I like this guy who is 23 and im 17. He knows how old I am. He doesnt want a relationship . He says that he only sees him self with me sexually. I'm a virgin, and I feel like if i have sex with him that will make me more connected to him. I only want to give my self to him if he wants to be in a committed relationship. I don't see that happening... Maybe we would be in a relationship but it doesnt look like it will be something that will last for the rest of my life. Because he is so persistant that he keeps saying he is gonna marry a 5'4", yankee, with money. How crazy is that?? Well I'm scared to keep talking to him because i dont want to fall in love with him and im trying really hard to control my feelings right now. I don't know what to do... I'm really confused cause I do like him but i have no idea if he likes me. I mean he says things to make me think he does but I don't know if he is one of the guys that just says it to get in your pants. He says we will always talk and everything. He says he wont use me and it wont be a one night stand...
What should I do??
2007-10-29 06:05:49 · 23 answers · asked by all_yours2002162002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't care about being valued as a person, go ahead and give him free sex with nothing whatsoever in it for you. Or, on the other hand, if you value yourself, quit bothering with someone you know is only out for what he can get from you.
2007-10-29 06:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still very young to make these choices, you have plenty of time for sex when you get married to someone who really loves you and respect your body. This guy know you are real young and he is looking for a good time in bed , dont waste your time God will send you the right guy soon and for now finish school go to college so you can get a good job, If you sleep with this guy one time you can get pregnant or even catch aids in the process, think about what your future and the good times you can have with a real man who w ant a real relationship with you. Better things come to those who wait.
2007-10-29 16:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby Girl please don't do this! Most young guys will tell you anything to get in your panties.Even more so if your a virgin!Wait until you find someone that wants a relationship at least.You will hate yourself after this happens and he moves on to his next victim.I answered this question about 20 times a week.One of the first the girl wrote me an email after and now she thinks she is pregnant because the guy took his condom off during sex and she didn't know any better.Also since you aren't 18 he would go to prison.Please just wait.If you want to talk more about this write someone from Yahoo answers maybe a woman that has been through it.Please,please,please,please wait.Please!
2007-10-29 13:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoa!! Listen to the voice of an experienced woman. Having sex with a man will not make him love you or want to be with you. When a man tells you what he wants, BELIEVE HIM. If he says he can only see himself in a sexual relationship with you and you want more, then do NOT have sex with him.
If you are finding yourself falling in love with him, then you are in trouble. Giving him your virginity will be a mistake..you will regret it because you will NOT win his heart. He has told you what he wants and by giving it to him in hopes that you get something else, you will gamble and LOSE.
I appreciate and give him much respect for being honest with you and I am sure this is one of the things that is attracting you to him but please listen to me on this one. He is telling you what he wants and he will not alter from this.
His persistance to get into your pants should tell you what he wants. Be strong..See the attention he gives you as a hungry animal that is coming for the steak dangling in its face. Once it eats and becomes full, it will walk away and never turn around again unless hungry and desiring steak again. I hate to use this as an analogy but do not let the charm and attention cause you to make a serious mistake. Instead listen to him...he is telling you what he wants and what he does not want. Do not make it into more.
Be careful my doe.
2007-10-29 13:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by freetobe_007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u serious, i am going to keep it real with you. to hell with the its illegal crap, the bottom line is , you are a virgin, why would u want to even consider losing your virginity to someone whom only wants to sex you. Respect his honesty and move on. Besides you are only 17 years old , what is the darn hurry, save ur self for that one special person. if u start out giving away your love to men that only want sex then you will never truly understand how precious your virginity is and why it should be with someone who sincerely loves you. Sex can be a beautiful art of lovemaking when there are feelings involved. not just ur feelings, but when you are with someone whom loves you outside of the bedroom, i am telling you, you can experience the closeness of sex just being in this persons arms, sounds crazy doesnt it. I am serious, love is more intense and sex is better when it is with someone that loves, adores, honors, and cares for you.
2007-10-29 13:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by trey0540 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell him that the only way you will sleep with him,or anyone else is that you have to be with that person.my boyfriend only wanted that at first,but then i made him fall for me.so show him whose the boss,and tell him that you don't want to catch any diseases.if,and when you do sleep with him make him wear a condom.tell him that you want to be more then just friends.you can also try telling him that you wont sleep with anyone until you get married.if he dont understand then he's not the one for you.you have to know that he is not the only guy out there.somewhere out there is a guy for you.so until then just keep looking.please dont just give yourself up to anyone.you dont want to catch anything that you dont want,and need.
2007-10-29 13:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by mary s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it will be a one night stand and you are basically getting used now. your virginity is the one thing you cant have back. save it until you have been with a guy for a long time and you will be much happier in life with fewer regrets. if i could go back, i would have saved it for the guy im with now, we have been together for 2 years. you have to know if the guy truly cares first...
2007-10-29 13:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your confused and any body that has to question about having sex with a person in order for you to feel more "connected" with him shouldnt do it. i dont thnk it sounds like your ready. ive been there except i was 18 and he was 23 too he was my first and i fell hard for that guy. we ended up dating but he wasnt so serious about it (he cheated on me 3xs) he was a good liar! i thought he would want more outta me than just sex but i was wrong and ended up getting really hurt! i think you should cherish your "gift" and give it to someone you know really cares about you cuz if not you'll just get stepped on. i know sounds cheesy but its true.
2007-10-29 13:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T have sex with him!!! Trust me you will regret that your first time was not with someone you love & that loves you just as much. Take it from someone who has been in your situation. I was 17 dating a 23 y/o don't do it! I wouldn't even remain friends with him...
2007-10-29 13:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only sees you sexually. He's already said it. Sex won't make him any more committed or connected. He's shallow (wants a yankee with money). Honey, you can do so much better, expecially for your first. And you're a minor - it's technically illegal for him to have sex with you.
2007-10-29 13:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by justme 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋