I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now.
We are moving, and his room at his mothers is a disaster area. We are getting married soon and it needed cleaned.
He's upset because I found condoms stored in his room that he used with another woman, and I tossed them in the garbage. Then I found a picture of his ex (a different one) and her kids and I tossed them in the garbage.
I also tossed some candles that came in a pack with some 'love lotion' that he got from one of his girlfriends.
He says that he should now be allowed to toss anything he wants of my previous relationship including pictures of my kids.
I don't think that is appropriate and I told him so.
I feel that I am in the right because I've asked him over six months ago to get rid of these things and have asked him several times.
Its not like I just went on a rampage. I feel I gave him suitable time to get rid of this crap and I think it should not have been there for me to find to begin with.
2007-10-28 22:38:38 · 13 answers · asked by FawneMine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The condoms were not 'used' ones, but they were a new pack with several missing. It was obvious he's used them with another woman since I am sterile.
2007-10-28 23:36:29 · update #1
Some people like to keep mementos from the past just for memories, not because they still carry a flame and want to be with that person. The exes are exes for a reason. I think maybe it was a little out of line for you to throw his things away. Sorry, but I'm just being honest.
Turnabout is fair play. If he had to get rid of his past "stuff", its only right that you get rid of yours too. With the exception of pictures of your kids. Thats just ridiculous.
2007-10-28 22:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by ?huh? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What??? Are you sure you are willing to get married to a jerk like that???
Come on, he is already cheating on you before marriage and treats you like rubbish...
This gust collects women like trophies and that’s why he wouldn’t get rid of these kinds of thinks...
Just imagine, collecting condoms he had used with other women...
Come on, you shall not be that desperate and marry such a jerk... any woman deserves much better than that.
Just imagine your married life with him… if I were you, I would at least think seriously over the whole thing before most probably committing a huge mistake and getting married with somebody who is most obviously addicted to sex and womanising.
2007-10-29 06:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question should be would I put up with your crap. What are you his mother? He's about to marry you not some stupid picture of some ex and her kids you had no right trashing his belongings, he's a grown man he knows how to throw trash away. You gave him suitable time...okay BOSS!
2007-10-29 05:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am afraid you are "bang out of order" on this one.
You have no right to decide what your boyfreind keeps from previous parts of his life. Considering you have "the full nine yards" of children from your previous relationship, does the phrase "people in glass houses" come to mind, or "kettle calling the teapot black"?
I think a heartfelt apology is called for, (yes, by you).
2007-10-29 05:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is a lil wrong of u to throw away his stuff. if anyone wants to throw them, it shud b himself. he has a right be angry now.
keeping stuff of ex-es does not mean anything. some ppl jus like keeping fond memories. everyone shud b given some private space.
u shud haf told him or asked him if u were going to throw away his stuff in the 1st plc.
sorry, can't agree on this one.
2007-10-29 05:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by kelleia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, why doesn't he have any rights for his own memories? i think he is right - he has a right to toss in a garbage anything of yours now. and what is that with u cleaning his room in his mommy's house? what re u, 14 or smth?
2007-10-29 05:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should be allowed to throw out stuff relating to your ex's, but not if the pics are JUST of your kids or whatever, it is not their fault!
He should have got rid of all the stuff from his ex's, you gave him ample warning, but I think you should have told him you were doing it before you did it.
2007-10-29 05:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by myleslr 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The key words "His Things" You should have handed them to him, and let him decide what to do with them. How would you feel if he started throwing away all of your memories? He doesn't have to still care about them to still have memories.
2007-10-29 05:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Murder him and become a psychopath. Buy a mask and a machete. Go on a killing spree.
2007-10-29 05:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mason Haynes 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Insecure much?
2007-10-29 05:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by bxx4real 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋