I have a candy bowl (not a dish a bowl) that is rather large. I have been filling this bowl up once a week because by the end of the week all my candy is gone.
Now, I am buying good candy (dark chocolates, kisses, reeces all the good stuff) and its costing me like $7 per week. I started paying attention to who comes to eat my candy and its only a handful of people.
But this one lady comes like 4 times a day. Everytime she gets up from her desk she grabs two pieces. To me that is not proper etiquette. I am not a vending machine and can't afford to pay for her to eat chocolate all day. I barely eat any.
Should I get rid of the candy bowl?
Put out a dish for donations?
Put up a sign saying something like, " Each piece is 1000 calories, Eat sparingly"?
Or do nothing?
Sincerely,
Willie Wonka
2007-10-29 05:27:53 · 37 answers · asked by April 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thanks for all your suggestions. I don't mind people eating the candy that's why its there but one person eating all the candy and no one offering to chip in to me is bad manners. And no I'm not a receptionist. Thanks.
2007-10-29 05:45:58 · update #1
Update: She came back AGAIN!! I removed all the candy. I want it for everyone but I feel like she is abusing my kindness. Let's see if anyone offers to refill the bowl. Thanks guys!
2007-10-29 07:31:54 · update #2
Put up a little sign that says Please take ONE thank you :)
2007-10-29 05:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by typocinnamongrl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I use to have a candy dish on the reception counter at my desk and although the company paid for the candy, my main thing was all the interruptions it caused to me. People were constantly coming by and taking candy and then stopping to talk. It's not that I didn't want to be social but I had alot of work to do, besides answering phones and greeting people that came in the front door. Finally, after the company closed and I found a new job, I vowed not to have a candy dish on my desk/counter because of this very issue and also, because I was trying to lose weight and didn't need the temptation sitting there all the time. Well, the elderly lady that sits next to me has the dish there and has filled it with candy for 10 years and paid for it as well...to the tune of around $14,000 according to her. So, still have the dish in front of me and still have people constantly walking buy to dig through it until they find what they want. The woman who buys the candy complains constantly about how much some take. One guy walks back and forth at least three times an hour and every time he does, he rifles through the dish and grabs two or more pieces. The lady complains about it but just keeps supplying for everyone. I say, stop doing it. I really don't feel that the gesture is appreciated that much and it's just an annoying tradition that won't die. People insist on putting the dish there but gripe and complain when others abuse it. The best way to control it is either get a much smaller dish and stop filling it up so full, or just do away with it. I sure with elderly lady who has money to burn would.
2014-06-30 11:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by sweetbaker57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if you are putting the candy up there for people, you can't ask for money unless it's a candy dish in the middle of the office or in the lunchroom which is considered the "company" bowl. So, if someone is being rude by taking a lot, I would just remove the candy dish. Asking for donations is tacky. Or maybe move the dish closer to you or on your desk so that person has to pretty much walk in your office to get some, which may make it akward for them. A funny sign might be okay, l but I woudln't say "eat sparingly."
2007-10-29 06:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make a cute sign stating that donations for refill of candy dish are always welcome. You can then monitor who is giving and how much. OR, put the candy dish back and bring it to the desk and offer candy to those you are okay with having some. Your call. Or let it go empty for a couple of days. See if anyone offers to fill it for you. (By the by, if I were visiting your candy dish that often, I would volunteer to buy the candy or just bring some in and put it in the bowl while you were there so you would know I was doing it. That's proper candy dish etiquette for the office, the bowl is on your desk, not the counter.)
2007-10-29 05:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you put out a candy dish you always get those few people who just keep eating it...a lot of people are too shy/polite to take candy from someone's desk without being offered. I would either put a smaller amount in the bowl so that people feel like they are taking too much, or put up the funny sign. I wouldn't get rid of it completely or else people will ask where it went, and I wouldn't put out a dish for donations.
2007-10-29 05:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Candy Jar Sayings
2016-11-07 03:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by branaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pardon me for laughing, but just picturing that makes me laugh for some reason. If I were you I'd take full advantage of this by putting trick candy in your dish, you know the stuff that dyes your mouth blue or is hot as hell or taste like fish and soap. Better yet put some laxatives in the donuts or make some cookies with some. That should make him think twice before doing it again. How do you like that suggestion? You can find such candy either online or at your local Spencers store.
2016-03-13 11:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to the lady who is taking more than her share, and say something like, "Hi, Jill. I've noticed that, like me, you're a chocolate lover. I was wondering if you'd like to pick the candy every other week."
If she says yes, then answer with a quick, "Great! I'm looking forward to seeing what you bring in," so that she knows she's supposed to buy it.
If she says no, then just let the candy bowl run out every now and then and see if anyone steps up to the plate.
2007-10-29 05:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Elissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UGH... I hate moochers!!! I had the same problem at the bank I worked at. I had a small bowl out for my clients that came in, and it was always picked over by my co-workers. I tried one with a lid (somebody dropped the lid and broke it, then didn't bother to fess up!!!) and stocking just the cheap stuff( and someone had the nerve to complain about my "crappy candy"!!!!), but neither seemed like a good solution.
The best thing is to leave it out with the cruddy stuff in it, to avoid the moochers, and just sprinkle a few good ones on top a few minutes before you have clients coming- otherwise you co-workers will scoop them. Keep a stash in a desk drawer, and you can offer the good stuff to a friendly co-worker if they come in. Just reach in, start to get one for yourself, and offer them the bag to pick from. That way, you can still feel nice about sharing, but have control over who gets how many.
2007-10-29 05:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by EmmyBee13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you put out the candy, you are giving tacit permission for people to take as much as they'd like. If you can't afford to fill the bowl, simply remove it, or put it in your desk where the candy will be for your consumption only.
2007-10-31 20:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
STOP THE INSANITY!
If you choose to put candy out on your desk (are you a receptionist?? - then company should pay for candy), people will help themselves whenever they want. Nothing you can do about it and you have become a CANDY MONITOR!
Like a drug or alcohol, you are enabling them to eat the stuff by providing it.
Keep some nice treats for yourself in your desk drawer.
If some asks where the candy is, let them know your dentist insists you stop.
2007-10-29 05:40:25 · answer #11 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋