This is my first job in life. I am stressed out to the max with the kind of people I work with. I love the company and I have the strong intention to get the company into a good position. But the people are very rude and they bully me because I am the youngest. I am also naive with them and it's so hard. I dont know I no longer want to stay in the job. But I don't want to let my boss feel helpless. I don't like to do this job also because of the kind of society I am living in. I have to talk a lot with the people to promote the products of my company. But men, ( not guys of my age ) mistake me that I am pushy and ready to do anything with them. It's hard because even when I am not in my office they come to talk to me and do all kind of htings. This job also affects my personal life a lot that way. The thing is I am scared to resign as this is my first job and the boss expects a lot from me. But I am pretty sure with my qualifications I can get into another job. What should I do?
2007-10-29 03:20:18 · 10 answers · asked by Nelie_gal55555 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think you will always have to deal with a certain amount of bullsh@t at any job you go to. I am in the same situation at my job too, so maybe i can help us both. One thing i learned a long time ago is that misery loves company-so if all these other people are giving you a really hard time, they just want you to be as miserable as them-But if you truly feel you can get a better job somewhere else with ease I would probably do that-But then its like you let them win, they got the best of you-as long as you are ok with that then-go ahead and do it-One of the most important things is life is happiness-its priceless...Try to find that special job that does it for you. If you can be happy at work, you will have the true American Dream!!!
2007-10-29 04:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jobs, are meant be like this. I have never heard of any new hire( particularly young) has been welcomed and treated well in a company. If you like the job, profile, if this is the kind of stuff you want to do, then stick it out. I mean just hang on to iy. Try to find new ways to interest your bosses. See what they would like to talk about, touch on those topics, wish them everyday with a bright smile. These are things which you are supposed to learn as part of your job. Nobody else can teach you all these things. Things wont be better with any other job.
A few more months and I bet you will get used to it.,
Just hang in there.
- K
2007-10-29 10:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by kiddo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another job. What you're describing is harassment and abuse. No one should have to deal with that in the workplace. Just don't quit your current job until you're sure you've got another one lined up and don't allow prospective employers to contact your current employer. They might fire you out of spite if they suspect you're looking for a new job. When you give your boss your letter of resignation, be very specific in explaining why you're leaving so maybe the same thing won't happen to your replacement.
2007-10-29 10:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by Rachael 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't say anything to anyone at your present place of employment, while putting out applications to other jobs. I have been through this many times in my life. Unfortunately, even if the job itself is ideal, the people that you work with can make it a hell on earth that is not worth even the "big bucks". All the best on your next position, may you work with as few difficult people as possible!
2007-10-29 10:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bullying in the work place is against the law. U really must speak up if you feel they are being unkind to you. If you have a health and safety or human resources mananger you can talk to i seriously would.
Don't leave your job because of them, go through the proper channels and have them for harassment
2007-10-29 10:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Scatty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would start looking for a new job. The enviroment can give you unlimited stress.
The other factors your mentioned come with all jobs. When you work with other people in offices there is drama and office politics. Best to stay out of politics. Come to work, fly under the radar, get your work done and leave.
2007-10-29 10:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by USAGUY 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would quit. It isn't your responsibility to protect your boss. He'll carry on. Get another job. That is a ridiculous situation. You'll do well.
2007-10-29 16:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for yourself. If you feel you are getting harassed ,tell them to their face. They will respect you for standing up for yourself.
As soon as you grow a backbone you will be fine. Those guys are just testing you to see how far they can push you.
Barney's advice is bad,the first guy who answered you. Don't listen to him. If you run away every time you are challenged you will be running the rest of your life.
2007-10-29 10:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look for another job.
You can keep this one while you do that.
And knowing that you are looking will free you from a lot of stress.
It really sounds like a bad place to work.
Go on with your life.
2007-10-29 10:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your young...and most bottom feeders in the food chain have to earn the respect of their coworkers..you haven't done it yet. And you won't if you let them get to you.
2007-10-29 10:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋