today i was at work,i was talking to this guy and he mentioned about his wives pregnacy anyway i turned to him and ask if he was an christian,only because in the past he mentioned something about temptation,anyway i wasnt being forceful or anything but was just asking a general question,his answer in reply was an offence one, i looked at him and though "oh ok"
then he started firing questions at me as to why i am a christian and he disagreed but i wasnt bothered, i mean if he doesnt believe in what i do,why should i care,but if he asks about why i believe in what i do i'll tell him...in my own opinion,anyway what i found was he became extremely angry with me for no reason at all, what i dont understand is why ,all i did was ask a simple question and here he is blowing his top,i dont know him that well & what he said to me about his wife was on a really touchy subject,i then thought about it,if a person who is this hateful to god do you think its because they feel god has fail them?
2007-10-29 01:10:56 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Atheists just don't understand that we are not always trying to convert. You honestly thought he was a Christian and Christians like to talk to other Christians and thank him together. He had no idea , Just tell him that you meant no harm that you were not trying to convert him and leave it at that.
2007-10-29 03:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Personally, as an atheist, I won't become offended and attack you. But I also don't like religious talk and questions at work. Not just because I'm an atheist but because religion is a sensitive and personal issue. It has no place at work. As you said yourself, you don't know him that well, so you definately didn't know him well enough to ask such a personal question.
Besides, many atheists [and I have experienced this personally] are treated just that little differently at work when their lack of belief becomes general knowledge. I mean really, I had the one guy I worked for come and preach to me every second day, especially on mondays, about believing and being saved, blah blah blah. Its unpleasant.
Why did you want to know anyway?
2007-10-29 08:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jingizu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are like dogs. If they have been mistreated by only one person badly enough, they will bite whatever hand looks similar to the hand that hurt them so.
Even though there are many wonderful Christian (and other religious) people out there, there are also those who try to beat their religion into others. Whether it was a parent, an ex-friend or someone else in their life, it's in any human's nature to associate that hated person with the most obvious group they belong to, and religion is a big one. It's another form of stereotyping, really. If someone is lazy-minded and doesn't give any further thought, in order to forgive, they will almost always lash out at anyone presenting even a slightly simliar subject!
This particular person may not have even believed in God at all, but they were probably hateful toward you, because they assumed you were trying to force your beliefs on them. It's sad, really, and you may never be able to make them understand you, but hopefully you can understand them now. = )
2007-10-29 08:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Nénuphar 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think its because sometimes people feel that others are trying to push their beliefs on them. In my opinion from what youve said that wasnt the case here.
Currently i am undecided about what i believe. I believe there is a higher power of some sort, but thats about it. I was raised roman catholic. I have had others who have been real pushy about religion with me. And i dont like it. But, i believe "to each there own". I do not discriminate.
2007-10-29 08:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt say it *always* makes people defensive and angry. That only happens when people disagree.
I believe the reason they get so defensive and angry is because religion is a human's way of understanding the unknown. When they find confort in their beliefs, and feel as though they have a stable relationship with their higher power, many people feel threatened when others suggest their relationship is based on false information.
There are many ways to deal with a threat to their spirituality. Unfortunately, the most common reaction seems to be anger.
2007-10-29 08:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just pray for this guy.it was not what u asked it's because he is feeling insecure and yes most probably felt like God has let him down.hE IS AWARE OF GOD BUT LIKE lot of people has afear of the unknown i.e. he doesn't know God.
Deke why is it that just because Dave asked this guy a question he like a lot of us christians are pushy and abrasive.That means all Yahoo people are because we are all searching.
Deke if u read properly, Dave only asked the guy if he was a Christian because the guy mentioned temptation....which a lot of people including Christians have issues with.
This question to me shows it's time to stop being defensive and angry at each other and start LISTENING to what the other has to say.
2007-10-29 08:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mercede's Lamp 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I know what you mean. Sometimes people are defensive because they have the type of personality where they must be heard and believed. Some people just can not stand others not believing the way that they do.
Also, sounds like he thought you were going to challenge his religious beliefs because he admitted sin had crept into his heart. Doesn't seem like you were going there, but he jumped on the defensive because he felt ashamed and didn't want you to go there.
Just know, not everyone is defensive. If someone is secure and knows who they are in Christ, they won't allow someone asking questions or even challenging their beliefs.
2007-10-29 08:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by Indya M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You did nothing wrong that I can see. You were being respectful and trying to see how you could help him. If he asked what he should do and you did not ask about his religious views, then you telling him to pray about it would be offensive. If you assumed he had no faith and told him "Don't worry about it, it's just nature's way of getting rid of a fetus that wouldn't have formed properly." then that would be offensive if he did have faith. I think he was emotionally distraught at the time and got angry at you because you were there. He is dealing with a great loss and it is difficult for him. It is even more difficult when you have nothing to lean on to get you through!
2007-10-29 09:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The appropriate time to ask about his religious beliefs -- or lack thereof -- was at the time you and he discussed the matter in an earlier conversation. Suddenly bringing up Christianity during a conversation about his wife's pregnancy suggests you make an association between the right to have a family and belief in God (which is not your intention). So while your motive was good, you sent the wrong message. I suggest you sincerely apologize and explain you did not mean to offend him.
2007-10-29 09:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This question is impossible to answer because you seem to have left out some big parts of the story, mainly...what has religion got to do with his wife's pregnancy? You also say he is hateful to God, this is not supported by your story, he is just angry at you (for whatever reason also not mentioned).
2007-10-29 08:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by M3 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋