I really thought he liked me, I seriously did. He's been ignoring me for over a week now. He asked me out. On Saturday I saw him in the night club and he ignored me there too. I'm so hurt. I lost my virginity to this guy and now i'm being treated like this. All the money I spent on him. Well I wanted to buy him things so I blame myself for that. But how can someone do this to another person?
2007-10-28 23:50:16 · 14 answers · asked by FIERCE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lesson learned.
There are a lot of bad guys out there looking to get laid. They don't care about you. Once you give them what they want, they move on.
This guy is history, so don't waste any more time on him. He's a sleezebag who just wanted to add you to his list.
Next time, don't be so quick to have sex with a guy. If he's really into you the person, he'll be fine with waiting until you get to know each other a little.
Don't blame yourself. The only thing you're guilty of is being naive. He knew that and took advantage of you, so most of the blame falls squarely on him.
2007-10-28 23:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh poor honey. the truth is we are all using eachother to get ourselves good feelings!
you gave this guy a good feeling when he gained your trust enough for you to give yourself to him sexually for the first time. and hopefully it felt good for you too girl!
but then somehow along the way it changed. see what they don't teach you in school is how to deal with these incredible bonding/clingy feelings that set in when you have sex.
the bottom line is that it was probably a bigger deal for you than for him (one day when you have had a bit more experience you will be able to relate to this even if you can't right now.)
the other thing is that you sort of immediately went nuts for him, buying him stuff and probably being super-keen. I guess you were hoping for an emotional pay-off from that, i.e. the more things i buy him and the nicer i am, the more he will like me, and the more happy emotions i will feel from him liking me.
but the truth is that too much sort of smothering love can be offputting to guys and they run a mile.
it is important to keep some sort of 'edge' in a relationship and never to sort of dump down into it losing yourself in the process.
he is not WRONG not to...not want to be with you any more, he is just making a choice (hard when it's not the choice you want him to make.)
just as you will not be WRONG if you ever turn down a guy, even one that you were previously keen on and you changed your mind later.
so just say to the universe, if not him, then someone better!
the next guy will be even better, trust me, because this current guy is now the benchmark.
2007-10-29 00:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by meteorite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was either using you,
or you acted too needy by buying him
all the gifts and that made him lose interest.
In my life, I have made the mistake of buying
multiple gifts, being too "nice",
basically putting the girl up on a pedestal
only to have my heart broken.
In hindsight, it was largely my fault
for smothering them and not being confident.
Of-course since he was your first time sexually
I could understand why you were that way
towards him. I'm sorry that you got hurt baby!
2007-10-29 00:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by andybosik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sorry those things are day to day affairs.its not news. Guys en girls are all wasted.
My only advice to is never to go whole heartedly. Better develop a third personality within you that checks on what your doing. If you cant get get a friend how calls a spade a spade. that one will assist you such that when you go into something you dont blame yourself
2007-10-29 00:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by christian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly it's very easy to use people this way. He probably thought all his Christmases had come at once!
He is a jerk, and sweetheart, the best thing you can do is put it behind you and move on. Chalk it down to experience, and in future don't let someone into your knickers just because THEY like YOU - they don't get in there unless YOU like THEM!
2007-10-28 23:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk. Find somebody else.I know it will be hard since you lost your virginity to him. But after time, you will get over it and find someone else that will love you for more than just sex. Good luck!
2007-10-28 23:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by supermanno4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What'd he do exactly? You guys had consensual sex. You decided to buy him things. You guys bought separate ways into the night club. What has he done to you? He's just living his life, you should do the same.
2007-10-29 00:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly...there are really people (no, humanoids) like that...
they give love a bad name really and they breed bitter people
(no, humanoids...well, ex humans).
These are mindless, heartless humanoids...the world would definitely be a better place to live in without these species.
Sorry to learn about your experience....don't worry you'll come out a stronger person after that...if you learned from that experience...i hope you did.
2007-10-29 00:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me it happens, and you are not the only one it has happened to. Some people just have no conscious, or sense of decency.
2007-10-29 00:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just completely morally corrupt.
2007-10-28 23:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by bellbottombleus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋