Why do so many women seem afraid of sex and pleasure?

Question

I see so many women talking about how they never want sex, or their partner wants it too much etc etc. WHY? Don't they KNOW how good it is? What is wrong with them, how can they go through life without sexual pleasure? I pity them so much. Also they are annoying, they need to educate themselves, I think, but can anyone tell me WHY someone would be this way, it doesn't make sense!

Btw I think one of you thinks I'm a man, I'm not, I'm a woman and a sexually liberated one thank all the gods.

WTF YOU DUMMIES READ THE QUESTION I'm not a man!!

For the person who said 'maybe they were abused', well I've been there and had the black eyes and bruises to prove it, so don't give me that.

I just want to know why in this day and age a lot of girls are being too stupid and weak to give themselves the pleasure they deserve.

Answer 1

A woman may know the joy and pleasure, but they at the same time know that there may be consequences for them such as pregnancy or STD's. No form of birth control will totally eliminate either of these.

Answer 2

I would say a fear of letting someone get close to you, and also disappointment as being one reason.
Also, society does put pressure on women not to be promiscuous...however it is different for a man.
I agree with some of what you say, to a point. Sex is awesome and mind blowing. However to abuse something that is meant to be an act between two people that are connected I believe makes the whole act in itself numbing. I can say that I have the most incredible sex life...and its because I have a deep, physical, intellectual connection with my boyfriend...it has been the most breathtaking experience/relationship of my life. And, the wonderful thing is, he feels the same way about me. For what it's worth, I would not pity these people for having different views than what you have expressed here. Perhaps your view needs to be explored, because sex isn't all about what feels good at the moment. It stems from having a relationship on many other different levels as well. And, when all of these levels connect, you have the most amazing relationship. Good luck.

Answer 3

That's pretty insensitive. Maybe they were raped. Maybe as a child, their father, mother, brother, uncle, some family member sexually abused them. I don't know if you know this but something like that has the ability to cause a lifetime of problems in the area of love making. Maybe their partner is a lousy lover and they don't want to have sex with them. Maybe men and women are different species and have different sex drives, one may want more than the other. Maybe some women have never had an orgasm and no, they don't know how good it is. Maybe they simply don't enjoy it. Maybe not every one gives into the desires of the flesh for a few moments of pleasure. In any case, why do you care?

Answer 4

I think you are totally off base! Women know exactly what
they want in the "sex" arena! They are savy and "cunning"
and will manipulate when they wish-good or bad! If you
doubt this go check out all the porn on the web (knowing that
most of it "fixed" by "directors-never the less, they are "at it")!
Also, they have been subtly indoctrinated by the lib movements for decades and the fact is in many advertisments-a subliminal thingy...it is there! Yea, and that
goes for the male also these days..it's a "ball" out there, ho!

Answer 5

People who can't read annoy me.

But i think one of the main reasons is because unlike guys, women don't support eachother on this matter. If a guy were to say to his friends "oh, i just had sex with this lovely woman, it was great" they would all be cool with that.

So i think it is down to fear of being branded a 5lut or easy by their friends or relatives. It has nothing to do with holding yourself high and having dignity.

Sex is lifes greatest pleasure, if you don't enjoy it now, you're missing out, this isn't a dress rehersal, when you're gone, you're gone, you don't get to do it again.

Answer 6

oh, so you're a woman, huh? is that so? if so, then why do you insist on LYING about how sex is to you? women do not want, need, or desire sexual activity with guys at all whatsoever. guys want, need, and desire sexual activity with women, but vice versa is not the case at all. if you, or any other woman, actually WANTED sex so f#cking much, you and other women would actually PURSUE guys for it, and you would deem the majority of guys good enough for it. afterall, guys pursue sexual activity with women, and they deem the majority of women good enough for it. you talk about women getting the sex and pleasure they deserve, but what about guys getting the sex and pleasure they deserve? guys want and desire sex and pleasure with women FAR MORE than vice versa. guys getting the woman or women that they want sexual activity with, and succeeding at it, should be taken into consideration moreso than vice versa, because although women might like sex with guys to some degree, they don't like it or enjoy it with them anywhere near as much as vice versa, and women don't need it with guys, but guys need it with women. guys would rather take their own lives than knowingly go their whole lives without sex with women whereas women could be perfectly content going their whole lives without sex with guys. if guys and women never had sex with each other for life for some reason, guys would be killing themselves over it, and if women would ant to kill themselves as well, it wouldn't be due to the total voidance of sex with members of the opposite sex, which was why the guys would've killed themselves, it would be due to women feeling extremely sad and feeling much sorrow over all the guys who killed themselves. who are you to say that women DO like sex, when the reality is that women have often wrongfully turned guys down for sexual activity with them for no reason? women should do the right thing by giving guys sexual opportunities with them out of compassion, because again, even though women don't need it with guys, guys need it with women.
if you are a sexy woman, and you look sexy in a bikini, then how about you give guys sexual opportunities with you, instead of you wrongfully turning them down for sex with you for no reason, if you indeed have wrongfully turned guys down for sex with you for no reason? women don't want or need foreplay or sex with guys, but guys want and need foreplay and sex with women, so women should give guys sexual opportunities with them out of compassion.

Answer 7

It's because of two simple things:
1.) Social stigma, and
2.) Fear of loss/failure

Women on the whole don't get the freedom to conduct themselves as cavalierly as men do and if they do, there's a good chance they could get into physical or psychological/emotional trouble from the repercussions. Men tend to push the envelope and find their limitations to a greater degree than most women do.

Answer 8

I think its how they seek it out, thats the problem.
You said that your sexually liberated, thats great.
Now how do you achive that kind of pleasure?
As for me and most men we don't like our gals using toys.
It's a big dis for men when you think about it.
The other deal is that most men don't want to please their gals, so its a lose lose.
So they get that idea in their head.
Now there are lots of things about men if you read that is quite amazing, Proven fact, all men can multi orgasm.
So as you said you just have to educate and enjoy.
Communication and education, what relationships are missing.
Have a great day

Answer 9

oh, there is 10,000 years of brainwashing attached to this subject. did you know that in the past a woman would be put to death for committing adultery but for a man it was not a crime! so women who enjoy sex have been sort of... pilloried by society and only the strongest types are able to have a lot of sex, enjoy it, and not have any guilt or negative programming attached. ( i proudly see myself in that category.) I agree, sex is soo good, and until you can mentally get rid of all the angst attached, it probably won't be that good. parents, church, society, medical industry, all brainwash us that a lot of sex is 'bad' but i seriously think it is part of life, like going for a walk or having breakfast. there is so much research to back up how healthy it is for people (connecting with others, living longer, happier, etc.)

also a lot of women partner up not with a guy who is hottt and they want to have mad sex with, but a guy who is able to 'provide for them'. I can also relate to this as a woman who enjoys sex with men she is attracted to - and i don't pick these guys from the size of their bank balance or their job but from how virile, attractive and compatible they are.

guys pick women for looks a lot.....women pick men for a wide range of qualities, some of them being less important than looks. so it would follow that it would be more common that the guy ends up with a woman who doesn't reallllly feel that attracted to him, but a guy would not usually pick a woman he is not attracted to.

Answer 10

Yawn