Christians should not get drunk.
Christians should not have sex before or outside of marriage.
You broke two basic beliefs of the bible but your worried about breaking a third.
You made your bed now you are going to have to sleep in it no matter what you choose.
Do not add to those sins by living a lie you need to face the music honestly.It maybe hard but you will be better off in the long run.
By the way I do not believe in having abortions nor would I encourage you to do so.
2007-10-29 23:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by pestie58 the spider hunter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my boyfriend. If he takes the news very hard and continues over a period of time to not take it well I would call off the engagement and move on.
You can get a lawyer and have a DNA paternity test done. The celebrity will be ordered by the court to take a DNA test. Also have a DNA test done on your boyfriend. Whoever is the father will be required to pay child support.
I wish you well.
2007-10-29 06:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ruth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are opposed to abortion, that leaves adoption and keeping the child. I can't really advise you on either one, but I would tell the fiance as soon as possible. He may decide to step up and be this child's father. Or he may feel betrayed and bail. But keeping this under wraps is a bad idea so tell him quickly. Good luck. Whatever you decide won't be easy but you'll do just fine. If you need encouragement, feel free to email me.
2007-10-29 06:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not being judgemental, but gf, you really need to work on your Christian walk. don't waste time talking to virtual strangers here, but get open with your family, boyfriend and church about your actions in the past weeks.
also, get serious counseling about your situation and understand that this is a defining moment in your life. your new baby will need a mother who is capable of being a responsible parent, not a confused child.
the rubber has met the road and through your decisions, you are accountable for a new life. God is waiting for you to return to Him. Call on Him and He will lift you up, no matter what other people say.
be blessed - you and your new baby!
2007-10-29 06:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by chieko 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you say you are a christian and opposed to abortion....if you don't know the answer to your question...its time to tell yourself whether you are the christian you think you are...although its a sad place to be...you were irresponsible...you are lucky you are only pregnant...what if u had caught something? seek support from family and friends..and although this seems harsh...you need to hear the truth...you are in a situation what is the best way out not the easy way...but the best way?
Christians tend to preach but when it happens to them they want to do things they were preaching to others not to do....whatever you choose will show you and what you really are...and by the way...you are sexually promiscuous as well? so much for safe sex and sex in marriage....I hope you don't use your age as an excuse..if you are old enough to spread your legs you are old enough to deal with the consequences...
2007-10-29 06:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What I coincidence. While filming my movie, I spent a few days at Martha's Vineyard and had a great one night stand with a 19 year old Christian. Go figure.
2007-10-29 06:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by Kyle B 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Good for you that you are opposed to abortion. I would seek a paternity test. In this internet age, you should be able to look up that celebrity's agent, and contact him via the agent. Also, if you are a Christian, why are you committing fornication? "Go, and sin no more." If you continue to behave like that, please don't tell people that you're a Christian. You give the rest of us a black eye.
2007-10-29 06:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by FUNdie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm an atheist and I don't see much of a choice here. You tell both guys, you see if the boyfriend will still marry you, you get child support from the father, and you have the kid.
You had sex, you don't believe in abortion...so that's pretty much it honey.
2007-10-29 06:24:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋