I am devastated because I was babysitting a little 7 year old boy for my neighbor and I walked in my daughters room because they were being too quiet and caught them kissing, I immediately beat them unmercifley and told his mother when she got there as well, I don't want to go overboard because I don't want her to think that it's something she should do to be defiant but I also want this to stop and never happen again, what should I do?
2007-10-29 05:03:45 · 19 answers · asked by special k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you kidding? Why is that such a big deal? Just a kiss, don't you remember how you made your daughter? Apologize to her for over reacting but explain to her that kissing and dating as well as any type of physical intimacy is best left until she gets older and give her an age that you think is appropriate, like 14. And set the rule now that no boys other than family members are ever allowed in her room.
Just remember it will happen again and again, its just a matter of time......Brace Yourself
2007-10-29 05:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by Londonfalls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you "beat them unmercifley"? You say you dont want to go overboard with the little boys mother. Hmmmmmm Seems like you just went overboard with the two kids!!!!
I think you need to rethink your diciplinary habits. Dont get me wrong, Im not against spankings when deserved. But beating unmercifully. Thats not right.
I think you need to talk to the other parent and show just how big of an adult you can be by apologizing to both the two kids and her. Then from there begin to set the example to your daughter of what a good mother and person should be.
Then open up the COMMUNICATION between you and your daughter and explain to her what she should and shouldnt do.
2007-10-29 13:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by okiemuskvet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure the kiss was innocent, and i do think that you are going a little overboard. Young children especially around your daughters age are curious about things like kissing. I would sit her down and just ask her why she did what she did. Try to have an open relationship with your daughter so that she is not afraid to tell you how she is feeling.
2007-10-29 12:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by ashie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your concern, but you over reacted you should have sat them down and told them that kissing is not for young children in the manner in which you caught them. know all you did was make your daughter curious about kissing instead of you just telling her and explaining . you beat them and made them feel like they did something horrible. all kids will be caught and some might not this is common among young kids kissing is something that's seen all the time . take time out think about it then go back and explain why you beat her . let her know all kissing is not bad but at her age it should not be done unless mom says ok.
2007-10-29 12:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beating them was waaaay out of line! You went overboard!
If you make it "forbidden" you will only make it that much more attractive.
All little girls go through a stage where they chase boys and kiss them. My sister's daughter made dates at the local McDonald's... beginning at age 5.
Better to teach them social skills now, instead of keeping them in the dark and have them sneaking around and showing up pregnant at an unseasonably early age.
2007-10-29 12:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW each year the age just gets younger. Well i think u need to sit down with her and tell her shes too young and what the kiss can lead to later on in her life. Make sure u see waht shes watching on tv ans ask her why was she doing it? did the boy force her? but dont scare the little girls shes only 7 she doenst even know wats right and wats wrong
2007-10-29 12:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Mafia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm afraid that you may have already over reacted. It is very normal for kids to be curious and for them to "experiment," to some degree.
I understand you being a little shocked and upset. Just explain to your daughter that it is perfectly normal to like boys but kissing boys if for bigger girls. Let her know at her age kissing isn't appropriate and that is why you got upset. Also explain that you were caring for the little boy and his parents trusted you and it put her in an awkward situation.
2007-10-29 12:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by wondermom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was she REALLY kissing him or was she just giving him a peck? When I was about 6 or 7 I chased a boy and kissed him. It was only a little peck and nothing more. What you do should depend on how she kissed him. Just be careful becasue liek you said you don't want her doing it just to defy your authority and you also don't want her thinking it's something gross and she should never do it.
Also, a lot of parents kiss in front of their children. Maybe you need to rethink the thigns you are doing in front of her. Maybe she has picked it up from you. Maybe he asked her cuz he saw his parents. Kids do tend to imitate everything they see their parents do.
2007-10-29 12:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by dvnlady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and turn yourself in for child abuse. You do NOT ever beat children "mercilessly" and your daughter needs to be protected from your out of control behavior. Its completely natural for children to emulate what they see on tv or from the adults around them, she's not doing it to be defiant. All you taught those children is that being out of control is ok.
2007-10-29 12:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You WAY overreacted. . .what happened was totally innocent. You needed to stop what was happening, inform the boy's parent(s) about it so that s/he can deal with it in the way s/he chooses to and talk to your daughter about why she was doing what she was doing and why it is not appropriate behavior at her age. Talking goes a lot further than hitting any day.
2007-10-29 12:31:04 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ тнє σяιgιиαℓ gιяℓfяι∂αу ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋