i have a family member who used to be close to me, like a brother, even though he was always a difficult person and had a lot of problems, mainly having to do with isolating himself and turning people against one another by gossiping back and forth. i knew it was happening but i ignored it thinking it harmless. then i started to notice that the gossiping and trouble-making extended outside of my family and "friends" of mine started jabbing at me and there seemed to be some rumors going around about this or that thing. i waited for months to be sure and when i noticed literally dozens of pieces of info that could only have come from this one family member were circulating through the grapevine, i confronted him.
what does a person do when they are caught back-stabbing? they deny it of course. i can't prove it with evidence. it escalated yelled at him to tell me the truth and to stop lying. he's turning the whole thing around on me. how should i handle this situation?
2007-10-29 05:51:59 · 4 answers · asked by anon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i actually don't understand the horrible thing about yelling at someone when they have done something to you? is it better to be a doormat and say nothing of the situation? how will they know how they have hurt you? sometimes humans have emotions that come out in these situations.
2007-10-29 06:06:16 · update #1
I understand you being upset. It is a whole different thing isn't it when the subject of the lies and gossip is you? You have already done what you can do. You confronted him about his crap and let him know you aren't going to put up with it. Now stick to your guns. I would stay away from him and not give him the chance to start new rumors or lies.
This is a way of life for him and he isn't going to change.
2007-10-29 06:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by wondermom 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He will not be changing, it is like a sickness. Get away from him.
I don't know if you are a teenager, but if you are, you need to sit down and talk to your parents about this boy.
2007-10-29 06:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just distance yourself from him. You can not save everyone. The very fact that he has lost you may make him rethink his behaviour and make steps to change.
2007-10-29 05:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't try to change other people, control your own behavior. Distance yourself from this toxic person.
2007-10-29 05:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋