Depends on that situation of his divorce. How long was he married. Are there kids involved. That sorta thing. If the divorce and aftermath were hard on him, it could take years to get over. Its hard to say. I doubt he's playing games, divorce is a hard thing to go thru and you need mental healing to get over things and adjust to your new status. He hasn't given himself time (it sounds like) to adjust to be a single guy again.
If he needs room, give it to him for awhile. If you care about him, it shouldn't be a problem and he'll appraciate you later for it and seem a happier person.
2007-10-28 23:28:52
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answered by Anonymous
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Well, you're the one in the best position to know.
I don't know why he would be playing games, but you don't have to play along with him. If he isn't interested in what you want (commitment etc), then you are better off to part company now. It isn't necessarily anyone's fault, but if you want more than he can give, staying or hoping isn't going to help.
Develop your interests, skills, talents, work etc. Enjoy your life, and start becoming the woman you want to be. Either your boyfriend will have a change of heart, or he won't. Either you'll take him back, or you won't. In whatever situation, you will be a stronger, better, more successful person, and that is definately attractive to other people around you.
2007-10-28 23:29:06
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answered by Ruby G 2
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He just went through a divorce? Were you with him while he was going through this divorce? Statistically, LESS than 5% of relationships born out of affairs last. If he wants space give it to him. It doesn't sound like a head game to me, sounds like he wants out of your relationship to see what else is out there.
2007-10-28 23:29:12
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answered by bellbottombleus 1
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sometimes when there is someone just coming out of a divorce then they want to "sow their oats" so to speak and just kinda go out have their fun . it don't mean they wanna go out and get laid all the time but maybe he just wants to know what hes been missing . if you are really worried about this then talk to him ask him if its is just ta temporary thing or if you should start trying to move to with your life. don't let him give you the run around tell him you need a definite answer .
2007-10-28 23:38:29
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answered by lilbluemaninmyhead 2
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Yep - its a head F*ck. He wants to be able to play the field and look for something else.
Let him go gracefully - he may have been grateful for the support you might have shown him through his divorce, but sounds like the moment is over.
Sorry.
2007-10-28 23:41:14
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answered by ? 5
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Not really, it sounds like he just needs some time. I've seen that with a lot of guys who've been through bad breakups/divorces.
2007-10-28 23:27:12
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answered by Jane T 2
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You were his rebound relationship. He needs to feel free again. Just move on and give him the space he needs, or he will just cheat on you. He is not ready for a relationship yet. He needed you to get over her.
2007-10-28 23:27:46
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answered by PEGGY S 7
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You have known him all your life and dated for 9 months...NOW, he wants to see whats out there...ok...whats her name? When did he met her? It sounds as if someone has caught his eye and he wants to move on to new pastures.
2007-10-28 23:28:58
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answered by MissBarcelona 3
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Let him go now or forever hold your peace. If u do get married and he is not happy you will be part of the ex wives club.
2007-10-28 23:28:03
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answered by misscapula 2
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If he says that he needs space to find-out
what's out there, then he's not that into you.
You need to date other people and move-on.
2007-10-28 23:28:15
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answered by andybosik 5
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