I moved to N/Y aba a year ago and i have been dating this boy
from my country for some time now... its like a long distance relationship thingy. I like him alot n i no he likes me too..... the thing is he doesn't call me or contact me at all. I always do the calling and sometimes send him messages and stuff like that n he doesn't even bother to REPLY! This kinna creates some doubts in my mind....
Do you think I'm over reacting?
2007-10-28 23:34:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't know your age..........so its hard to give great advice............. but i am guessing you are young. so i am going to state.......its very hard to have a long distance relationship. keep it as friends because you are in a new place to make new friends & have a closer deserving relationship.
if he misses you , he will call and email first. but smartest thing is to KEEP HIM as friend only and move on to better times in NY
2007-10-28 23:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by 4tonianne (on ebay) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in all honesty, though i wouldn't know much seeing that i'm only 17, i think you're wasting your time. i've tried a long distance relationship. my ex was 5 hours away from me and the only time we saw each other was at conventions, which was once a year. it didn't work out.for the simple fact, which is just like your ex, i needed someone there at all times. that way if i'm crying and hurt he's there to comfort me. not hundreds of miles away. i was hurt when i broke up with him, but i just couldn't handle watching couples walking around holding hands and kissing, and my boyfriend was so far away, and i was always left wondering if i would ever see him. so i say just move on. the right will come. you'll see.
2016-05-25 23:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting. A long distance relationship takes communication, trust and honesty from the BOTH of you. Since he isn't replying then there must be something wrong and you need to find out whats going on. I've been in a long distance relationship for 4 years he is in Germany and i am in the U.S. You need to stop contacting him and only send him one message. Tell him that you won't bother him anymore and that he can contact you. I hope things work out, let me know if you have anymore questions.
2007-10-29 12:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been in the Navy for about four years now. We've been married for three and seperated for the entire time. We've always talked, written, emailed, IM, whatever as often as we could. Long distance relationships take a lot of effort from both parties and believe me, if my husband didn't want to get married, he wouldn't have spent so much money on calling cards. We both put forth equal effort to stay in touch every single day. If he's not putting in any effort, he's not interested and you should just move on. It's sad to say but ask anybody who's been in a LDR for more than a year.
2007-10-28 23:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by gyoza1216 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way are you over reacting! It sounds like he is not that into you. He is probably with someone else. Thats with long distance relationships, you just don't know exactly what is going on over their and who is hanging out with. I would find someone else in Ny that you can be with whenever and will be their for you, reply to your messages and actually call you. Best of luck.
2007-10-28 23:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by supermanno4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu should be having doubts in your mind. I'm sorry to break it to you, but you really need to move on if he's not making a large effort to show you he wants to keep it going. You deserve love that is clearly shown and not in doubt. He's probably sowing some wild oats by now, so don't hang on, and don't complain to him that he' s not responding. You want someone who doesn't need your prompting to reply. you want him to reply because he wants to, not because you want him to. So, don't prolong this, it's time to drop the bomb and move on. Lay off for a while and see what the does, and if he doesn't show up with flowers and a ring, he's history.
2007-10-28 23:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by topink 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better clear you doubts by paying him a surprise visit. Then you'll be able to talk to him in person and understand him more.
Ask all the whys.........and from all the answers I'm sure you can deduce , analyse and conclude whether this type of relationship is worth your doubts.
2007-10-28 23:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by Snowy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here. : (
the question is are you willing to stick it out or not?
Sure there are plenty more fish in the sea, but are you in love with this one.
I'mm in the same situation, and sometimes I feel like he's trying to cut me off and move on, but I ain't gonna let him off that lightly.
He is my boyfriend till I hear otherwise, and I won't be the first to turn my back on him. And if he does let the distance break us up, he better be ready for the pounding he will recieve. >.<
2007-10-28 23:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by Answerer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question I think. The guy doesn't care that much or he would reply. You seem to have come across the big drawback to long distance relationships.
Get over it, find someone new - good luck!
2007-10-28 23:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by cuddlyclaud 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not over reacting... the guy is not that much bothered with you..probably he wishes you go away..
but because of the relationship ,he probably feels guilty if he was to brake it off...
2007-10-28 23:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by JJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋