Do you think Military spouses should serve at lease 1 tour in Iraq or Afghanistan?

Question

So if they ever get divorce there will be no question about them wanting half of theur spouses retirement. I'm tired of them complaining about they gave up this and that saying how much they sacrificed following their mates while they served the military and they want half. Have the military member stay home for 1 tour and send his/her spouse. My Hats off to the Men and Women in uniform. Keep up the good work

Of they would not go there without training. They are getting fresh soldiers out of boot camp in 3 months time so whats the problem. Some people in here are quoting thing I did not say. I never called military wives fat. So get your facts straight.

They have cooking and cleaning jobs in Iraq who said anything about combat. Stop reading into the damn question.

Prego you are a liar
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Here is what I asked.

Answer 1

NO!! A Big No. Now you know the rules. Stay married for at least 10 years and she get a good deal of your retirement. That's the law.

Answer 2

Nope I don;t think so! For one thing we didn't sign on the dotted line and for another most of the guys I know that are in the military would never want their wives in that kind of situation. In fact just the other day my little girl told my husband that when she grew up she wanted to be a soldier just like him. He sat her down and had a very long talk with her about how that was no place for anybody's little girl. Now with that being said he also says that he thinks we had it harder being at home. He says this because he recently switched units and his old one with all his buddies just deployed and now he understands the hell of not knowing what's going on with someone you care about. You know, while we may not get sent anywhere on deployment we definetly have our own cross to bear that anyone who hasn't been through it can't understand. I by no means think I had things as bad or worse than my husband (no matter what he says) BUT I have definetly sacrificed ALOT to be there for him while he follows his heart and does what he needs to do.
All that being said though.....in most cases I don't think the spouse should get any part of the retirement if they get divorced but in some cases they should. I know a woman who was with her husband for 25 years, didn't work b/c he wanted her home when he was able to be home, and he left her for someone else just 4 months before his retirement. In that case hell yeah I think she should get something! (not half maybe but something!)

And my hats off to not only the men and women in uniform but also to their families (especially the spouses and children) because they sacrifice for this country too!

Answer 3

This is not a very intelligent question.... the spouses do not have the military training required to go into the battle zone, therefore you would end up with a lot of dead military spouses because the entire country is a battle zone.

It takes a strong person to be the spouse of military personnel because they are alone and usually single parent's for a couple of years at a time. Anyone that marries a military person needs to know this going in... my ex was military and they ruled his life 24/7.

My father's job takes him away from home 3 weeks out of the month. We miss him and talk to him often but this was a choice he made and at his age, it was the only job he could get.

My brother worked on an offshore oil rig for a number of years and he would work 30 days on and 30 off. Was his wife sacrificing anything because of his career decision? I don't think so and I feel the same way about the military.... you signed up to do a job, now you are being asked to do that job.

I have a step-daughter in Iraq and she is doing exactly what she signed up to do.... she is doing her job. I don't consider her a hero for doing this it is just her choice of careers.

She knows my views on George W. Bush's war but I love her and send her care packages weekly, military clothing that the military will not supply and anything else she needs or wants.

Answer 4

I think some of these wife's need to go back and visit the military laws again, did the gold diggers of America know that if the soldier gets DISABILITY that means their retirement pay is cut which means the gold digger don't get as much as they think theses days. I have been married to a soldier for 21 years, if we got divorce today, he could keep his retirement money, because the simple fact, I DIDN'T GO ON NONE OF HIS DEPLOYMENTS NOR DID I FIGHT IN THE WAR, NOR DID I GET UP EVERYDAY FOR 21 YEARS AND DO PT OR WORK HIS 12-15 HOURS DAYS,

Answer 5

You are assuming that all spouses get half of their husband/wife's retirement, a spouse will only get half is the couple have been married for 10 yrs or longer through out his/her Military Career, however I know of many friends who got nothing in the end.

Alot of spouses give up alot for the other spouse Military or not, I have never complained about this, or plan to, I have supported my husband in every move he has made for his self and our family, I decided after 9 yrs of marriage to join the Military ( for my own reasons) but it was the right time for me and our family, A wife , mother places their needs before her own at least this is how I was raised, I disagree with the fact you ALWAYS have something bad to say about Military wives, Not all spouses are fat , cheat, or stay at home doing nothing but watching tv all day ...
There are many who have more than one job and are in College full time , taking care of the household while supporting her husband who is deployed and trying to be mom and dad to their kids and ensuring him everything will be ok.
It isn't easy having to explain to your children why dad/mom is deployed , but you do your best to explain that to them.
I think alot of military families have given so much already and will continue to do so , instead of your worrying about the spouses what are you doing to show any type of support to the troops and their families? What have you done other than try to bash spouses?

Proud Soldier & Armywife

EDIT:
Ok so your saying they have cleaning and cooking jobs in Iraq? So why do you think a spouse would want to go to Iraq to cook and clean ? FYI most contractors in Iraq if not all want Prior service members working for them.
Most of my Battles I was in BCT & AIT have not been deployed yet and some Deployed over a yr after we graduated, one most recently last week.

Answer 6

First, spouses do not automatically get half. They may get half of retirement pay (and that is determined by how long they were married and the state the divorce was filed in), but they certainly do not get half the pay of the member while he is active duty, even if he is paying child support! Many states do have community property rules and those can apply to things like savings and investment accounts (such as the military savings fund), houses and material purchases. However, after being married to my hubby for 14 years, if our marriage ended I would feel entitled to some of his retirement pay, just as most spouses in civilian marriages might expect to get part of a retirement account if their marriages ended after extended periods of time. Sounds to me like you had a bad experience with this situation....

Answer 7

What are you bitter about? There is no way the spouses would have adequate training to go to Iraq.
One spouse getting half of the other's retirement is not a military thing; it's state law that determines how marital assets are divided. Would you have all spouses spend a day at their spouse's job? If you don't want to be stuck losing half of yours and getting half of theirs, don't enter into the marital contract!

Answer 8

You are the same person who asked if it was worse to work at McDonald's or to join the military. Give me a break!

Your generalizations sicken me.

It doesn't matter if a couple is in the military or not. A woman or man may want half of their spouse's retirement regardless.

To be honest with you, my husband wouldn't want your support!

Answer 9

No of course not but I agree with you on a culture that awards a woman half just for being there. I dont know many men that get half in a divorce but stayed home the entire marriage. Of course not many of us get custody of our kids either then men are blamed for not being their even though it is often the women making it impossible and courts side with them

Answer 10

are you nuts, a spouse signed nothing with the military
And the soldiers are there to help protect their spouses, family and country, And the way the laws are they would still get half of whatever you got. Of course in your scenerio, each would get half of the others so why bother