ok, im 18, and i know i know there more fish in the sea, and i know he's not the only guy on the planet, im bery aware of that... but i dont know anymore... we've only been together for 4 months... and we've broken up about 3 times. but its more then that after we had been togetehr for like a month and a half i found out i was preg by him and he took full responsiblity for it and was going to marry me, and take care of his baby any everything, when a week ago i foud out that i lost it... so he thought i was lieing about the whole thing... we've BOTH cheated on each other, both where when we hated each other (fighting) though... but its not just bad times, its just the way when im tired and he's fully awake he'll take little naps with me, and how he always reminds me of everything, and how he just seems so perfect, we seem to connect so well, i'd hate to lose that... i've never had it befor,but i just don't know if its worth it anymore... PLEASE HELP ME!!!
2007-10-28 22:05:40 · 15 answers · asked by sassydylan16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh please let it go neither one of you are ready for a steady relationship. You have your whole life ahead of you. Dont waste anymore time on that.
2007-10-28 22:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont think all relationships start of perfect and far from what you see in the movies. If he doesn't believe you then it might be a good idea to move on, but if he has a right to be suspicious, put yourself in his shoes. You know 100% of what you do he doesn't. Just as you dont know 100% what he does. You guys are young and dating is a learning process. Know one on here can tell you want to do. Your heart and head will have to come to an agreement, lol! the only thing I can say is you dont need to bring a baby into this world, not yet anyway. So seek out a relieable protection. And take it one day at a time. If you give up you may always wonder what would have happen, and should it end. At least you can say you tried. Have your closure and move the hell on, lol! Please don't let yourself be used or settle for anything less then the BEST, as I like to say, "life is too short to settle"! Good luck sweetie!, eww, that made me sound really old! Good luck gurl, thats better!!!
2007-10-29 05:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by Peas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 18 years old. You have been with a guy for four months and BOTH of you have cheated in that short a time? You both need to take a big deep breath and stop being so frantic. Calm the hell down, even your question is frantic! If you are together, relax, take a walk, stop revving up. Smile, lay in the sun and talk, tell the truth, do it better. You are not little kids anymore.
2007-10-29 05:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have broken up 3 times in 4 months, it is probably not a good relationship. You may be dependent on him, but that is not love.
If you plan to stay, start using some sort of protection. You don't want to end up raising a child as a single parent. That is exactly where you are headed. Even if you got married, you would probably end up divorced with the way you keep breaking up.
2007-10-29 05:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him fade as a boyfriend, but try and remain friends. Its obviously not going to ever be pure between you two, with infidelity at only a few months into this. Take some time apart and think about how great all the things you love about him would be if they were wrapped in trust. Find a fresh start with someone else.
Good luck!!
2007-10-29 05:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa...I think the two of you are caught up in an infactuation. The best solution is giving yourselves room to grow. Anything that isn't growing is dead. The two of you are killing each other. Now you are only 18 yrs old and you've already lost a baby. That is alot to deal with at such a young age. I know that attention that he gives you is none like you have every experienced but, the two of you need to love yourselves before you can come together and seriously be together. You need to focus on healing self. You are crying out for help and attention because you need to focus on yourself and he needs to focus on yourself. I'm telling you there will be better days. Maybe with the two of you together and maybe not but, DON'T SELL YOURSELF SHORT. IT IS NOT WORTH IT. DON'T WASTE TIME TRYING TO MAKE SOMETHING WORK THAT PROBABLY IS NOT MEANT TO BE RIGHT NOW. THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT IT WON'T COME BACK TOGETHER LATER ON. YOU NEED SOME "ME" TIME.
2007-10-29 05:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your lost! I had a miscarriage too! You both cheated on each other? That's hard thing to deal with! You both need a break from each other! If its meant to be, You two will get back together! I know how you feel! The father of my child is the same way! I feel that we both had a connect, It hap pend so fast! we both love each other, But he cheated on ME! I tried to be the STRONG one, But its hard to do that! If you think it worth to FIGHT for him, Go for it! But be careful, Because if he cheated on you once he may do it again! And again I'm So Sorry For Your Lost! Just think about it! Work on yourself First, Then worry about him, Your First! Always Remember That! I hope everything work out for you!
2007-10-29 05:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your gut (stomach) say? Notice I didn't say heart or head?
A gut feeling is usually more accurate than the heart and head as they will reason and play tricks on you. I don't know why but usually my gut feelings are always right, maybe because it is located in the center of our bodies lol, I don't know why.
Try this...go somewhere alone, clear your mind completely, don't think of the good times or the bad times with him but simply ask yourself this question out loud...
"Should I stay with "name" or not?" (or whatever your question is).
What's the first thing your gut says to you? Either it was a yes or a no. Within seconds, your head and heart will start taking over to reason and do it's thing on you, so what you do with the info is up to you.
2007-10-29 05:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your very young age of i8 years old, you should have a lot of things to accomplish as a young woman, not to be a wife or a mother of a kid. But what can we do its there already, but I would say it is not yet too late to have a good life.
If you really decide that you want to stick with that guy and live like a couple, well it is your own decision. My advice to you is this, with your kind of relationship I don't think you could have a happy relationship together because as you have said in your early relationship you had broken up for 3 times already, for me this is sign of unstable relationship with each other.
My dear, its not to late to think twice before deciding to stick with him, but if you really do like and love the guy, please avoid first having a child with him for the moment until you are sure with him. Life with kids is not easy. You are still very young and there are still more opportunities you can have,. God loves you so much that if you will just ask his guidance he will give you what is best for you. Please take care of yourself and I will include you in my prayers. Good luck and God Bless you!
2007-10-29 05:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by EDRO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm sounds like me what i been thru, but i didnt lost the baby..and now my baby is 2yrs old. and yes we both been thru that fightin with each other like crazy as if we hated each other soo much and yes we both did cheated on each other ,the worst thing is i cheated on him when i was preg and i didnt know that i was preg then he found out the whole thing went chaos between me and him.. ....but soon after all the fightin and hating...we soon settle and trust each other. when i gave birth to my son..cause no matter how much fight or anger we have towards each other deep inside we both know we love each other and we wouldnt wanna leave each other..
But what im trying to say here is that if you love the person so much that you wouldnt wanna let him go then you hold on to it and fight for it...ppl will tell you their are other guys...but this one you have right now is just one of a kind to you...so hold on to it....but if he doesnt wanna seem to be with you then i think its time for you to let go cause theres no sense anymore on holding on to someone who is not there anymore....
Relationship are like that esp in serious commitment ones you will fight and make up...you will hate him and then end up loving him more...its very emotionally...in these situation...and there very challenging..its something everyone will go thru...and something you both have to fight it thru together as a team...
2007-10-29 05:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, ill tell u what u should do and what ur gunna do... u should break it off as fast as u can, theres a difference between bad and worst. you are going to stay with him until u find someone better. Thats what will happen, if it where ur true perfect match love, u wouldnt be questioning and ****. no matter what anyone says here ur gunna fo what you want... if i were u id stay until someone better pops. remember this guy is OK, but somone will save u from ur damnation. and if they dont then this guys ok anyways.
2007-10-29 05:29:50 · answer #11 · answered by Eddy N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋