Im trying to write out my wedding invatations, as my partner and i already have our home set up we would pefer guests to give us money instead of gifts how do i write this on to the invites?
2007-10-29 00:39:03 · 18 answers · asked by jenni04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't expect them to give me anything them coming to my wedding is more than enough!
2007-10-29 01:06:15 · update #1
Nearly everyone who attends a wedding reception gives a wedding gift. Yet etiquette requires us to pretend that we do not expect gifts. So there is no way to include any information about gifts on the invitation.
Before 'rsvp cards' were invented, we did rsvps by phone and didn't have this problem. Invite recipients would call and ask about what to wear, ask what gift the couple might like, and so on. During a telephone RSVP, guests can't pretend to not understand who is and is not welcome, a huge advantage over the printed cards. (Further advantages are that you don't pay for the cards, you don't pay for postage for them.)
My suggestion is that you include a phone number beneath or beside the 'rsvp' in the lower right. You don't have to take or make all those calls personally; friends and family can help. Make sure your helpers are prepared to say things like "They're registered at Macy's, but I know they'd welcome contributions to their honeymoon fund" and "Dressy church clothes" and "They'd love to meet your friend, I'm sure, but the wedding is only for people they already know and care about."
Congrats & best wishes.
2007-10-29 01:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to go about this is, don't write anything about it on the invitations. Just tell some people close to you (your mom, sister, etc..) that you would prefer money instead of gifts.
When your guests can't find your registered anywhere they will most likely call your family and ask them what is the best gift for you. Word of mouth is the best way.
Or you could set up a wedding website, and discreetly ask for money in lieu of gifts.
2007-10-29 02:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Hillary1034 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be NO mention of gifts on yoru invitation. That's crass and rude. An invitation should be just that, not an invoice.
The only appropiate way of informing your guest of yoru preference, is through word of mouth. Let the bridal party and your family spread the word. You can also do it only if you are asked directly by a guest, but never EVER on paper. Also, you can do this on your wedding website uf any. Do not register anywhere and that ussually send your guests a hint.
Good luck
2007-10-29 03:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to TheKnot.com the correct answer to that is tell those that are in the wedding party and your parents or anyone else you trust to help that you prefer money. They will then relay the message without saying that your asking them to do so. Expecting a gift is rude, but most people give a gift of some sort and want it to be something you can really use and appreciate so the guests will then happliy give a monetary gift.
hope that helped.
2007-10-29 02:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is always a sticky situation. I would think by not including wedding registry information, a great deal will give a monetary gift. Everything else that you get, you will just have to return.
It would not hurt to let some of your wedding party know that you do not need anything for your house. They can spread the word then when people ask.
2007-10-29 03:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by vaya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its supposed to be an invitation not a bleedin' bill! honestly if you do not expect them to give you anything why are you being so ignorant as to ask them for money?
some people take rudeness to a whole new level, sadly you are one of them!
most guests will give you money as they are well aware you are already shacked up and the wedding is just for show, [and gifts].
2007-10-29 17:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got married Sept. 29th. My husband and I were in the same boat you are. We've been living together for going on 4 years and we didn't need anything, so money was the big thing. We decided to put nothing on the invite, and as it turns out we got only a couple of gifts and the rest was money. (it was a 200 ppl or more wedding)
2007-10-29 03:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by amrolraml 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A friend of mine didnt want any presents so she has a card box set up at the wedding to drop cards in and in the wedding invites she wrote that as they lived together there was nothing they need but if anyone wanted to give them a present, they could make a donation in her and her hubbys name to a charity and they listed 5 charities they support. Thats a nice idea. x
2007-10-29 02:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't!
If you really feel like them coming to your wedding is enough, then you should not feel compelled to write anything on the invite about gifts, monetary or otherwise!
2007-10-29 05:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by valschmal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it on as a side note. Like if you are having a wedding shower... You don't necessarily need to have one to get gifts, just a get together before the wedding. Explain on the invite that gifts are not needed as you already have most of what you need.
Something like ''As we are already settled into our home we are happy at this time not be in need of household items.."
Most people will give money, it is easier then trying to pick out an item..
On your invite you can really just say 'an account has been set up at (your bank) for guest to make a gift donation".
No it is not in bad taste...
2007-10-29 01:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 6⤋