My sister quit her 12- hour shift job. She currently owns her own home. She has one child. She is not married. She quit her job without having a back up job. She is now job less. She cursed me out. She told me that nobody cares about her. My husband was trying to help her get a job that pays $10 an hour.
2007-10-29 04:58:01 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why did she quit? I know you and your husband are very concerned right now, but I think it would be best to wait and let her come to you for help. Some people are very stubborn, and offering help (and them accepting) is almost a sign of weakness in their eyes. Some people can't seem to get over their pride. I need more details as to what led her to quit her job. Anyway, her main focus should be getting the food on the table for her child. You can help her when she asks for it, otherwise just butt out. Hopefully that doesn't hurt your feelings or come off as too harsh, but you can't help someone who doesn't want it, or doesn't realize that they NEED it.
2007-10-29 05:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by Haunted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to blame anyone? And is it any of your business?
She is a single mom working outside the home 12 hours then has to go home and work another 3-5 hours doing the mom thing.
I would imagine that she is stressed to the max and needs some moral support.
How about you offering to babysit, clean her house, do her laundry or anything nice for her instead of add to her stress. Families are supposed to lift each other up when they are down, not stomp them further into the ground.
I applaud her for giving up a 12 hour shift, now she will have the time to find a job with better hours so that she can spend more time with her child.
I hope the child's father is paying child support as this too would ease some of her burden.
2007-10-29 12:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by grannyzattic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without hearing her story, I cant see why you would have anything to be sorry for? You should never quit a job without having another, especially with a child and a mortgage to worry about. Give her a break, she may have cursed you out because of all the stress and pressure she is now under.
2007-10-29 12:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by Clinton W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she does regarding her job is her business.
But it does sound like shes depressed from what you've said,ask her to go and see her doctor and tell him/her how she feels.
12 hour shifts and a child to take care of can really take its toll on anyone.
Really does sound like she needs some sort of medical help,be supportive of her and let her know that you want her to seek some help and that you will go with her for this help.
Things are not always this black and white as some others might think as regards it being your sisters fault and how selfish she is,I had a good friend that was just like this and ended up trying to take her own life,and gladly failed,she was then diagnosed with severe depression,3 months later of being on medication she's a changed person.
Not everyone in these similar circumstances are selfish and to blame,sometimes life just isn't that black and white.
2007-11-02 10:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your sis did a very selfish thing. She has a child to think about and that child should have been first in her mind when she quit the job. A lot of us don't like our jobs, but when there are children involved, we dont have the liberty of just "quitting". She should have put a back up plan in place first. She has no right to be angry with you, and if you bail her out this time, you will be bailing her out from now on. She needs to learn to think of the consequences before she acts.
2007-10-29 13:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by dannah1129 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the circumstances as to why she quit her job so quickly, If she had a very good reason, then maybe you should listen to her side of the story with a little more compassion, she's probably VERY stressed out right now and doesn't need criticism. so why ask..."who's fault is it" it seems to me she was VERY upset if she cussed you out as you say.
Did you Not listen or show support when she tried to tell you her story?
Try to make up with her and tell her YOU'RE sorry for not understanding and being sympathetic to her. maybe you'll realize it was YOUR fault after all. she probably needs a hug more than anything
2007-10-29 12:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by gone! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is playing victim, and it doesn't play. She had no right to curse at you.
That 12-hour shift might have been gruelling, but she should have been sending off resumes and booking interviews for a "sick day". You use the fact that you are already employed to help you line up another job.
2007-10-29 12:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your sisters fault for terminating her position knowing she had nothing to back her. when she did it she probally did not think about the consequences of her actions. even if she was tired of some things, she should have been looking for employment elsewhere. she is venting at you because you are there and she needs to release her anger towards someone, and she would not take it out on her baby. so now she has bills and no income. it is very sweet for your husband to care about your family and do something so generous. one day she will come around and realize that when she was down and out you were her system of support.
2007-10-29 12:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by jones68178 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your sisters fault she has responsibilities you dont give a job up when you have a child to support or a home "the nobody cares" line is to make you feel guilty because your not going to see in a mess but sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind hope you sort it out
2007-10-29 12:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by valerie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did she quit if she has a home to pay for and a child to take care of? Is she like crazy or something? $10 is better than nothing. It's her fault!
2007-10-29 12:02:43 · answer #10 · answered by dvnlady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋