How do I cope???

Question

decided not to take Kimo and was only given 3 months well he had a wonderful 6 months and it was hard to see him go but he was at peace and very happy. Well a week after he passed they discovered my G-ma had it too! They gave her until Christmas, two weeks later she was gone! She passed away Monday at 3pm None of us expected it to be so sudden Just Sunday she was fine then the next morning she was able to move a round and wasn’t able to respond. I rushed home from work to find her just laying there staring off into space and gasping for her last breaths I stayed by her side for a few hours then noticed she was getting worse I couldn’t stand to watch. I gave her a kiss and told her I loved her then left 10 mins later she died! I am 8 months pregnant and she wanted soooo bad to see her first great grandchild! I haven’t been able to sleep since it happened the whole thing just keeps replaying over and over in my head. To make matters worse I was in accident this morning! Things just keep getting bad. I feel so stranded I know I can’t get worked up and stressed b/c of the baby and I have been doing so good up until now I can’t hold it all back any more. I am 35 weeks pregnant and having serious cramping and back pains, I have been to the doctor and I haven’t dilated or anything but I am soo miserable and every time I get upset my belly hurts more and more along w/ my back. How am I going to get through these next 5 weeks?

Answer 1

So let me get this right, Grandma refused Chemo, lived for six months and then died, before she saw the baby you are carrying. You are upset, which is to be expected. However please answer this question because its the answer. If Grandma was still alive, still fit and healthy, would she want to see you so upset? I think not, in fact she might just give you a good talking too! Moreover reckon Grandma is somewhat annoyed knowing that you are heaping all this stress on HER first great grandchild!!!!! Grandma did not want to leave, she was taken, it was not of her doing and she would have wanted to stay to see her first great grandchild. However it was out of her control and now YOU are putting your unborn babies life at risk because you are upset. Wake up, smell the roses, some people believe that life/death is a cycle and some people have to die for others to be born. So of push came to shove and YOU had to choose, would you want Grandma or your Unborn? Grandma had her life, your unborn child has not, so I think Grandma was a very wise lady and was aware that she may have to lay down her life for her Great Grandchild's and she did just that. Now you are putting this unborn child's life at risk and all that your Grandma worked for.

Answer 2

Sweetheart I am Truely sorry! You have been through a lot the only words of wisdom i can give you is pray put it in gods hands and all will be well.