heartbroken?

Question

my friend has three daughters,twins fourteen and one is six. the twins just came forward with allegations of sexual abuse against her now former boyfriend. when he tried to return to their home recently i responded and threw him off the property. the six year old now is is aggressive toward me for being "mean" to her "daddy". when i talked to her about it she told me that she was aware of what happened to her sisters(quite explicit) but didn't care because she loves him. she went on to tell me that even if he had done it to her she would still want him to be her daddy and that she was mad at her sisters also. she still comes to me for comfort but then turns sometimes and attacks me physically. what is going on?!? was she abused also? what do we do? cps is already involved of course, but the d.a. is taking their time and the guy is still hovering around free to continue his manipulation over this family. in the meantime we are trying to start the healing but the system is letting us dwn

Answer 1

How horrible.

I think the adults need to completely sympathize with the six year old when she misses her "daddy", and show a certain amount of sadness that he had to go. Regardless of what she says, a six year old cannot comprehend how badly he hurt her sisters, but you still need to tell her so.

Heaven knows what might have happened to her, but now is not likely to be a good time for a non-professional to try to unravel that. Maybe "nothing" happened to her, but the fact that she can be "explicit" is harm enough. Perhaps she was abused also, probably under the guise of being "specially loved". Alternately seeking you and rejecting you seems understandable either way, because her life is pretty confusing to her now.

Forgive me, but I wonder if it is too soon for another man to become part of her family.

Answer 2

the little six year old girl, does not understand. She is just a child. She will understand the older she gets. All she needs now is counselling and understanding.
Your friend should also go to a counsellor and if the system is letting you down like you say, try going to a church.
I hope everything goes well for you and your friend's family.

Answer 3

File an injunction in court to take immediate actions in the case and prevent the visitation to stop harassment and healing which could change the course of the case.