I have been dation this guy a little over a month and he says that he really loves me, but 3 weeks into this relationship we had sex, I'm not sure what to think. I have known him for about 7 years, but still. What should I do.
2007-10-29 01:42:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sit down and talk to him.let himknow your fears and agree to a time frame where the two of you will be intimate without the act of sex taking place.romance is fun and versatile experiment with and the two of you will learn so much more about each other that the sex acts can be put on hold and the two of you can form a more reliable bond of souls.dont make excuses for not wanting the whole nine yards instead share your feelings and let himknow you expect the same from him.ohand remember dont talk at him talk to him.meaning instead of blaiming or criticizing only speak with I statements and be concerned with his feelings if he can actually describe them its harder for men to do that and im not making excuses.
2007-10-29 01:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Freddy Alcatraz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 7 years, I think you know this guy well enough. Let me ask you these questions:
1. How was he in his previous relationships?
2. Is he mature enough to have a serious relationship with you?
3. After you had sex with him, have you noticed any change of behavior? Did he cool off a bit?
4. Do you really believe when he said he loves you?
5. Is he a marrying type guy?
If your answers to these questions appear to be favorable to him, stick to him. But I think you should go slow in sex.
2007-10-29 02:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lei Al 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So distrustful? I fell in love with my wife about a year before we started dating. I could have told her the first day and meant it, but I knew better than to ruin a good thing with doubt. Three weeks is reasonable. Women take longer to fall in love anyways. Just let it go for now.
And to dispute the high school issue. I was 17 when i realized I wanted her for the rest of my life. I know I was a bit atypical, but I had been looking for someone for a while. I guess most 17 year olds dont really look for someone to marry.
2007-10-29 01:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by billgoats79 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've known him for 7 years then his love should be genuine. It seems like you two embarked on a sexual relationship because it was the next step in your relationship, having a long friendship and then going into a boyfriend/girlfriend thing can be bumpy at first but since you two have known each other for so long....You should know him well enough to know if he is using you or not.
2007-10-29 02:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The usual waiting period to have sex with a partner is around 2-3 weeks. I don't see a problem and he probably does love you. If all he wanted was sex then you would have done it before 3 weeks. If he treats you right then stay with him.
2007-10-29 01:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by Nic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can touch him and make out with him without
things lending up to sex. If after you been kissing and
touching him for a while & then you just stop & say lets go out
or something. If he gets mad then he is just in this
relationship for the sex. If he doesn't get really mad then he
may really like you for who you really are and not just sex.
2007-10-29 01:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by I_R_O_N_IVI_A_N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very interesting and important question, here are some point to consider:
* do you love him?
* after having sex did his interest in you changed?
* talk with him about the future and see his reaction (like marriage, kids, living together, etc...)
* try to evaluate him in different occasion (like in his friends, at parties, etc..)
* talk with him about different topics and try to find out what his thoughts are.
I hope that this quick answer will brighten you and also protect you !
2007-10-29 02:04:11 · answer #7 · answered by Gogggy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him for a while, then see how he acts ;* if he treats you bad, or breaks up with you, or keeps trying to have sex then he just loves you for sex .. and that means you just need to leave him! Relationships arent all about sex, you can find someone who loves you for who you are & what you do ..
2007-10-29 01:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut him off lol! You can tell a lot about a man by the way he treats you no man would just call you for some pootie tang. He would care about the way you feel and your needs if you think you went to fast then chances are you probably did. You can't take back your actions. Look for the signs. his actions..
2007-10-29 01:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Butterflychick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wowwww....like others comments, stop having sex with him in about a month and will see what he gonna say or do to you. To that, you can feel it if he's really just after sex or not. Okay go ahead and try it ....Good luck!
2007-10-29 02:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by hottstuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋