what's the difference bet love and lust?

Question

if you cannot wait until marriage and have sex, it's lust. if you can wait, it's love(eros). since 1 corinthians 13 says 'love is patient.' maybe we can say 'lust is inpatient.' love is so close to lust. both are blind. what else is the difference?

Answer 1

Love is Giving
Lust is Taking

Be a giver.

Answer 2

I believe they are intertwined.
My first husband & I waited until after marriage, and the lust just wasn't there. The marriage was a disaster - partly because there was no lust.
My second husband & I had much lust, but love was absent on his part. He was abusive & was unfaithful.
I will never marry again, but choose to not remain celebate if an opportunity arises.
It is NECESSARY to appreciate and want the other person (in both lust and love) if the relationship is to be a successful commitment.
And, why insinuate the condemnation "sin" into everything you don't understand or agree with? I just don't get the need to do that!

Answer 3

Lust the person is just there, you two just exits, sometimes you share the same opinions, or likes,

Love the person is there for you the protect and shelter you they do what they can to make sure your warm safe and health. When your in love theres nothing that you cant do. even when your not married.

You can tell the difference by how you treat one another even after a year. How you work out your problems, lust you just end the issue at end and thats that and fight about it later agian. Love you fix the wrong so it does not come back, or that its not an ongoing issue. When you cherish the smallthings like thanking then for doing the dishes or cleaning even though it had to be done it shows you appriciate what they do no matter what.

Answer 4

Lust is a sexual desire for another of the opposite sex. There are forms of lust that could be deemed "good" for you, but this involves only during marriage.
Love is patient, but not because you wait so you can have sex. That's just lust.
Love is exactly what 1st Corinthians says. The love that Paul uses is the word:
agapē
ag-ah'-pay
From G25; love, that is, affection or benevolence; specifically (plural) a love feast: - (feast of) charity ([-ably]), dear, love.
It means to love totally completely and putting the other person (target of your agape love) before yourself in everything.
That's love.

Lust? It's:
epithumeō
ep-ee-thoo-meh'-o
From G1909 and G2372; to set the heart upon, that is, long for (rightfully or otherwise): - covet, desire, would fain, lust (after).

thumos
thoo-mos'
From G2380; passion (as if breathing hard): - fierceness, indignation, wrath. Compare G5590.

If you notice, lust is a desire for whether rightfully or otherwise. It contains no affection. It's just desire.
Love is just pure. Lust takes love to a sexual level that it doesn't need to be. Lust causes serious amount sin and rebellion.

Answer 5

Mark,

Love is about what you do for others. Lust is about satisfying yourself to the exclusion of others. Love takes time to grow, lust can happen instantly. You cannot love someone you barely know, whereas you can easily lust after someone you barely know.

When we say that love is blind, I tend to think about the verse from 1 Peter 4:8, Above all, love each other warmly, because love covers many sins. To me, this says that when we love others, we forgive them for any sins that they may have committed against us.

Is lust similarly blind? I think not.

Rather than the word, lust, which has more of a carnal tone, I think a better word is infatuation. Infatuation is something that happens to most people in the beginning of a relationship. This emotion can be the beginnings of love.

Hope that was helpful.

Best Wishes,
Docmase

Best wishes,

Docmase

Answer 6

Lust of the flesh has nothing at all to do with love. It is misnamed to cover up that fact it is sinful in some cases. Actually lust is a good thing in marriage and not sin, but it is not married love, but to lust after the husband you love is very NICE.

Answer 7

Love is eternal. The thing between an 80 man and woman that have been married for 55 years. Lust is that feeling of infatuation that you get when you are enamored in a relationship. Lust soon fades and if there isn't love behind there to support the relationship it crumbles. Love is willing to do anything for the one you love.

Answer 8

When you are in love with somebody, you look forward to spending the rest of your life with them, raising children together and caring for the others needs. In lust (and mind you, lust can be patient too), you dwell on having hot animal sex with somebody and not a whole lot more, unless it's more sex.
A good really good marriage has both of these. You want to spend the rest of your life having hot animal sex, raising children together and caring for each others needs.

Mind you, for those who do not wish to have kids, you can insert 'growing old together' instead.

Answer 9

Love is a longing, Lust is desire. You're right that they are quite close in nature but the difference is that lust is mainly a physical emotion driven by your instincts and physiology rather than your heart and spiritual emotion.

And by spiritual i only mean your belief system and not religion. atheists and agnostics love too.

Answer 10

You can lust, even when you're married and it's your partner you lust for... lust is simply the desire to have a good ol' roll in the hay.

Love is affection, respect, warm feelings, caring, and a desire to treat someone well.

What's really cool is when you feel both of those things for a marital partner... that's heaven.

Answer 11

I don't agree with your premise. You can have both love AND lust (in fact, you really should have lust when there is love). Waiting or not waiting is a personal decision and not waiting does not mean that love is absent.